Discouraged

If you were a man, I would be more harsh! But you're not!!, you are a strong woman! GOD DAMN! Be cool.

No matter what, life sucks sometimes! And guess what? Thats okay! ....yup!

Appreciate the clarification.

Good luck to you and hope you your better days come quickly.

Not unlike the generic question Q: What do you do when discouraged in life? A: Whistle a happy tune. Originally Posted by Codybeast

I get drunk and watch comedy, works every time!
As a matter of fact...it's ABOUT that time....

What do you do when you're discouraged in the hobby? o.O
(guess I'm looking for ideas) Originally Posted by Secret_Amore

I just tell a mod what's really on my mind , then this pops up on the screen :

You have been banned for the following reason:
A short vacation to let you reassess how you want to interact with the local staff when you return, since points don't seem to be having their intended effect.

Date the ban will be lifted: 05-24-2013, 10:00 PM

Problem solved and I really didn't have to put any thought into it !

Don't get too discouraged, you can probably make it work. However, there are always going to be some risks and problems. It's not for most ladies. (or for most guys, either.)

I think it's safe to say you WILL run into assholes, both guys and ladies, no matter what you do. There are also some nice people. Quite a lot of the time, you can tell fairly quickly. Most can't hide their inner psycho for very long face to face. There are also a small number can hide their inner psycho for a while. Originally Posted by GneissGuy

Agreed. but I will throw out a couple of names Hannibal lector. Ted Bundy. just saying they you never know.....
>_>
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I've looked at your web site. The dom/sub stuff sticks out a little too much on the services page of your web site. Maybe it's just that there are more words about that type of activities on the page. It might work better if you just mentioned it's available and didn't put so much text about that. Or maybe make it a separate page with a link. Originally Posted by GneissGuy

Done. thanks for the advice.

However, I love the pics with the mask. Heck, it would be a turn on to have the mask during a session, even though I'm not into "kink." I wish more ladies would do this instead of otherwise hiding or blurring the eyes. I love the corset pics, too. Originally Posted by GneissGuy

Thank You ^_^ I like the mask too. I hate blurring my face (its just too cute for that) make me look like a image from the grudge T_T I'd rather not scare people off that way. plus it add personality and uniqueness.

I actually wore the make per request during a session got a good in action pic out of that too.

I love wearing corsets. they accentuate my feminine figure.

However, if you don't show your midriff, there's the suspicion you're hiding stretch marks or an otherwise unattractive midriff. The one or two pics with an exposed belly don't look that bad. Maybe you should post some more clear pics with the belly exposed. Some stocking and garter pics might help, too. The pics don't necessarily need to be more explicit or pornographic.

Your body looks fine to me. Originally Posted by GneissGuy

well you see, what had happen was....

one night I woke up 9 months preggo, and then I was abducted by aliens! they stole my babeh!!!! D: cut it right outta me.

I kid. I ain't neva having no kids! make your vagina all stretched out, cry all the time, come out of you like that scene in the movie Aliens you know the one with Rippley. good movie btw. shoot if I get enough money I'm having all my eggs removed (and dumped).

but oddly enough I have strech marks on the side of my bum...I just can't figure out how/why is it because it got bigger??? o.O my body be all like we dun have enough space for this bootay!

BBBJ vs. CBJ should be clearer. I'm not sure where you stand on this.

As for listing activities, there are varying degrees of risk. Mentioning it face to face at the start of the meeting is worst. Via phone or direct e-mail or PM, slightly less risky. On an ad a little less. A post is a little less. Don't think that tricks like acronyms or "hints" will help. It's quite common in the police reports for the cop to claim "XZY is street slang for -insert activity here-." They often get the acronym wrong, but still file charges. They'll even say things like "it was understood that she was offering money for sex." Unfortunately, our injustice system lets them get away with it. They're often more interested in getting an arrest than bothering with a conviction. They also count on most people not being able to fight and taking a plea bargain.

The big risk is any hint of drugs. They love to tie drugs into any busts they make. Originally Posted by GneissGuy

only way they would ever find drugs is if they planted it. I don't even smoke weed that's how clean I am. not even a bottle of wine (which really I could use a good bottle of wine...)

"They also count on most people not being able to fight and taking a plea bargain."

yea I'm too firery and outright stubborn to accept a plea bargain. I'd fight that shit even if I had to go into debt doing it. I am Not a push over and I ain't goin down for that. RAWR

The 30 minute pre meeting probably hurts your business, too. Not that it's "wrong," but there are plenty of ladies who I don't have to bother with this in order to see. $200 and a full hour for a new lady also puts you at a disadvantage vs. some of your competition. Frankly, I can get better offers with nice ladies who I know. Originally Posted by GneissGuy

its really just for outcalls at like someones house/apt. I have it stuck in my head that serial killers don't kill you at your place, they lure you out and since you in their home its easy to conveniently BURY YOU IN. THE. BASEMENT.

I usually waive the 30min meet and greet if you give me recent references. one guy called me at night wanted to meet within the hour and for me to come to his place. wasn't on any review sites and didn't have any solid references 'cause according to him he only hobbies when he travels and he doesn't travel enough to have recent references.... o.O (TED BUNDY) then I put his number into a blacklist site I can only do a basic search (since I'm not registered) it doesn't tell me how recent the post are or if there is a hobby name. 5 hits pop up just his number

3 in cali - boundary crosser, No Money/No pay, time waster/no show

1 in Texas - Dangerous/rob/ ??? I don't know if this means he did both or one of the two

1 in DC - Do Not See/ Bad Client

so if a meet in greet discourages men from pulling that stunt cause its "too much hassle" I say cheers mate!

Also your hello kitty icon is just so darn CUTE. its distracting.

Secret_Amore, you know my alcohol intake has increased since reading your posts...
I have my hands in my pants (THX for the Al Bundy reference) ...

but most importantly, I think you might be on your way if you keep it short and sweet.

I love how Al Bundy was soooo good looking , and charming he was able to seduce all those young ladies , makes you wonder why he settled on Peg ! lol At least I hope that was a funny and not your translator again F2C ?

I love how Al Bundy was soooo good looking , and charming he was able to seduce all those young ladies , makes you wonder why he settled on Peg ! lol At least I hope that was a funny and not your translator again F2C ? Originally Posted by rockerrick

My Babel fish is still recovering from the towel incidents, so come again RR ....

Al Bundy funny guy on TV . Ted Bundy murdered 30 young ladies .

ooopps, lol, good one ... as I said, the ally intake has increased with length of posts ...
and Al Bundy is just one of my many idols, lol, so I don't know, no good way to recover from this one and no hobby activity on this damn island either.
BUT, I'll be baaaaaack.

Someone (preferably a lady, or not someone looking for a free bang) take this girl out for a drink at a bar with wifi and help her. With what she's been through, she obviously has the gumption to be a provider. Looking back, I wish I would have reached out to a provider for help setting things up other than a hobbyist (who ended up taking advantage of me). Originally Posted by JennsLolli

yus! Here! Here! I would totally love if someone too me out for a drink. I mean I don't drink much,I like to get tipsy!

it sucks to get taken advantage of, I dunno why some people think its ok to take advantage of others especially as people who get taken advantage of tend to be kind hearted souls that should be cherished and valued(as its very hard to take advantage of a not kind hearted person).

sorry you were taken advantage of. I've heard the best revenge is success but that only works if you can rub in their face and show them that even though they didn't appreciate you, you still did better off without them. and then they can choke on a pea and move on to the next life knowing you're better then them

Godspeed. I hope in a few months you look back on your previous experiences and think "holy hell, why was I putting up with that???" The water certainly warms up once you dunk your head in. Originally Posted by JennsLolli

"holy hell, why was I putting up with that???"
lol I do that alot looking back on past events. alot of the time I'm like da fuq was I thinking???? o.O I have been conditioned in the 'just shut up and take it' mentality that's actually my moto it what I tell myself when I'm dealing with a crap situation.

Al Bundy funny guy on TV . Ted Bundy murdered 30 young ladies . Originally Posted by rockerrick

I use to watch that show!!! Married with children. that was humor I dunno what's on tv now. I only watch supernatural shows mostly

I miss Frasier good show.

There are lots of guys on here capable and knowledgable of how to help you get verified . Unfortunate you don't have any way of knowing which ones . I can tell you that they aren't ones with low review counts and post . Which is what review specials attract the most . Providers could also vouch , but are less likely to help the competition . But I pmed you the correct info , find someone with adequate credibility and follow those steps precisely .

... you don't have any way of knowing which ones . I can tell you that they aren't ones with low review counts and post ... Originally Posted by rockerrick

Yeah, guys with high post counts would never try to get over. Good one.

Key words are adequate credibility , oooops you're excluded Johnny ! I always love when someone pulls one tiny segment to quote leaving out the most important parts of what is said to fit their agenda ! What was said excluded the ones incapable of helping her , so she doesn't waste her time on ones who can't !

An alternative to a regular camera is to snag frames from your webcam, providing you have one. Just take a video and work frames from that. At least you can see yourself and strike poses as you will.