" I'm marketing to a certain income bracket, not trying to make as much money as possible."
Wouldn't it be more straightforward to simply state on your website that you are only interested in men with an income > $X and interested in an ongoing arrangement?
Originally Posted by Laurentius
Oh god no, that would be awful. Anyone that has contacted me with the express interest of having an arrangement from the start has been a total mess. Being in an arrangement with someone I can't sincerely enjoy would be an express ticket to abject misery.
Like any long term relationship, there has to be a period of courtship. Who wants to date a woman who talks about marriage from their first meeting? That's very much how I feel about it. I want to connect without expectations, looking to have fun. Then over time if we realize something really good has developed and we want to keep it, that's the time to discuss an arrangement.
Besides, your suggestions would likely lead to exclusivity requests. I can't stand the power imbalance of such relationships, when someone is your only support they start abusing it - power breeds corruption.
Worse yet, he moves on emotionally, or his life forces him to move on - then what? Starting from scratch each time isn't very appealing. Any time I've lost an arrangement it takes me eight months to a year and a half to meet someone and get to know each other well enough that we both think it's something that would be mutually gratifying.
Now I use a pool of three, which gives greater stability. Even so, I end up with 2 new sex partners every year.)
Hilariously amusing: three does seem to be the magic number. I have come to this conclusion and heard of other arrangement based companions and polyamorous civi people say it!!!
So wouldn't that be a failure in your rate system to remove someone from the pool with whom you would prefer not to be intimate? If you'd simply list what $X is, and it were greater than my income, I would self-deselect even if your rates were within my scope. The self-deselection would serve to guarantee a pool more compatible with your mate-choice preferences.
If a gent can afford frequent dates based on my website, then he can afford X. Frequent dates come first, to ensure compatibility and sincerity, talking about an arrangement comes later.