Just confirmed with a new provider I'm seeing tomorrow morning - she's not from the U.S., originally - she asked if she could make breakfast for us before our mid - morning rendevous!
It's the small courtesies that just are not part of our hurry - up, faster, faster, I gotta be somewhere else culture,like saying "Good day." When a shop keeper welcomes you, or saying "Thank you!" even if you didn't buy anything....
It's treating the other person like the human being they are, with respect and courtesy, not like some disposable paper product....
Just my observation, but the hobby is much more civilized in counties where it is legalized....
Cupcakes are a great idea. So is turning off your cell phone. So is making the provider the most important person on the planet for the time you are together, because (be honest, guys) that's what we expect from them....