Is it time to tap out?

what would be the best way to communicate with a provider without joining the ranks of flakes and jerks? Originally Posted by doopydoo

Send her a PM, tell her about your scheduling challenges up front like layinlow suggests. Be respectful and considerate. If she doesn't respond, doesn't like it, or can't deal with your situation, move on. Don't take rejection to heart, this is a business transaction. Some deals work out, some don't. As long as you don't set up an appointment and don't show, you'll never join the ranks of flakes and jerks.

Hello all
I guess I can't quite figure this community out? We have local providers, and travelers who are ECCIE members. We have guys that are local, I'm sure some like me, have to travel a ways to come to Albuquerque, and other ECCIE members who travel to our local. Not too many of you seem very happy with each other. Now, I don't indulge that often, but I'm having a blast! I have three ladies that I can contact and get together with right now! I am talking with another in Dallas prepping for a trip out there in the Summer. All are great ladies and a great time. Two were once on this site, kind of went UTR, but will play with me. My last review was with a beautiful lady that is a class lady. Planning on seeing her again and soon.
So, what's the problem with you guys? I'm no stud, I don't look like Brad Pitt, i don't have unlimited money to throw around. It isn't that hard. I might say the same thing about some of the ladies also. I see more reviews and inquiries for every new face that pops up on BP girls. Once, only once, did I get a PM in query concerning a eccie girl I was with. You ladies happy with this? One reason most of the local eccie ladies are also on BP is that there simply isn't the support from the guys here to provide whatever you want.
So, let me propose some suggestions here. First, act more like a community! I think way too many of you guys (I'm guessing your young and new), just want a BNG. That will not support the ladies. That simply endangers them and you. Also, from my perspective, that really makes them simply some object. Not cool! Secondly, ladies, what's the deal with busting our balls over verification? I get the idea of wanting to be safe! I support that. But, if a prospective guy is a member here, with a track record, and your a member of this site, looking for clients from this site, well, then what the hell! Stop the requiring verification from some other site! Third, guys, how about some interaction other than looking for nookie? I've had a blast on the main site. It's a good way to let the ladies know your somebody. Interact so some of the ladies you might be interested in just might get a feeling of what kind of guy you are? Ladies, you bored? Looking for business? Need a little pick me up? How about you do a little putting it out there? See who the local guys are? See who they've been with. PM the lady, was the guy worth the time? Then just maybe you might PM the guy and let him know you would be interested in them! I don't know too many guys who get a message from a lady interested in him who isn't going to at least appreciate it! Hell, if Dakota PM'ed me because she talked with somebody I'd been with and thought I'd be a blast, WOW!!! (That was easy, might not work, but it was easy). You can do the same thing guys. Plan ahead, show some interest! That's why we can PM each other! Don't be weird, but maybe if you would talk to each other, hell, maybe you might enjoy each other more. Or don't! Originally Posted by Hermosa

Agree with your statement wholeheartedly. I think it would be beneficial to share information with each other, and fortunately, I have had a couple people do just that with me. I see nothing wrong with people PMing each other asking about their review, or the lady that they saw. Good to be more like a community than some cold hooker forum.

Love this thread! Hermosa- while I'm with Brielle and will not be PM'ing guys I haven't met you. Not for slutty, just not my thing. I would enjoy more community, beyond reviews.

For the "on call" guy (Doopydoo)- may I suggest contacting a lady or two, getting the verification complete with the understanding of time may vary as On Call work situation. Or finding someone, hmm like me, that can logistically work with that. For locals who use hotels, random on the spot notice can be a problem.

Love this thread! Hermosa- while I'm with Brielle and will not be PM'ing guys I haven't met you. Not for slutty, just not my thing. I would enjoy more community, beyond reviews.

For the "on call" guy (Doopydoo)- may I suggest contacting a lady or two, getting the verification complete with the understanding of time may vary as On Call work situation. Or finding someone, hmm like me, that can logistically work with that. For locals who use hotels, random on the spot notice can be a problem. Originally Posted by MaggieMayI

In response to MaggieMay and the "On call gent". The conversations I see are, I think, exactly what we need. We all have our special needs. Some security, some can only make quick encounters, some are uncomfortable about reaching out (ladies PM to guys), and so forth. The fact that we can bring them out and talk about them is how we get to know and understand this community. Maybe someone you just didn't think you would be interested in, you find out maybe you are? Maybe someone you approached, now might be a little more understanding? That just might help out the guy with a weird schedule. My point is that by a little more "non professional" chatter just might lighten the mood!
That leads this little my little brain with a thought? Do any of you ladies look at us guys, read what you can from the reviews, talk among yourselves, share information? The guys do, and that leads them to PM you! I would think any guy that saw one of you and said they had a good time, and you talked to the lady (you know?) how he was, and then you PM'ed him telling him how much SusiQ enjoyed time with you and suggested that we could have a great time. So, what do you think? I Just don't think very many guys here would consider a lady slutty for getting a PM from any of you. That might not mean a "transaction", but I really don't think it would be perceived as slutty or cheap. We are in the 21st century, I thought you ladies were trying to be more "In control"? Just my thinking and I really like the interaction. Now, my next idea is a meet and greet potluck or something, I do have a strange brain I'm working with.

Chiming in here.. I gotta say that I have been to ABQ several times and have had nothing but good experiences until my last trip.. A few pre-booked and NCNS me.. I know I am no porn star and probably will never go as high as some of these girls do with donations because I know what it takes to earn that $$ to play...So I try my best to stay reasonable no matter what part of the country you are in... bottom line..you get what you pay for in life..near beer budget ...near beer flavor..Great value cheerios obviously are never going to taste as good as the name brand.. You want a diamond you don't go to walmart...you go to Jared's... I am just saying..

Totally agree with everyone chiming in.
Love the thought of PM interaction.
Just like fishing not every cast gets a bite.
Xoxo to all you lovely ladies.