Why would a gent want to keep his P411 and Eccie accounts separate?
Sometimes the ex finds out about the Eccie account, uses it in court. But they still have to earn a living!
Dang! Touchy touchy. I can see splitting it up after the fact. But caught is caught as far as civil courts go.
The whole thing just seems shady. Having to keep up with half-truths and lies is just too much headache. I say be yourself and let the chips fall where they may. If you aren't trying to mislead anyone into believing things that aren't true then there shouldn't be a problem.
I have different handles on each and don't link them. I never really thought about it in the beginning but have found it to be useful.
Case in point, I asked to see a "flavor of the month" new lady here on eccie a while back and she declined because I have posted a few No reviews. I also had a lady decline to see me last year because she didn't like the ladies I used for references on here. I don't follow the forums enough to know about every cat fight or I may have avoided that one.
It turned out to be no sweat off my back. I sent requests via P411 and things went swimmingly. We had our dates, everything went well and one of the ladies has been a fairly regular appointment since.
*Win-win situations that wouldn't have been possible without P411 anonymity.
Originally Posted by Adonis
So you do not think that is at all deceitful? Personally if i declined a man on here no matter what the reason was and he booked with me behind my back anyway i would feel totally violated if i found out.
No means no... There are way too many providers here to want to see someone that has expressed the desire not to meet you
I didn't go into my P411 membership thinking "Ohhh this is a way to see people that said no some place else." I have different handles on different boards in my professional and in my private dealings and there has never been nefarious intentions in making them different. I made the same handle here as I had on the old board because I looked at this as a continuation. Otherwise, I would have taken time to make a new one here as well.
That said, I'm a consumer and you have a product. I see nothing wrong with buying your iPhone from here, Backpage or P411 regardless if you know or not my handle on any of the other sites. Also, if you declined to sell it to me here because I gave the Razor I bought last year a bad review, I have no problem buying it from P411 where the brands I've bought have given many "OKs" after my purchases.
This is not radio shack... This is a business that is personal intimate and that can not be compaired to any other business.
You still went behind those ladies backs after they told you no. Sure all ended well but right is right and wrong is wrong period.
1. I wouldn't have used "Dallas" as a reference had I known "you" thought she was a bitch and would hold that against me.
2. I would have went straight to P411 had I know "you" expected a guy with over 50 reviews to have all Yes recommendations.
3. So far, no lady on P411 has asked for my eccie handle when I've requested an appointment and my account says I'm a member here. The chances are that I'll tell you if you ask and if I write a review, you'll know anyway unless you can't add things up.
4. At the end of the day, I pay for P411, I request most of my dates there and I have many OKs so it is working as intended. Gina isn't affiliated with eccie so there's no reason to require mirrored names. It's voluntary and if ladies and/or gents want to have different handles, that's their choice - not some eccie, provider police.
I think you are missing my point. Sure it is not required but it is kind of shady if those ladies specifically told you they did not feel comfortable seeing you.
Yes those are both really dumb reasons not to see someone but if i was a guy i would respect their wished not try to see them anyway.
No one is missing any points here. If the ladies don't understand why guys feel it important to keep things separate without specific intent to deceive then no amount of debating is going to help.
Frankly, cat fights happen. When I had the two I separated them because ladies react badly to weird things and for odd nonsensical reasons.
You can't have it both ways ladies. Some ladies, not necessarily those posting here, do shit to make guys protect their ability to freely hobby without constraint due to pisssing matches or a guys reasoning for a no review.
Edit to add, hot damn Jules. Nice avatar.
Just like there are guys who do things intentionally to deceive that spoil it for others guys. I know ladies have to follow their spidey sense and protect themselves but don't begrudge men who try to do the same. It is protection from bullshit, pure and simple.
I can understand what you mean bolt... My only issue is the deliberate deception of booking with someone who has specifically said they do not wish to see you elsewhere.
There are a lot of good reasons listed here that i never thought about ... Particularly the catfights and jealosy factor, i totally agree that is a really silly reason not to want to meet someone (bitches be crazy LOL) but i think i would feel violated and pissed off if someone tricked me like that on purpose
I can understand what you mean bolt... My only issue is the deliberate deception of booking with someone who has specifically said they do not wish to see you elsewhere.
There are a lot of good reasons listed here that i never thought about ... Particularly the catfights and jealosy factor, i totally agree that is a really silly reason not to want to meet someone (bitches be crazy LOL) but i think i would feel violated and pissed off if someone tricked me like that on purpose
Originally Posted by Jules Jaguar
I agree that if you used eccie to book and were told no, then used p411 that can be at its essenes deceitful.
When I used mine, I only booked through p411 so it was never an issue.
I agree with you Jules. I would book solely from p411 for meeting someone new. If you have two and keep them separate getting denied here then knowingly going there is a sneakiness that isn't too cool and could be construed as dangerous by many ladies. Hard for guys to see what the ladies deal with as much as it is to see the guys hassles in booking due to non safety client choices.
If a provider didn't want to see me because of some issues between us here, then I agree with you. In the 2 examples that I gave earlier, I don't see a problem. I did learn to always use P411 to book appointments, unless the lady isn't on there, to avoid silliness in the future.
It is unfortunate that a small few ruin it for the rest, but aren't the wash your balls threads useless too?
I find this to be very useful information. Very useful.