Got caught but didn't get CAUGHT!!!!! Have a question for veterans

Buy something (a power tool for example) at Walmart using a debit card (save the receipt). This will show up as Walmart on your statement, then return it unused and unopened for cash back (they will offer to return to debit or cash back). Of course if she is so meticulous that she keeps up with every Walmart purchase, this may not work, especially if you never shop at Walmart. If she notices a charge at Walmart, you could say you had some minor car work done there...tires, oil changes, etc. You could also start a side/cash business yourself in your spare time, this will give you a reason to be gone & extra cash that will be tough for her to keep track of.

Stay safe & you may want to wait a while before jumping back in to dangerous waters.


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So here's my dilemma. My wife just recently went through all my work and personal credit card statements. During her forensic accounting she came by the cash advances. I was able to play it off but it came at a cost. So she now thinks I have a gambling problem. I chose the less of the two evils and for the most part walked away with a slap on the hand....

I'm fairly new to the hobby but over the past few months have had tremendous time. My question is for the veterans. How can I continue the hobby without my wife knowing (AKA the forensic accountant).

For the record I have a fixed salary. I'm not in sales so there is no bonuses and everything are in joint accounts that she has control over. Hence the nickname frantic account.

Thanks in advance....

Newbie in a pinch Originally Posted by Ceric1371

Hey Ceric1371. PM me and I will tell you how I navigated out of a similar situation. DP

Just because a man's physical needs aren't being met at home doesn't mean his emotional needs aren't. Maybe he still loves the wife or is remaining there for the kids. Or for other reasons. But maybe hobbying too much at one time may have caused her look into finances.
There are many good ideas in this thread. A second account may not be an option, but maybe a prepaid visa that you can add money to each time you shop may be another option. Walmart has the Vanilla Visa that you can get and add money anytime. I wouldn't suggest just transferring money to it because if she's watching she would notice.
The therapist or counselor is a good idea unless she wants to question or go with you.
Taking 10-20 out each time you shop is another way, although can take a while to save the money.
The gym is another good option. some gym memberships can be costly depending where and if you're working with a trainer. But you may also need to really work out in one so that you are achieving some results in that area as well.
Taking co-workers or friends out and paying but having them pay you with cash is also a good way to hide it. Unless it's a family friend that may say something to her.
Maybe another option is to have part of your 'disposable income' split between the 2 of you, part for your 'gambling' hobby. And part for her to play with as well. When I was married, both my husb and myself had some cash that we could each play with. His hobby was his car though. I cooked and some crafts. Originally Posted by TemptationTammie

Doesn't mean you go stick your dick in another girls pussy, im sure he would be upset if the wife was doing what he was doing
just my thoughts

Doesn't mean you go stick your dick in another girls pussy, im sure he would be upset if the wife was doing what he was doing
just my thoughts Originally Posted by bjwstw

After all her needs will be met.

Doesn't mean you go stick your dick in another girls pussy, im sure he would be upset if the wife was doing what he was doing
just my thoughts Originally Posted by bjwstw

Seeing a Companion may have nothing to do with marital issues. While fidelity is a fine idea, and for MOST it takes will and work, his wife can't control what he does with his penis, nor can he control her cootchie. What he must do is respect her enough for her not to find out. And he's done a good job of that, to a certain extent. Other than the money which has been explained, she probably has no other indication that he may be spending it on women.

I'd be okay with that. And while some could have their opinions of that, I'm just not an advocate of giving myself a heart attack looking for the negativity when I could be creating the positivity in my relationship.

... What he must do is respect her enough for her not to find out ... Originally Posted by Tiffani Jameson

Nothing quite says respect like bullshit, TJ?



C'mon OP, do your wife a solid and leave her. She deserves someone who won't skulk around behind her back, seeking to create elaborate schemes to deceive her.

Or, have the balls to tell her the truth: you want to hobby.

What a depressing thread this is.

Nothing quite says respect like bullshit, TJ?



C'mon OP, do your wife a solid and leave her. She deserves someone who won't skulk around behind her back, seeking to create elaborate schemes to deceive her.

Or, have the balls to tell her the truth: you want to hobby.

What a depressing thread this is. Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks

Wow, I find this implication highly hypocritical.

Since when do we judge anyone for being in the hobby?? Since when did he have to justify how much he loves his wife to get advice on this board?

It could be so much worse. He could be asking about a list of STD testing clinics because he screwed one of these chicks bareback. He could be trying to find out how to erase his phone records from his online account because he's been calling using the account they're on together. But no, the fact that only a few hundred bucks here and there has piqued her attention says a lot. This could be REALLY depressing.

Not all parts of anyone's life is perfect, so his reasons for being here is none of anyone's business.I'm a strong believer in personal freedoms, even in marriage. I have learned that some, given the room to make mistakes and have fun like this, brings them closer to home. He then becomes faithful to his wife on his own terms.

I've learned that there is a fine line between reasonable expectations and expecting perfection. Personally, I've never been the jealous type (which admittedly, some have taken for not caring.). My reason is it takes unnecessary emotional energy to be with someone you don't trust. And self control isn't everyone's strong suit. With both parties or a relationship being equally busy these days, if I'm not looking for it, I better not find out. If I do, you're either lazy or don't give a damn. Two facts that I won't put up with.

I don't know what happened to you, Mr. Yanks, but I'm sorry for your loss. And it sounds like you would've made/were a great husband. Every woman can't be so lucky. But asking about how to squirrel away a few bucks to have fun with a provider shouldn't depress you on an Escort Information board. There are worse things.

+1 Tiffany, you never know JY could actually be married and just trying to throw off his own wife in the event this all catches up with him?

I'm betting there are A LOT more married guys than single ones frequenting this site.



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+1 Tiffany, you never know JY could actually be married and just trying to throw off his own wife in the event this all catches up with him?

I'm betting there are A LOT more married guys than single ones frequenting this site.

~ Originally Posted by Lexieinhouston

It has to be something deeper than that. Either he mistreated the love of his life, or lost her tragically. Honestly, he sounds like a wonderful man. But either way, he sounds angry at the OP for this transgression against his very smart wife. I just don't want him to be angry.

The OP will live and learn.

You may have to lay low for a whole until you figure out what to do.

[QUOTE=Tiffani Jameson;1054922785]Wow, I find this implication highly hypocritical. Since when do we judge anyone for being in the hobby??

Who made mention of being in the hobby? I suggested he stop deceiving his wife.

Since when did he have to justify how much he loves his wife to get advice on this board?

Where did I suggest that? Criticizing how he treats his wife is by no way suggesting I have knowledge of how he feels towards her. Although I have heard it said that action speaks louder than words.

It could be so much worse. He could be asking about a list of STD testing clinics because he screwed one of these chicks bareback. He could be trying to find out how to erase his phone records from his online account because he's been calling using the account they're on together. But no, the fact that only a few hundred bucks here and there has piqued her attention says a lot. This could be REALLY depressing.

Ah, the old "it could've been worse (non) argument." Nice. And has nothing to do with the topic at hand.

Not all parts of anyone's life is perfect, so his reasons for being here is none of anyone's business.

Of course. Until he starts a thread about it. Then its everybody's business.

I'm a strong believer in personal freedoms, even in marriage.

You consider ignorance to equal personal freedom? That's what you're signing his wife up for.

I have learned that some, given the room to make mistakes and have fun like this, brings them closer to home. He then becomes faithful to his wife on his own terms.

His own terms don't sound faithful at all.

I've learned that there is a fine line between reasonable expectations and expecting perfection.

Um, don't fuck other women is expecting perfection? You're sure easy to please.

Personally, I've never been the jealous type (which admittedly, some have taken for not caring.). My reason is it takes unnecessary emotional energy to be with someone you don't trust. And self control isn't everyone's strong suit.

Interesting. If I'm reading this correctly you're suggesting that lowered expectations equal lower stress and higher likelihood of not being disappointed. I'm sorry, color me a foolish romantic, but that is sad.

With both parties or a relationship being equally busy these days, if I'm not looking for it, I better not find out.

Hear no evil, see no evil.


If I do, you're either lazy or don't give a damn. Two facts that I won't put up with.

Nice to know that you draw the line somewhere.

I don't know what happened to you, Mr. Yanks, but I'm sorry for your loss.

Need something have happened to believe in honoring one's word? I sign a contract, I take a vow, I look you in the eyes, I honor it. I don't see anything remarkable about that.

And it sounds like you would've made/were a great husband. Every woman can't be so lucky.

Well, you can always change your bait. Or your fishing hole.

But asking about how to squirrel away a few bucks to have fun with a provider shouldn't depress you on an Escort Information board. There are worse things.

And, we've come full circle.


No offense to you Miss TJ. I've enjoyed reading several of your posts in the almost two years I've been on this board. But, wow, this was a weak defense on your part.

See you around. I'll put my minority opinion away for the night. (well, unless the minx comes out to play)

... But either way, he sounds angry at the OP for this transgression against his very smart wife. I just don't want him to be angry. Originally Posted by Tiffani Jameson

Don't worry, Miss. I'm not angry in the least. A bit saddened by the fact there was no shortage of suggestions on how to get over on who could be considered the closest person in one's life. But obviously not.

But thank you for your concern. I do hope you were speaking genuinely and not condescendingly. That would be disappointing. (but it wouldn't make me angry. it's just a shmb, right?)

To TJ and all the other level headed contributors thank you.

To the not so level headed. I think a few individuals have misunderstood my question or are just malicious at heart. I wasn't asking for marriage advice! I have my reasons for doing what I do as I'm sure some of you do to.

Last time I checked ECCIE is short for Escort Client Imformation Exchange and not the Dr Phil Show!

To TJ and all the other level headed contributors thank you.

To the not so level headed. I think a few individuals have misunderstood my question or are just malicious at heart. I wasn't asking for marriage advice! I have my reasons for doing what I do as I'm sure some of you do to.

Last time I checked ECCIE is short for Escort Client Imformation Exchange and not the Dr Phil Show! Originally Posted by Ceric1371

I'm not sure with category you'd put me into, but I assure you I understood your question and tried my best to give you nonjudgmental advice. That did not make a moral judgment on your life or your marriage. Nor did it question your motivations for hobbying.

I did, however, warn you that you need to seriously consider the consequences and not underestimate your wife's ability to bust you now that she has reason to mistrust you.

I think that's fair. Good luck to you.

xoxo,
LMx

P.S. please note that any additional comments I make in response to other comments are NOT directed at the OP, but rather, meant for general discussion.

...I think a few individuals have misunderstood my question or are just malicious at heart. I wasn't asking for marriage advice! Originally Posted by Ceric1371

Sometimes in an open forum you get more than you expected or felt you bargained for. It's the internets, you know.

And my message may have been pointed, but it wasn't malicious. But I doubt you capable of discerning beyond what you wish to hear.