Overnights: like them or not?

In life, I try my best to spend money on things that I find to be worthwhile. That being said, if a provider asked me to stay over, what possible reason would I have to say no? Because I have an obligation bright and early the next morning? Or because that's not the kind of thing I'd ever pay for?


Thus I would never approach a provider and ask for an overnight in exchange for compensation. If I ever have a provider offer it to me complimentary then I may choose to discuss the experience on this forum, though the identity of the woman would remain classified. In this particular case money has proven itself more valuable than time, because I can always choose to do something else while I'm awake or sleep by myself for free. I don't claim to represent other men, but personally I choose not to pay for "dates." Originally Posted by Pangolier

Overnights/All day can be fun and the per hour rate is extremely lower than a 1 or 2 hour session. The thing about it is, I am not paying a provider to sleep at night nor sit and watch tv during the day, we are going to be having some sort of sexual activity pretty much during the entire time we are together.

As far as dating goes, you pay for it, from buying the meal, drinks and the entertainment. The difference is, with a provider, you get sex on that first date and you do not have to listen to their personal problems, in the real world, after you spent all that money, you are probably going to get a kiss on the cheek or a friendly hand shake at the end of the date.

...As far as dating goes, you pay for it, from buying the meal, drinks and the entertainment. The difference is, with a provider, you get sex on that first date and you do not have to listen to their personal problems, in the real world, after you spent all that money, you are probably going to get a kiss on the cheek or a friendly hand shake at the end of the date. Originally Posted by Wile E Coyote

Never understood why us in the hobby try to use this tired sentiment. Dating & marriage are entirely separate from the hobby, so why try to tear them down?


There are many stories in the hobby of sharing TMI. Many providers describe listening to clients as part of their work. And yes, you may not get sex on the first date, but when the sex starts, you can get a weekend of sex for less than $150.00 But the price isn't the important thing. She will listen to your problems too. (pretty chauvinistic to think of only "their personal problems"). It's just a tired trope.

Overnights/All day can be fun and the per hour rate is extremely lower than a 1 or 2 hour session. The thing about it is, I am not paying a provider to sleep at night nor sit and watch tv during the day, we are going to be having some sort of sexual activity pretty much during the entire time we are together.

As far as dating goes, you pay for it, from buying the meal, drinks and the entertainment. The difference is, with a provider, you get sex on that first date and you do not have to listen to their personal problems, in the real world, after you spent all that money, you are probably going to get a kiss on the cheek or a friendly hand shake at the end of the date. Originally Posted by Wile E Coyote

So are you saying that if I go on a date with a girl, and we split the dinner tab, that I paid for the gas mileage on my drive to the restaurant? Or maybe the clothes I wore that night? The same clothes I probably bought weeks or months ago for some other intended purpose, such as wearing them to a business function. I also pay an electric bill each month, and that has nothing to do with women as a species.


If at this juncture I decided I wanted a formal date, I'd go out and look for one. That's not in the cards for me at this particular moment, but if it was and the woman I met asked me to pay her for her "time", I'd be behind the wheel of my vehicle with an empty passenger seat, and she'd be standing on the sidewalk hailing a taxi. I don't see why it's so hard for some people to distinguish between dating and soliciting. Granted, there's also a very distinct difference between having a girlfriend and having a woman "attached" to a man where money is a factor in the attachment. I think most causal dates are less likely to experience financial benefits when compared to long term partners or spouses.

... Many providers describe listening to clients as part of their work. And yes, you may not get sex on the first date, but when the sex starts, you can get a weekend of sex for less than $150.00 But the price isn't the important thing. She will listen to your problems too. (pretty chauvinistic to think of only "their personal problems"). It's just a tired trope. Originally Posted by papadee

I am a man who is heavily weighted by problems. I try hard to keep smiling. But there have been many times when the weight I carry has been more than I can bear.

Female friends have been available for me to open up to, but I need to trust them first.

When talking to a provider, there is already a level of trust between us. She has a secret identity that she needs to protect.

I have experienced my self that providers are often the best listeners and therapists.

Done it. Did it. Love it. Enjoy it. Will continue to enjoy overnights with some amazing lovers!!

I’ve done overnights before, and I have enjoyed them. I realize that’s a long time for a lady to be on her game, so I usually have some downtime planned.

I have to know her some before considering. I personally think it is worth it, though I understand some question paying her to sleep.

What’s your thoughts? Done it, wouldn’t do it?

Ladies, is it difficult to be working that long? Do you like to sleep I. Your own bed? Would you do it with the right client? Originally Posted by Goose7093

I done them a lot , and have always enjoyed them
we do fun things outside of the incall or outside of the outcall .. Dinner and movies and that's what he want's and just relaxing and With BCD fun

and really only do them with someone I like a lot and can hang with then longer then 3hrs ,,

Nothing like trying to sleep with someone you don't know much
I have hard time sleeping with strangers any ways ,,
who knows what could happen
I need a lot of trust to sleepover

I would NEVER do an overnight in N.J.(not to mention, anywhere in this country.) This of course, is not to be slanderous against all providers....but rather, I've had far too many bad experiences with 2 hour appointments.
There's just far too many bad apples out there(not to mention that my options are severely limited by my budget and not having a car)....but then paying higher prices, is no guarantee of quality service.
A good example of this...is that pre-Covid, the prices were somewhat reasonable for providers and then post-Covid, prices were and are, astronomical.
I mainly dealt with Tryst.link for my companionship needs, but that website has always been replete with providers running deposit scams. In the last year or so, Tryst has been an absolute nightmare, as the average going rate for an hour, is 500 roses. Even more horrendous is that all you get for that money, are bad attitudes, bad service, women expecting you to pay their Uber fees and most of them are 500lbs skanks with blue hair, tattoos and more hardware on their face than a toolbox. That being said....I NEVER did an overnight...for 2 reasons...firstly, I'm not spending thousands of dollars(just to run the serious risk of getting drugged and robbed in my sleep...or having her skip out and leave after I fall asleep.)
Nearly 2 years ago, I had given up on hobbying altogether...but then in November(after I spent 6 months saving my money) and having my cousin pay for my airfare & hotel(as he was afraid to fly)... so he gladly helped me get to Bangkok, just for me accompanying him to Thailand.
In terms of companionship, Thailand is like a different planet....as the culture is wildly different.
Unlike the U.S....were typically, the women are groomed from an early age to be greedy, ungrateful, spoiled and entitled....Thailand women are generally very warm, caring, attentive, down to earth, compassionate and very passionate about their work.
In total...I saw 5 different women and NEVER had a bad experience. In fact....there was one woman in particular that became my regular girl and I spent 4 overnight stays with her.

Right from the beginning, when I read her profile online...to when we chatted on WhatsApp, I knew she was something special. When we were arranging a date, I was originally going to go for a 2-hour date...but as we communicated further, she told me she was going to be late, because she said she was waiting for her landlord to finish fixing her toilet and she was so worried about me thinking that she was trying to scam me and she went out of her way to reassure me that she was being honest and she was desperate to get into my good graces...she was really sweet about all of it and I was impressed by her candor(so much so, that I decided to upgrade the date to an overnight date.) She was absolutely thrilled by this and she was so intent on trying to minimize the delay to our date, that instead of taking the train....she sprung for a taxi ride(& she lives 30 minutes away from the hotel I was staying at.) The taxi ride took a bit longer than usual, because she said that the taxi driver took the wrong route and she even sent me a picture of the taxi and sent me a screenshot of a map, which indicated were she was....so unbelievably thoughtful of her and at that point, I was so very excited to meet this woman!
Since this was an overnight date and since it was obvious that this was a respectable lady, my plan was to take her out to dinner and get to know her a bit before we engaged in the main event.
However....within 10 to 15 minutes of chatting, she began seducing me and she got me more excited than I can ever remember getting and the first encounter was the most magical...as the chemistry was insane!
As time went on, the date grew increasingly exciting and we did everything...dinner, cruising the mall, shopping, bar hopping and we took countless photos of each with our phones(& I had NEVER done anything like this with an escort before.)
I booked her for 3 more overnight stays and it was a full-on, no holds barred GFE experience, as she was my caretaker...as she did everything for me. Since I am disabled and my walking is limited, she went to the store for me, made sure I traversed the streets safely and when she saw that the shower stall had no rubber bath mat in it, she was pissed and since none of the rooms had bath mats, she made one of the employees go out and buy a bath mat.
In addition to what I had saved, I had a credit card with a $2,000 limit...but towards the end of my vacation, I wanted to book my lady for the last 2 overnights...but when I went to the local bank, my credit card was red-flagged. I then told my lady of the situation and that I could not book her for both nights. She then told me not to worry, as she gave me two overnights for the price of one...what a sweetheart!
That said, I am NEVER hobbying in the U.S. ever again....not in my lifetime!
I've had 10 girlfriends in my adult life and NONE of them treated me this way.....so shocked and amazed by this wonderful woman! Her and I bonded and we still communicate online and do video chats to this day.
I was so deeply touched by how warm and nice everyone is in Bangkok and the whole experience made such a huge impression on me, that I already have a vacation planned for Bangkok and Pattaya...later in the year and eventually, I am moving to Thailand.
It was an utterly soul-crushing feeling, having to get back on the plane and leave behind my sweet little Thai lady....the most extraordinary woman I have ever met.
Ever since I have been back, I absolutely hate every minute of my existence in N.J. and just even being in the U.S. at all. When I leave for Thailand for good, I am never looking back.

Don't let the door hit you in the butt on your way out of the country. Good luck to your new adventure.

Don't let the door hit you in the butt on your way out of the country. Good luck to your new adventure. Originally Posted by CryptKicker

I'll already be on the plane, before my door closes. As for luck, I won't need any luck in Thailand.

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I done them a lot , and have always enjoyed them
we do fun things outside of the incall or outside of the outcall .. Dinner and movies and that's what he want's and just relaxing and With BCD fun

and really only do them with someone I like a lot and can hang with then longer then 3hrs ,,

Nothing like trying to sleep with someone you don't know much
I have hard time sleeping with strangers any ways ,,
who knows what could happen
I need a lot of trust to sleepover Originally Posted by LustyBustyGina38FF

Agree totally Gina. I've done overnights with ONE lady. I had seen her off and on for a couple of years. Then we started doing dinner dates every couple of months either when she visited KC and I was free, or if I was home alone for the weekend I would drive the 2 1/2 hours to see her and I would always take her to the best steakhouse in town, or in KC we'd go to the Bristol (her favorite) or 801 Chophouse, Sullivans or Scotch and Sirloin in Wichita. I pretty much saw her exclusively for the next year, and we would play every wednesday am when she came to KC. I didn't even have to schedule, she'd just let me know she was heading to town and she would leave the first appointment open for me. She'd leave me a key card and I let myself in, and "wake her when I arrived, We spend extra time just snuggling before and after. At one point after I had seen her for several years I broached with her if she'd like to stay after dinner ad playtime, and just snuggle up and watch dvds. At first she had reservations, ( I know alot of guys just want to rest up, and then get another crack at it). After a couple of months she agreed to give it a shot, since she would just go home to her appt by herself anyway, and didn't see anyone after our dinner dates. The first time we did it she suggested she would just stay the night, and I could "wake her" in the morning. No extra fee, just hang out. I did always give her a little extra, and I'd take her shopping somewhere nice sometimes as well. We had a marvelous time, and that became our regular date night for the next year or two until she retired. We'd get together every 5 or 6 weeks either here or where she lived. We'd stay together from Saturday afternoon until Sunday about noon. Even a couple of Sat to Monday in holiday weeks. She's been retired for about 5 years, and I still go to see her about every 3 months and we spend the evening together. I stay at her house. We've known each other real identities for years. I've met 3 of her 4 kids and her Mom. One of the truly wonderful women I've met in this crazy hobby.

I do agree though you really need to know someone, if your going to "sleep with them" and be comfortable, from both parties to be able to let your guard down.

Agree totally Gina. I've done overnights with ONE lady. I had seen her off and on for a couple of years. Then we started doing dinner dates every couple of months either when she visited KC and I was free, or if I was home alone for the weekend I would drive the 2 1/2 hours to see her and I would always take her to the best steakhouse in town, or in KC we'd go to the Bristol (her favorite) or 801 Chophouse, Sullivans or Scotch and Sirloin in Wichita. I pretty much saw her exclusively for the next year, and we would play every wednesday am when she came to KC. I didn't even have to schedule, she'd just let me know she was heading to town and she would leave the first appointment open for me. She'd leave me a key card and I let myself in, and "wake her when I arrived, We spend extra time just snuggling before and after. At one point after I had seen her for several years I broached with her if she'd like to stay after dinner ad playtime, and just snuggle up and watch dvds. At first she had reservations, ( I know alot of guys just want to rest up, and then get another crack at it). After a couple of months she agreed to give it a shot, since she would just go home to her appt by herself anyway, and didn't see anyone after our dinner dates. The first time we did it she suggested she would just stay the night, and I could "wake her" in the morning. No extra fee, just hang out. I did always give her a little extra, and I'd take her shopping somewhere nice sometimes as well. We had a marvelous time, and that became our regular date night for the next year or two until she retired. We'd get together every 5 or 6 weeks either here or where she lived. We'd stay together from Saturday afternoon until Sunday about noon. Even a couple of Sat to Monday in holiday weeks. She's been retired for about 5 years, and I still go to see her about every 3 months and we spend the evening together. I stay at her house. We've known each other real identities for years. I've met 3 of her 4 kids and her Mom. One of the truly wonderful women I've met in this crazy hobby.

I do agree though you really need to know someone, if your going to "sleep with them" and be comfortable, from both parties to be able to let your guard down. Originally Posted by KCFalcon77

Sounds like my sleepover guys , always a nice dinner or anything I want to do .
One I have seen from 2013 and the other one just met him last year off Twitter and heck after our first 4hr date I knew we where a match and then we did 2/4day sleep overs , he came from Nj to Dallas and then he had me come to NJ for the next sleep over date, Just waiting on the next one soon he want's to come Ca. for the warm weather.

When I first got into the hobby I would have love it, but never tried it. Now days I just want to hit it and quit it.

I turn into a Trex after 10pm.

I envy those who love overnights but that's when my selfish side takes over.

This thread is over 4 1/2 years old!

I stand by what I said back then and because of the timing, I am doing an overnight starting this Friday evening with a provider I have known for years and have had MANY 1 hour BCD sessions with. The extended chemistry, which is mandatory for an overnight, is definitely there. Yes, we will be going to dinner and a couple other social events which we have talked about and she will dress appropriately for (she is most definitely excellent arm candy).

After we get back to the hotel, her and I will shower and enjoy BCD activities until the wee hours of the morning. Very little, if any, sleeping is going to be involved. If you just pay for a provider to do an overnight and intend to just sleep in the bed with you, I am pretty sure any provider will do in that scenario.