Baby I hope that wasn't directed at me. The couple of times I did that was because the lady had no reviews and my reason was to make sure she was not LE. I like to take a lady out to dinner after our BCD session. I always set up dates at least a week in advance and include the dinner in our schedule. Insinuating some one is cheap because they want to take some one to dinner at a different rate scale tells me you and I would never meet.
Originally Posted by tucson
You're different.
And you have a good reputation. I do not think the negativity is directed at you.
I have men call and offer to meet off of the clock all of the time. Although I'm very open to going out for a meal off the clock, I do NOT do interviews, which is what the majority of these men are doing.
So if someone wishes to see me and then go out and get a bite, I am game, as long as it's something that I would enjoy, and sometimes even a hamburger fits the bill.
However, I do NOT do meet and greets, no matter how briefly. Have that t-shirt. And it's an old and worn one. Don't need another.
Didn't mean to sound so negative about the idea. But like someone else mentioned, often these men are just curious about a person and that's it. They want to "see" me, and perhaps enjoy some company, but they do not wish to SEE me, in the Biblical sense.
That's a colossal waste of time. And it's relatively insulting as well. Depending on my mood and outlook at the time of it happening.
Whispers is right. Develop a reputation and some females will find you alluring. Heck, I've met men that I just wanted to meet with no intention of BCD time. But that is the rare exception and not the norm (see paragraph above).
Elisabeth