I think the difference here is all in the tittles and what to expect as such. A provider You know what Your getting in and what to expect where a Domme You put Yourself at her mercy. I also know for fact most Dommes dont go all the way . It is what it is. It isnt so much judgment as in a difference of jobs. Provider is one thing and offers certain things where a Domme is that getting paid to dominate.
And again I am not casting judgment here. I would say that if I were having intercourse and Dominating a sub and taking their $ it would be on a personal basis and be considered financial domination and would have to form a lasting relationship first. Not for me, I go in render my victim helpless go directly to his fantasy and send him home. Everything very much on the level. I think its good to be open and honest about what services You provide and whats expected.
Some simply are not a good match period. I dont offer strap on play. Im not afraid, I have vibrators and prostate massagers, Yet Im all female and all find it out of My realm . Strange ? Maybe but to each their own. You can be a Domme and not offer everything Yet once You do standardize a full menu that makes You a provider.
Originally Posted by MistressToriLynn
Yes, I totally agree Tori... too many titles can interfere with a good conversation. All of this really boils down to what two consensual people want to do. I personally think that most pro domme's don't do sexual activities because they don't want to be known as hookers. I've seen / talked to lots of these ladies who say they have no issue with women who want to be prostitute, but there's a subtle undertone in their words (spoken and written) that leads me to believe they think the women to sell sex are lower than they are on the social totem poll.
I also know of a few dommes here locally who have provided sex to some long-time clients (traditional penetrative sex) because its something they enjoy and they feel comfortable with their submissive/slave. But it's very hush-hush. Their fear is that if it became common knowledge the domme community would shun them because they are no longer dommes, but hookers.
Domination takes many forms, and there isn't (in my opinion and experience) any one right or wrong way to do it. Everyone is going to have a different dynamic with their partner. And that dynamic may change as each person gets to know (and trust) one another after additional sessions together. I think that the roles are taken far too seriously for such a potentially emotionally deep bonding experience.
Of course, I'm a switch, and a mischevious and inventive one at that, so I dont' limit myself based upon a title. I do what feels right and comfortable with the person I'm playing with. I have some wonderful friends who have different tastes, but in the end we all agree we need to do what we all feel is right and best for ourselves.