Sending a thank you/feedback PM after session... appreciated or creepy?

I hope it isn't creepy...

I always thank a woman who has shared time with me, whether I pay for it or not. I am not a great texter but I send one thanking her if she made me feel great, which is pretty often.

No harm done. If it pleases some to send thank you texts to someone they just payed more than 10 times what they themselves earn per hour for 30-60 minutes of pretty easy work then so be it.

Yes I said it. Unless we're talking about a High volume provider who is wearing herself out or one who is providing against her will having sex is easy work.

A provider friend of mine defines it as ridiculously easy and fun with the occasional exception of having to clean up after some guy who pees all over the toilet/floor at her incall or who is gross by nature. Otherwise it's as easy as having sex.

The risks that are involved in the hobby such as NSNC's, ripoffs and weirdos is shared by both sides equally so that shouldn't factor in as an excuse for calling the job anymore worth the high costs.

Thank you for showing up and doing the job I hired you to do. I am so grateful.

I am so grateful. Originally Posted by Codybeast

Yes. Me too.

And I have no problem with thanking a lady for holding up her part of our agreement: I provide the money, she provides the talent.

It's the smallest of courtesies. The tiniest gift. An acknowledgement.

I so like to receive them. To be surprised. A goodbye touch, or look. A smile. A giggle. Moments of humanity that live above the hobby.

So fuckin' sue me.

I always send a thank you text or pm. If not right after later the same day.

Yes. Me too.

And I have no problem with thanking a lady for holding up her part of our agreement: I provide the money, she provides the talent.

It's the smallest of courtesies. The tiniest gift. An acknowledgement.

I so like to receive them. To be surprised. A goodbye touch, or look. A smile. A giggle. Moments of humanity that live above the hobby.

So fuckin' sue me. Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

+1

I really don't understand you mongers that think just because you paid for a service you should not thank the provider. Does the same apply to your servers that do an excellent job, your doctor, your barber, that cute bartender at Twin Peaks, the friendly casher at Home Depot, or your lawyer when he bails your ass out of jail. They are all just doing their job, right!

I'll change my opinion about mongers sending thank-you texts to providers when providers start doing the same for clients.

When was the last time any of you received a text after the fact from a hot looking in-demand provider thanking you for having selecting her out of a whole bunch of other candidates?

I've received thank-you texts for having written reviews but never for having simply booked said provider.

I've also had numerous providers suggest we hang out together real word because of chemistry between us and that they liked who I was as a person. As a result I have a few real world provider friends. Others I passed on because they were drama magnets.

I think the whole one sided aspect of it implies the provider is doing you the favor by taking your money as you perpetuate this general attitude by groveling like love sick school boys grateful that she would even see you.

I am all about being respectful, courteous, generous, caring and appreciative. I however never inherited the Kiss Ass or Puppy dog gene .

As a matter of fact, I met with a lady this week who I have known for a while. Before I got home she had sent me a thank you note. It does happen, rarely. The note did reinforce my thoughts that she is special.

I don't see the asymmetry. Voluntary transaction. One exchanges currency for personal service, the other personal services for currency. Both are better off, or expect to be better off, after the transaction is, er, consumated. It seems to me mutual notes of appreciation, while not required, are certainly not unreasonable, at least if the service was as expected

It is something I have always done ....

I see it as part of good tcb skills. I am always grateful for the business I get, and I have no problem expressing that gratitude.

I know for a fact I have forgotten a time a two over the years, but it's very rare. Generally it's when I'm side tracked or under a lot of stress that I've forgotten. Not that that's an excuse, but it's the truth.

I put "thank you" emails up there with taking care of your p411 ok, your datecheck ok, etc. it's all part of the tcb package for me. Always has been.

But I'm considered a bit old school when it comes to the hobby. so it doesn't surprise me others find it unnecessary.

Alisha....xoxo

Alisha, you are not old school. You are a class act, and among your many attributes are your impeccable TCB skills. There are some who could take lessons here, on both sides. Thank-you messages do move in both directions on the internet, ladies and gentlemen.

(And, if anyone wants to say I am just kissing Alisha's ass, fine -- it is after all a fine ass -- so let me just stipulate I am enjoying the kiss. Doesn't change my opinion on this issue though....)

I always send at least a "thank you" text. It's just the right thing to do!

Alisha, you are not old school. You are a class act, and among your many attributes are your impeccable TCB skills. There are some who could take lessons here, on both sides. Thank-you messages do move in both directions on the internet, ladies and gentlemen.

(And, if anyone wants to say I am just kissing Alisha's ass, fine -- it is after all a fine ass -- so let me just stipulate I am enjoying the kiss. Doesn't change my opinion on this issue though....) Originally Posted by davidsmith0123

Pucker up, baby!

Alisha ...xoxo

I can't remember whether or not Alisha sent me a TY text when we got together one late night back in the ASPD days but I do remember she was definitely a class act.

Unsolicited contact from providers is frowned upon by many. Obviously, a phone call or text is bad. Quite a few guys have gotten into trouble if they weren't smart enough to secure the phone they use to hobby.

E-mail has similar problems. Some guys aren't smart enough to be sure no one else can see their e-mails.

Some guys hate "SPAM" from providers. Some are dumb enough to leave their account logged in at the wrong time. (Yes, that's dumb and probably dangerous enough without the "Thank you PM,")

Some of this makes guys nervous about an unsolicited PM from a provider, even a "thank you."

It's probably better for a provider not to contact the guy unless he's said it's OK, or if it's a reply.

BTW, "thank you" or information requests to me by PM are OK. Even "special offers" from ladies I've seen are OK.

Wow, Gneiss, there are some dumb people out there. Sorry, I would like to be more politic, but no hobby phone, no separate email? Really?

Maybe this is why most providers do not initiate the thank-you sequence. An earlier poster said he would say thank you only if the provider said thank you, but according to Gneiss the equilibrium is for the client to say thank-you first. It has nothing to do with being grateful; it is because if she moves first the provider is putting the (not so smart) clients at risk, and that is definitely bad for business.