An anonymous email I received from a former provider asked me to post this for her therapy

Move on and stop insulting the men and women here because you have regret with the choices YOU made. Originally Posted by Ebony Jasmine Love Austin

I agree with you. At least that has been my experience.

This should have never been posted anonymously. Whoever this lady is:

STOP TRYING TO PROPAGATE YOUR SILLY LOW SELF ESTEEM THOUGHTS AS THE SAME FOR ALL PROVIDERS.

Just like anything in a relatively free will society, you make it as bad or good as you want. I can't help but NOT feel sorry for you. This post is disgusting and it gives even more fuel to the flaming views that all providers are (add stereotypical whore assumptions here).

Move on and stop insulting the men and women here because you have regret with the choices YOU made. Originally Posted by Ebony Jasmine Love Austin

well said !!

Whatever. I wasn't the author of this and I can prove it. I've posted in the past for some dude who was deathly afraid of tatoos. I'd post something anonymously for you too, if it's within Eccie guidelines, and if I think it will help you out. I do have the providers name, who wrote this, but I can't say who it is on this board because, again, it's against Eccie rules. Plus, if the lady is as distraught as she claims to be in her letter, I don't want to upset her more. Plus, I might dislike my job, but only when guys act weird. And for some reason I am a magnet for weirdos. I have been my whole life. I don't hate everyone, the OP seems even angrier then me!! I guess I felt her pain a little, because I'm struggling with quitting and moving on as well.

Why does everyone here have issues with people expressing themselves? The guys here can express themselves, why can't a lady express herself? Cut me down because I'm incognito, but so are all of you to varying degrees. Especially the men. I'm incognito because I want to say what my truthful opinions are. I'm a pretty blunt person, I don't need to make up some story about a dude emailing me, etc etc. If I wanted to say all this I would have. SOMEONE ELSE emailed this to me and explained they needed it to be posted for therapy.

Isis if you posted this for her then one would think that you would be willing to take the heat as if you were the author of it. What do you care if people think you wrote it or not, being that your are here incognito......

Well that is certainly an angry little letter, not sure what sort of therapy she is getting from it, especially by choosing to remain anonymous?

Either way, provider or hobbyist...we are all fucked up in our own little ways...

It is probably best that this person decided to retire, with that angry tone it probably wouldn't have been much longer before she chopped off some poor bloke's knob!

Whatever. I wasn't the author of this and I can prove it. I've posted in the past for some dude who was deathly afraid of tatoos. I'd post something anonymously for you too, if it's within Eccie guidelines, and if I think it will help you out. I do have the providers name, who wrote this, but I can't say who it is on this board because, again, it's against Eccie rules. Plus, if the lady is as distraught as she claims to be in her letter, I don't want to upset her more. Plus, I might dislike my job, but only when guys act weird. And for some reason I am a magnet for weirdos. I have been my whole life. I don't hate everyone, the OP seems even angrier then me!! I guess I felt her pain a little, because I'm struggling with quitting and moving on as well.

Why does everyone here have issues with people expressing themselves? The guys here can express themselves, why can't a lady express herself? Cut me down because I'm incognito, but so are all of you to varying degrees. Especially the men. I'm incognito because I want to say what my truthful opinions are. I'm a pretty blunt person, I don't need to make up some story about a dude emailing me, etc etc. If I wanted to say all this I would have. SOMEONE ELSE emailed this to me and explained they needed it to be done for therapy. Originally Posted by incognito isis

DUDE!! No one is pointing fingers at you!! "It wasn't me"!!!!!"I can prove it"!!!!"I can prove it"!!!! Chill!!

What are you talking about? Your the one who sent me the message and told me your provider GF needed to get this off her chest, and asked me if I would put it up. Now your saying that there were multiple authors to this?? Well shit, if you didn't know who or how many people wrote this, then why did you send it to me asking for help?? In your PM, you said this was directly from the provider. Now your saying you don't know who the author(s) are?

So is the lady your GF or not? Why did you tell me it was? I have your PM saying so. I know everyone thinks I wrote this, but I have proof I didn't. I don't know if I'm allowed to forward PM's. YOU told me to help YOUR GF out. Now your acting all illusive like you don't know whats going on, when everyones pointing the finger at me. Originally Posted by incognito isis

So, now you are revealing that is all revolves around personal communications info, and THAT is against the rules.

#9 - No form of private communications between members are to be posted in our forums. This includes the contents of emails, PMs, IMs, private chat logs, privately shared images, etc. This is an invasion of another's privacy and will not be allowed.

Well that is certainly an angry little letter, not sure what sort of therapy she is getting from it, especially by choosing to remain anonymous?

Either way, provider or hobbyist...we are all fucked up in our own little ways...

It is probably best that this person decided to retire, with that angry tone it probably wouldn't have been much longer before she chopped off some poor bloke's knob! Originally Posted by Valerie

So true! Everyone is fucked up!!!

So, now you are revealing that is all revolves around personal communications info, and THAT is against the rules. Originally Posted by Chica Chaser

What if they give you permission to do so?

I didn't really discern the separate parts, but I wasn't really thinking about it. I did notice my attention rapidly dissipated as the tirade turned into a list of things.

I also agree that most of the people I meet are at least tolerable. Nice is such a nondescript description of anything, so I don't care to use it.

Seriously though, good for you lady if you stopped something that was bad for you and that you weren't enjoying. For those who remain behind you, we have a plethora of reasons for doing what we do. We also have the same amount of choices, and in this job a lot more choices than we would have working a 9 - 5.

If you have spent all your time seeing men who disgust you, gross you out, and harass you, take a lesson and gain a little horse sense while you're out there in the real world. From my experience, I find those people exist everywhere, and depending on who you ask, I might be one of them, too (so might you). Get over it. Focus on what's positive to you and leave the rest for some other lifetime.

We don't have to do anything we don't really want to do unless we're desperate for some reason we probably have created ourselves. Look inward to heal love - outward won't help you heal - it will just prolong your misery.

Read the rules again. If they want something posted, they are welcome to post it themselves. It is not up to you or your responsibility to post on anyones behalf.

if this was authored by one woman that used to be a provider she definately needs help and was quite right in getting out of the business and probably should of never of gotten into this business with all the feelings she has or had about her clients.
Most providers are aware of the situation going in and realize the hobby is not a perfect world and with it comes ridicule and a life of secrets and little white lies to get you thru the day.
It can also be very rewarding if it is looked on the right way and you will find friends in weird places as you go thru this business and with that being said ...this is not for everyone and you have to be able to handle all the crap that goes with the good and a lot of people enjoy theirselves as providers and clients and are adult enough to handle the situations .
Im sure there is burn out and im sure there are prick clients that make providers wonder what the hell they are doing and hopefully when it gets to the point that you have to get out of the hobby you can leave and put it all behind you and say well that was an interesting time of my life and go on.
I wish the best to anyone that decides this is no longer their choice of occupation and wants out to something better but dont turn around and bash the same people for doing what you just got finished trying.
Just get out ..dont look back and go on !! life will go on.

We don't have to do anything we don't really want to do unless we're desperate for some reason we probably have created ourselves. Look inward to heal love - outward won't help you heal - it will just prolong your misery. Originally Posted by amusemeant

So true.................

Read the rules again. If they want something posted, they are welcome to post it themselves. It is not up to you or your responsibility to post on anyones behalf. Originally Posted by Chica Chaser

ok no problem. rules are the rules and they got to be followed.
I don't know why she wouldn't just put it up herself, you know? If she is retiring then who cares? Maybe she was afraid of hurting the wrong persons feelings. IDK.

Why does everyone here have issues with people expressing themselves? Originally Posted by incognito isis

I don't think you wrote this but I will answer this question. It's not that I have a problem with anyone expressing themselves, as I have read some of your blog and actually agree on somethings you say.

However, when a provider posts something of this nature and makes it seem like all providers think this way is when I get defensive. Also, if you are expressing distain for something were you don't have to be, well sorry I can't feel sorry for you. If you don't like it leave. I don't go to a concert because I hate who is on the bill and then complain about how I was not entertained. I don't join an interest group where my views are completely different from the group and then bash them for what they are trying to accomplish. That would be insulting and they would probably say "WELL IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, LEAVE" It would be exhausting to willfully be places where I don't want to be. Like I am making my life unpleasant on purpose. So how could I complain legitimately.

Strangely I don't attract weirdos. Probably because I try to make my choices in what I say, where I go, and what I do wisely and with a good interaction in mind. MIND: that is the operative word here. That is were it's all at.

So carry on say what you need to say, and be ready to take the shit you might get for it. Confidently. Meaning don't say what you need to say and then ask why people have a problem with it. Because it's not that people have a problem with the fact that you are expressing yourself, but what you are expressing and everyone has a right to disagree and express why.