I enjoyed reading your first post. I also enjoyed PPE's take on this subject.
I can admire the command of the language that a few individuals posses. It is my belief that they do provide a good value to the different topics discussed in the coed forums, every time they choose to participate. I think that they are looking for more stimulating conversation in a forum that is not well suited for that purpose though.
I thought about subjects that come up for discussion every now and then in this forum. Threads about smoking issues was one of the first things that I thought of. Normally, when smoking before, during and after a session are discussed, you'll hear people expressing their acceptance of said behavior, and the other group will express their disdain and how they think it is a gross habit to have.
For comparison, I went to the Diamonds and Tuxedos forum to see if the subject had been discussed. I was lucky to find a recent thread about smoking a kissing. A lady there started the thread and after sharing her take on the issue, asked the following question for the members to discuss:
How do other providers and hobbyists feel about the whole smoking issue?
Alex
The first reply was a one-liner. Then the second reply got my attention quickly. I am quoting the first paragraph not to ridicule or disparage the gentleman, I am simply using this as a comparison to the discussions that take place in this forum:
Originally posted by Laurentius
She's my GF for a couple of hours, not my wife
I'm not a regular or even social smoker (though I will rarely take a puff), nevertheless I believe, given the widespread use of tobacco in past eras in this country, that a great deal of aversion to the practice is based upon psychopathologization of smoking moreso than its actual organoleptic qualities. Remember, about 99% of anything is between one's ears; and perception is seriously colored by our software.
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http://www.eccie.net/showpost.php?p=449541&postcount=3
My first reaction was: "WTF? Was it really nec...." and then I stopped myself because I realized I was about to judge the guy. I couldn't help but wonder how many nipples got hard after reading those words? That part of me I could not control.
After reading that quote, how many people here feel that there is a "need" to start using sesquipedalian words to communicate in this forum? I am no wordsmith, but I think that using obscure and long words would take away from the discussion here.
To the members here who are part of the Elite ( used with respect):
I am referring to the guys who are the professionals, the high achievers. What you have achieved is commendable and you deserve to enjoy the fruits of your success. Many of you invested long years of dedication to reach for the stars. There is not telling how much wealth you spent in attaining your education and in reality that is none of our business. You saw the value in investing in yourself and did it. Congratulations to each of you individually and as a group.
Many of you are into management in the corporate world, others are partners in a firm and still others have their own private practices. Whatever group you happen to fit into, I am certain that as a professional, you interact with people who are highly educated and with whom you can communicate with clarity and precision. I wouldn't blame you one bit if you had high expectations from those who interact with you on a professional basis.
Once you step outside your professional environment, you must admit the less educated world that surrounds you, can't meet the expectations that you have in your professional world.
ECCIE Membership ( Everyone with an active handle ):
What do we all have in common? Taking as broad a view as I can think of, it is my belief that under the microscope of our society, we are judged as being sexual perverts. Under the laws of Texas, if the tales posted here were true, we would be considered criminals and sexual deviants. Beyond that point, we have all decided to establish an account here and choose to participate freely under the forum guidelines.
There will be many members who have similar backgrounds and have similar interest in erotic pleasures, but as a whole, the board will include all backgrounds and demographics that you may encounter in the DFW Metro area. That means that there will be active members here that you have nothing in common with, that will be in "close proximity to you," if you read this forum.
Who are the ladies? All Verified Provides and registered female handles:
There are some very intelligent women who participate here and enrich the discussions with their contributions. The percentage of them who choose to participate is very small. Many are simply too busy to get online and post their views in discussions. There is a very large number who has seen the treatment others get, and have simply decided that it isn't worth it to put themselves out there and be subjected to abuse and ridicule for expressing their views.
Who are the new ladies joining the board? Most of them are young, barely of legal age , and not yet wise about the world. Some of them maybe from good ( middle class) background, but it isn't out of the ordinary to find runaways and other young girls with no one to turn to for help. If you are in doubt, check the Welcome Wagon. Also, you can see some posts where it seems as if there are managers posting the ads.
How much background do we get to see about the new ladies?Very little beyond what is volunteered in the thread and whatever is shared in their first reviews. There is usually no way to tell if the lady is very articulate or not since no one knows initially if she is the one posting the ads.
Expectations:
The main issue here is what should be a real expectation for the level of discourse the new girls should bring to the forum? And exploring it a little deeper, under what authority do we get to dictate the guidelines? We don't know what their past is like. We don't know why they are lacking in education. But how do we go from pointing out the obvious, i.e. lack of education ( did they even finish school?), to silencing their opinions. Just so that I am not hypocritical, I do get annoyed by some young posters. I choose to skip their threads and go on about my day, but I won't claim that I am without fault.
Live and let live:
When you ridicule a young lady because of a thread, you are perhaps inadvertently ( and I put a huge emphasis on that ) repressing her as an individual, by silencing her opinion. It may be a soft repression but it is still there. I don't think this is done with any malice and is instead the result of trying to elevate the level of discussion when the foundations for it are not all in place. At least not with it being all inclusive. Any wordsmith who thinks he can offer a more accurate word for soft repression feel free to chime in.
This board is too diverse to cater to specific tastes in the coed forums. I see where there is a real niche market for a new forum for Cum Laude Companions. I had thought about using Mensa Companions but I figured Mensa International would take exception to that idea.
For those who choose to participate freely in this forum, remember this is not a professional environment. The description of the forum is a nice idea but in the end, every individual would have certain limitations to achieve that goal.
I would hope that all the highly educated individuals learn to adapt and maybe skip the threads that they find no use for. It would be sad to see some of you go silent because a desire that was not met.
I am getting off my soap box now. Whew