What negative impact might the hobby have on you that will stay with you forever... good or bad?

The only negative for me in the hobby was discovering how wonderful sex can be with someone you have a "connection" with. My ATF had that connection and sex with her was the best sex I've ever had. In essence she spoiled me with how good sex can be. I've been married for 30 years now and my wife has never enjoyed sex at all; its a necessary "evil" of marriage to her unfortunately. I've had been hobbling for about 10 years before meeting my ATF. The sex was definitely better than with my wife but it wasn't great. My ATF and I had a thing going for 2 years before she ended it. Since then provider sex is no better than with my wife. Consequently, I've only seen 3 providers one time each in the past 18 months. Compared to what I had with my ATF, sex has been very unexciting. Originally Posted by txrancher1

Oh WOW! I couldn't imagine sex being unexciting! That's horrible! I'm sorry you haven't found anyone that can compare to your prior ATF. Hopefully one day you will. Everyone should enjoy sex. It is one of the things that makes life GREAT! IMO anyway.

Tracy you've peeked behind the curtain and realized that its actually true what you heard all those years but never really believed...men are not that complicated.

Literally feed us and fuck our brains out and most of us will throw ourselves in front of a bus for you Originally Posted by SpiceItUp

Reminds me of the Chris Rock routine from Bigger and Blacker, about how women need to stop reading magazines that have '100 ways to please to ur man' articles.... When I'm hungry, cook for me... If im horny, satisfy me... And do we always have to talk?

Men want three things in life. Food, sex, and silence. So feed me, f**k me and shut the f**k up!*

My first ATF was there for me at a bad time in my life. Without her, I don't know where i'd be today.
She left our world here years ago.

But we keep our boundaries in the hobby so as not to make inroads on peoples personal lives.

In hindsight, I much more treasure the bonds of the friendship we had than the BCD. And I find myself missing that more.