When providers fall for you

...because one thing is for certain...it will end...most likely badly... Originally Posted by john353

FTFY...

It is always about the money because this is not match.com and you will never find a girl who does this that can have a normal relationship in the real world. For her, it will always be about the money. Just remember the age old adage that this realm has as a truism: Broken Dolls.

But then, are you mutts capable of being in a "normal" relationship yourselves? Hmmm…. Originally Posted by PhantomofTheOpera

It is like when I was just past 21 and dated a couple of strippers. Many of these women do not live in the normal world. I would not say it is broken it is just a very different life style from most of us. It is kind of like musicians. You make enough money in a day and you can take off a week to party or do whatever it is you do. You find a lot of very unstructured bohemian types in this hobby just like at strip clubs and with musicians. Some support a drug habit this way, some support alcholism this way, others just make a living. Still it is a very different lifestyle when you can wake up one morning and ask do I need the money today. If the answer is no then you go off and do something else.
Honestly, many of the women in the hobby are there because they could not hold a normal be here at a certain time and do X for so many hours. Others have real jobs and do this because they like the extra cash and the experience. Some really have good business sense and know if they want the steady flow of money they have to stay consistent and not flake out.

That is why I love this board. The best are the business types who get how to make money consistently. The worst are the I can't and don't want to hold a job so I will get as much today so I can stay drunk, strung out, etc for the next week. The reviews keep steering me to the good ones and allow me to ignore the others. The ones who can't hold jobs or trying to support a habit are usually as the great Ray Wylie Hubbard put it the type that "promise a man everything give him half and charge him double."

As for normal relationship. I don't know what that is. Like most things normal isn't something to strive for. If two people can accept what each other has done in the past and willing to work together moving forward that is all that matters. The only way something like this works is if both people can trust that the other isn't in this just to get something out of it. For every man that says all a working girl wants is the money even in a relationship there is a working girl saying all this guy wants is to rope me into giving him free service whenever he wants it. That is what makes it hard for anything to go right even if real feelings develop. In any relationship with any one that kind of distrust kills it.

Yep...most likely.

Yea, well, when my fav utr started that shit, she said I had to quit hobbying........
Got a new utr ..........

When a provider fall for you "RUN"
When a hobbyist fall for you "RUN"

Agreed.


Guys...it happens on occasion.

If you live in our little world long enough, there is a chance that some of you may find a provider that may be willing to offer you special favors because she may genuinely like you. That doesn't necessarily mean that she is going to quit fucking for envelopes and sit by the phone waiting for your call.

Just run with it while it lasts and enjoy the ride until it ends...because one thing is for certain...it will end. Originally Posted by john353

Wholeheartedly agree sir!!! Well said.

It is like when I was just past 21 and dated a couple of strippers. Many of these women do not live in the normal world. I would not say it is broken it is just a very different life style from most of us. It is kind of like musicians. You make enough money in a day and you can take off a week to party or do whatever it is you do. You find a lot of very unstructured bohemian types in this hobby just like at strip clubs and with musicians. Some support a drug habit this way, some support alcholism this way, others just make a living. Still it is a very different lifestyle when you can wake up one morning and ask do I need the money today. If the answer is no then you go off and do something else.
Honestly, many of the women in the hobby are there because they could not hold a normal be here at a certain time and do X for so many hours. Others have real jobs and do this because they like the extra cash and the experience. Some really have good business sense and know if they want the steady flow of money they have to stay consistent and not flake out.

That is why I love this board. The best are the business types who get how to make money consistently. The worst are the I can't and don't want to hold a job so I will get as much today so I can stay drunk, strung out, etc for the next week. The reviews keep steering me to the good ones and allow me to ignore the others. The ones who can't hold jobs or trying to support a habit are usually as the great Ray Wylie Hubbard put it the type that "promise a man everything give him half and charge him double."

As for normal relationship. I don't know what that is. Like most things normal isn't something to strive for. If two people can accept what each other has done in the past and willing to work together moving forward that is all that matters. The only way something like this works is if both people can trust that the other isn't in this just to get something out of it. For every man that says all a working girl wants is the money even in a relationship there is a working girl saying all this guy wants is to rope me into giving him free service whenever he wants it. That is what makes it hard for anything to go right even if real feelings develop. In any relationship with any one that kind of distrust kills it. Originally Posted by Bannor

I like this! Well put! I made my mind up from the begining not to fall into the cycle that is so common.

Johnny Numbers gives good advice. It does happen from time to time, and can be a hell of a lot of fun. It will end though, and it may end badly, so plan ahead and keep your boundaries in place - hobby phone, no real world info, etc.

The last thing you want is pissed off ex-FB provider at your door at 3am, stopping by your office, etc.

wow...I always thought that was urban legend.



So there we go...may not have been entirely free...may have to fill their car with gas or buy 'em nachos...but in the end it's probably never entirely free...js Originally Posted by Island_Gent

Lol if your offered sex in exchange for a meal that cost $18 I say thats one heck of a deal. With no time limit and with multiple pops, and sometimes a overnite.yeah I guess you can put that no pussy is free if thats the case.

Yeap it has me a little worried but it is so hard to say no. My dad once a piece of pussy you pass up is a piece of pussy you can never make up. Funny shit coming from my old man. He taught me everything I should not do. Not what I should do.

These things normally do not work out because of varying lifestyles. However, I do have a friend who is a successful businessman who wound up falling in love with a mature high priced lady. They decided to get together over five years ago and are still together. It works in some circumstances.

Still useless....

Please...if there is a good chemistry and the provider actually enjoys the sex AND can get paid to get it??? Love still isn't going to pay any bills and believe me, when there is a monetary need, you will get a call. You might get an occasional freebie but consider it a growing tab.

Money is the bottom line, but it's not everything. Providers are no different than the "hobbiest", Providers, at least most of them, have favorites. Sometimes Providers enjoy the session, sometimes they don't, and yes I believe they can develop feelings for clients and vice versa. I have experienced all the above.
I have clients in my business that I really like, in fact some have become good friends, but I still expect to be paid when performing my service. I have some clients that I don't like, but I still do work for them.
As for as real O's, if you have been in the hobby for a while and have not experienced a Provider having a real O, your doing something wrong.