Appointment Setting Etiquette

For security reasons, I do not discuss my rates by email, PM or phone. I don't talk explicit by phone, PM or email. If a conversation with a client gets to be explicit, I will politely end the call.

If I get an explicit text from a potential client, I won't respond back.

... I don't talk explicit by phone, PM or email. If a conversation with a client gets to be explicit ... Originally Posted by MochaNautte

Thank you for your thoughts, MN.

Do you consider: "Confirming 1PM, 60 mins, FBSM," to be explicit?

Note: In my opinion, requesting FBSM is not soliciting sexual services - do others disagree?

Thank you for your thoughts, MN.

Do you consider: "Confirming 1PM, 60 mins, FBSM," to be explicit?

Note: In my opinion, requesting FBSM is not soliciting sexual services - do others disagree? Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

I don't consider that to be explicit

Well different states have different laws.. But in Texas you can SAY WHAT EVER YOU WANT ON THE PHONE. However if you say it in text Email P,M, or in person face to face it can be used against you.

Plus I like to hear how you talk on the phone so I can get a feel for your personality

I personally do not like to be felt up.

There really isn't a right or wrong way across the board is there? On either side?

Me personally, I had this beautifully written, creative menu with GFE, PSE & Dom options. It was entirely too oblique...I had The Naughty Girlfriend, Five Star and Supplicant experiences each with time option pricing. I loved it. Highlighted my skillsets & personality, explained in very politically correct terms what each option was. By nmaing the option you wanted I knew exactly what a client was looking for & what the fee would be.

Worst idea I ever had.

Second worse is having in my sig line: "Please do not pm me for an appointment. Please schedule via DC, p411 my site or email me direct. I do not schedule through any boards. I will not schedule via pm here or on any other site. please do not pm me through p411, I will not respond (its on my p411 profile as well). The best way to schedule is via email. I will not respond to pm requests"....yep that was just another aggravating waste of time.

I'm sure there are providers out there who have:
Touch my titties = $5
Mouth to nipple (under 60 seconds) add $5

Well you get the idea & they may take your order:

"Yes, I'd like nipple play, pretend you really do like me, a bj and a 8 minute combo missionary & doggie fuck?"

"Would you like to supersize your bj with 2 minutes of DT for an extra $10, sir?"

"Oh yes"

"Thank you, that'll be $53.47 please pull around to the next window."

In this world to say there is not someone out there expecting that & someone doing that would be naive. If that's your thing - then that's your thing. But it's not everyone's.

The hardest part of this job is screening. Everyone differs, but I want a DC or p411 request Or fill out the form on my site OR email me your refs. Getting 2 refs can take freaking daaaayyyysss by which time, No seriously..not only do I not want to meet you but i never want to hear from you again.

As a client, it is your job to figure out how to get screened. Not mine. People think I'm joking when I say my delete button is broken, but its the truth. I rubbed the lettering off in under 6 months and now the button is gone ...just a little nub. I finally just got to the place of "If you can't be bothered, niether shall I." My zen totally improved.

There really isn't a right or wrong way across the board is there? On either side?


The hardest part of this job is screening. Everyone differs, but I want a DC or p411 request Or fill out the form on my site OR email me your refs. Getting 2 refs can take freaking daaaayyyysss by which time, No seriously..not only do I not want to meet you but i never want to hear from you again.

As a client, it is your job to figure out how to get screened. Not mine. My zen totally improved. Originally Posted by babee

A question if I may? I get the need for screening and I as a client want to help expedite that process and make it easier for the provider so they don't end up "not only do I not want to meet you but I never want to hear from you again" with me.

So, on the client's part, if they are going to contact you, hopefully on P411 or DC, should they contact a few of the ladies that gave them OK's to make sure:
a) they are available to respond to a reference request
b) Have a preferred way of contacting them to get the reference check completed quickly.

And then provide YOU with those names and contact methods. So you don't have to go through the list of 11 OK's to find two that reply? If I've already checked and provided the 2 or 3 currently available to vouch for me, does that make things easier/better? Or should I not bother and let you handle it so you know its not a put up job?

Nope. Checking your ref's is my job.

Just give me 2 names, 2 sites, 2 general dates, 2 city/st and some innocuous way they will remember you as well as the name email & phone number you used to communicate with them. (here we get into its your job to have same name/handle email phone across the board. Yes, I have had requests where the client used multiple handles & phones & email addys. There is a little paranoid & there is batshyte crazee). If I don't get a reply in 24 hours I'll go down the line or ask you for another ref or an alt way to screen. That's my job.
Then you get into what I consider a solid reference ...again it may differ from what you consider a good ref.

There just is no one set way. It is a hassle for potential clients, but it's a hassle on our side as well.

Now, my screening is pretty rigid I'm told. I have been to NY, PN, VA, WV, IO, IA, OH, OK, TX, AR, AL, GA, FL, TN, MS, WY, ND, SD, WY, ID, KS, NE, MO & MT (I think thats all).

I have never been asked to leave a hotel. Never been approached in any way by LE. Never been shorted. Never been robbed. Never been assaulted. In 4 years I have asked 1 person to leave (Mphs, TN) and blacklisted 2 clients (Nashville, TN).

That "over the top ridiculous requirements" has kept my curvy lil ass safe. Yeah for me right? Well yes.....but just as important - I have also kept all of my clients safe as well. I'd say mutual safety & well being is more than worth my "rigid" screening. And that is the client I want ...someone as concerned about discretion & safety as I am.

ha ha yeah Kentucky as well. Always add KY to the list

Nope. Checking your ref's is my job.

Just give me 2 names, 2 sites, 2 general dates, 2 city/st and some innocuous way they will remember you as well as the name email & phone number you used to communicate with them. (here we get into its your job to have same name/handle email phone across the board.
That "over the top ridiculous requirements" has kept my curvy lil ass safe. Yeah for me right? Well yes.....but just as important - I have also kept all of my clients safe as well. I'd say mutual safety & well being is more than worth my "rigid" screening. And that is the client I want ...someone as concerned about discretion & safety as I am. Originally Posted by babee

Thank you for the reply. I'm also concerned about the Provider's safety because it directly impacts my own safety and so anything I can do to help with that or speed up the reference requirements, I'm willing to do. I get that even with more than 10 P411 OK's, you may have to go down that list a number of names before you get replies and verifications, so wanted to be sure I understood what helps you do your screening more easily. I would MUCH rather have a rigorous review/reference check than a skimpy "Ohh, you saw HER? I saw her yesterday and she's still alive and out of jail so that must make you ok" some providers use.