ladies why don't you allow fingers( FIV)?

I've really kind of enjoyed this discussion. Seems there is a lot of assumptions everybody has. Some ladies like it, it seems more don't. I guess I'm kind of confused why the discussion of cleanliness always has to be discussed. Maybe that's because I assume cleanliness is a no brainier? Maybe that is the point here? We guys assume a lot, (but we never assume we're doing it wrong). Glad you ladies chimed in here. I would think we all know everybody is different, right? A little discussion between the guy and the girl can only help. Now maybe I'm alone here, but I can't think of a greater turn on with a lady as when she is letting me know what she likes to get off? But maybe that's just me! Keep talking ladies, just maybe one day it will sink in.

daphne, all you had to say is that you don't like FIV and I wouldn't have asked for input on how to do it better. no need to be defensive about what floats your boat. it's awl good.

reading this reminded me i need to go get my nails manicured and a haircut as well

I hate it when people whisper behind my back. It just seems rude.

I've never had a lady refuse FIV play. Heck, it is one of the first things I do when making out with the lady. While we are LFK or DFK, my hand is roaming into her nether regions.

This is my vagina.
There are many others like it, but this one is mine.
My vagina is my best friend. It is my life. Lol

We guys assume a lot, (but we never assume we're doing it wrong). Glad you ladies chimed in here. I would think we all know everybody is different, right? A little discussion between the guy and the girl can only help. Now maybe I'm alone here, but I can't think of a greater turn on with a lady as when she is letting me know what she likes to get off? But maybe that's just me! Keep talking ladies, just maybe one day it will sink in. Originally Posted by Hermosa

It can hurt.
Hands are dirty. (Just in general)
You didn't ask first.
You tried to shove your whole hand in there.
It doesn't feel good.
Nails are too long.
Your hand is not a dick, but you're pounding
the pussy like it is.
Trying to sneak a finger up the ass since you're already down there.

Few men have the knowledge or skill to do it properly and effectively.

It's not a grab bag or a spelunking cave.

Treat it with care! Originally Posted by BBW Katrina

Pretty much all of this. Men have no idea how hard they're rubbing down there. It's not a magic lamp, don't put all your strength into it.

I've only met one guy that could do it to somewhat attempt to get me in the mood. Usually I pretend it feels alright until I just can't take it anymore and I move your hand away.

Then guys act like I killed their puppy because I won't let them finger me. MAN UP AND USE YOUR DICK!

Well I like to FIV, but I am usually lunching at the same time and like to think that I know how to do both, but both of course are only with the lady's approval!!

It is really very simple. I do FIV/DATY to make the session pleasant for the lady. If such activities are NOT pleasant for the ladies, tell me so and I'll be more than happy to skip them. Telling me you prefer NOT to do those activities does NOT make me feel like you killed my puppy.

I will say however, that not wanting to participate in what is normally "foreplay" and stuff leading up to the fun, makes me feel the session is more "BP-oriented" where the goal is to "drop the donation, drop your pants, drop your load and hit the door". That works for some, not what I prefer however.

Ohhhh the faces some men have made though after my telling them i'm not a fan of FIV .... you'd think I just killed their puppy or just told them it died. I've had a few also look confused like what else should they do with "it" just because they can't put their fingers in there. There's so much more to foreplay than you needing to stick your fingers up in my crotch.....like um there's everything else. My vagina does have an outside lol that can be teased and played with.

It is really very simple. I do FIV/DATY to make the session pleasant for the lady. If such activities are NOT pleasant for the ladies, tell me so and I'll be more than happy to skip them. Telling me you prefer NOT to do those activities does NOT make me feel like you killed my puppy.

I will say however, that not wanting to participate in what is normally "foreplay" and stuff leading up to the fun, makes me feel the session is more "BP-oriented" where the goal is to "drop the donation, drop your pants, drop your load and hit the door". That works for some, not what I prefer however. Originally Posted by RedLeg505

Ohhhh the faces some men have made though after my telling them i'm not a fan of FIV .... you'd think I just killed their puppy or just told them it died. I've had a few also look confused like what else should they do with "it" just because they can't put their fingers in there. There's so much more to foreplay than you needing to stick your fingers up in my crotch.....like um there's everything else. My vagina does have an outside lol that can be teased and played with. Originally Posted by MOCHAakaMOCHA

I know this feeling well and feel a bit lost when when pointer and middle finger are told they aren't welcome at the playground. They have feelings too.

They are used to supporting the lingual efforts of my tongue and they have been sorely missed during long DATY sessions when I was sure that they would have been the erotic reserves that would have stroked the lady to her goal. But rules are rules.

I have had a guy ( not hobby but in my life time) who cut me with his nails, and its like some guys try to scrape you out like a pumpkin or like others have said jack hammered your crotch and it does hurt very much. But I like being fingered when someone does it right and if they have clean well taken care of hands with no jagged nails I wouldnt see why someone would have a problem with it since like someone said your putting cocks up there might as well.
The only other thing I can think of is if they are having problems down there. Other then that I dont know why they would refuse a nice gent

guess i'm the odd one out i actually am a fan fiv....of course clean hands and i don't know but most the men i've been with have known what to do and not do, just lucky i guess

Not all ladies like FIV, but I'm going to go ahead and guess that guys complaining probably have gross nails. Way too many of my friends and colleagues have fingernails that look like this:



Here's what well groomed nails should look like:



Not sure wtf people do to wind up with the first picture, but feels rude to ask.