Married providers/hobbyists

I don't care/ want to know if the provider is married. I'm not trying to save the world it an crash and burn (will eventually) I just wanna bang different chicks

If have no problems see a married provider. In fact I'd have no problems with dating or even marrying a provider in RL. To me, a woman who is sexually free, adventurous and loves exploring this aspect of herself is very hot.
As lakecat alluded to, the women I've met in open marriages are some of the most open minded and fun people I've met, not just in terms of sex but in everyday life too.

As long as I have an open honest dialogue with the woman I'm with about her desire to be a provider or any other member of the sex industry and we can talk about our thoughts/emotions etc about the experiences openly and honestly, I would not only not have a problem with it, I would actually encourage her do to what makes her happy and go for it.
Besides, the thought of my lover getting down and dirty with someone then coming home all revved up, wanting to have fun with me while she tells me about the fun she had is a very erotic thought.

1

Would take a different kind of man to let his mate escort. Unless he was lazy. Originally Posted by i'va biggen

That was the case of the married provider I saw. She got divorced and quite the hobby. Still talk to her once in awhile.

If I ever meet "mr. right"....I hope he is ok with my line of work..lol Originally Posted by Angel in KC

Now that would be fun to hear you break that news to him.

Since I am sure there are gals on here now who have had that discussion, how did that gow?

Ive dated a few girls who have worked on eccie and I prefer to draw clear lines. I knew that they werent in relationships or married and could have fun without all the consequences and drama. However in the past ive worked with dancers who had significant others and there relationships were always the worst. There husbands were always in control of there social life and kept them on tight strings but of course this is what they wanted .. From experience most girls who escort in their 20's are prone to lots of drama and if they are married are subjected to lots of abuse from stories Ive heard from there friends.
If i ever see or have clues that someone is married I stay far away anwd would never see.

Now that would be fun to hear you break that news to him.

Since I am sure there are gals on here now who have had that discussion, how did that gow? Originally Posted by Dragracer

Been there done that, it did not go over well at all! I can understand how the secrecy can be super hot and I have learned so much about the male psyche while in the hobby which truly fascinates me, but personally i couldn't be in a relationship again while in the hobby without being open and honest.

Each to their own. If I found out well after the fact, I wouldn't be upset she was providing, I'd be more upset that she felt the need to hide it and lie to me.
But if I knew upfront she was in the business, or she's not in it yet but that she was honest and trusting enough to tell me she was thinking of getting into the biz and the reasons behind it, I'd thank her for being open and honest with me, talk about it to make sure we both have a mutual agreement and understanding of things and then give her my encouragement to do what makes her happy. Being understanding and keeping the lines of communication open so there's no need to be nothing but open and honest with herself and with me is key to such an arrangement being mutually beneficial.
A woman in touch with her sexuality and a drive to explore all facets of it all while being open and honest with me as her partner is an ideal woman for me.

How do you guys feel about being with a provider that is married? Does it affect your decision to see her?
...
I personally prefer married men (lol) I guess I think that the married hobbyists will come with less drama. Plus it kinda turns me on! Makes me feel like a naughty mistress Originally Posted by DestinyInKC

It shouldn't matter either way. I would want the provider to be clearly present in the moment for me as I would be for her, and have us both be able to go full throttle during our time together. I wouldn't want to have the provider's significant other around at all, but some level of role play might fuel the fire of a hot session. Naughty mistress sounds good to me!

It doesn't matter to me whether they're married or not. Though I am a bit perturbed when a married man invites me to his home and insists on having "fun" in the marital bed. Yikes!

As long as the provider is reputable and provides the requested service...it should not matter

{some of us have open relationships}

...invites me to his home and insists on having "fun" in the marital bed. Yikes! Originally Posted by Allie_Kat

To me, that's just looking for eventual trouble. Like you said, Allie, yikes...

I like to ,know that she is married because I think I am a little safer

While I'm interested in the personal dynamics of such a relationship, I have no problems with what a provider does in her private life (provided she's not a cop or CI). I do have to admit to a certain level of discomfort when you go to an incall and there's a significant other at the location - I'm thinking in particular of the lady who used to provide haircuts (along with other activities). Originally Posted by The Sixth Beatle

And he never bothered me at all! Actually thought about seeing if he wanted to DP her with me, but never got up enough nerve.