Management

I'm pretty sure nobody asked for this mess.

Oh my! Someone must teach me to multi-quote.

To OP and Bartipero-First, agreed that this is an open forum for questions to be answered, but let me give you this scenario.

If I am on a race car forum because I like driving fast cars, but have no intention of repairing my own or others, what sense does it make for me to get on the forum and ask what the ins and outs are of the auto repair business?

I have never had a pimp (except the agency) but they are just like depicted, except usually not so glamorous. I actually started escorting because I figured I would take my chances with random people abusing me instead of getting the shit beat out of me at home and making fast money was my only way to really get away. Thankfully, I fell into good hands with a female run agency where this abuse did not continue, but had I not, I'm sure things would have continued.

To answer your question of hitting a trigger with me? You hit a big fucking trigger with me. I was tricked into what turned out to be an abusive marriage. So I will come right out and tell you a little Sunday afternoon story, in hopes that someone reading this will gleam a better idea into the cycle of power and control and why any woman from any background can be subject.

I have always been an independent person and certainly am now... in all aspects of my life.

The honeymoon period lasted 4 years until I had a newborn, was not working and had no transportation. It wasn't everyday, but when it happened, I was physically and mentally broken. I was too ashamed to leave the house until the bruises went away, usually weeks. It took me 4 years of isolation, and being driven to a lake, with all intentions of being murdered. I escaped and I ran barefoot through tall grass in the rain all night to get away. How did I run so injured? Where was I running to? I didn't even know where I was! I was running from death, to find a way to pick up my baby from the sitters, which was my responsibility.

I was so fucked up in the head that I didn't want to bring drama to my family, so I didn't even go to the hospital. I stitched myself up and laid in my bed traumatized, believing the lie that somehow I caused this. A day later when I couldn't breathe, because 1 of the 8 ribs that were broken or fractured, punctured my lung. Even then, I tried to protect my abuser with my black eye, busted lip, cut up feet, bruises from head to toe etc.

The hospital knew exactly what the hell had happened and I refused to admit it because I didn't want my son to have a father in jail or be taken from me as my abuser had brainwashed me into believing this would happen...and there was so much chaos and headtrash that I couldn't even think straight. The verbal abuse really helps out with the control...probably more so than the gun to the head. I am highly educated, smart, came from an upper-middle class family and am resourceful..... but even I was beaten down to a place where I was too shamed to even go in public.

You, Bigpussycocklicker, have publically displayed your lack of intelligence, inability to educate yourself or get along with others along with your lack of knowledge on the cycle of abuse. It's strongly based on power and control...psychologically. The physical part is when a woman does try to leave or threatens the control the man has over her. Glad you think it is so easy to just leave, but that's actually the time that a woman is in the greatest amount of danger. Please google the cycle of power and control...I'm sure YOU won't, just putting it out here to educate others.

I am very sorry that your mother or wife or whoever it was manipulated you so horribly that you now spit your venom onto providers. I truly mean that and can imagine several scenarios which cause men to become women haters, as well as offer some solutions to working it out, however I am quite sure it will fall on deaf ears.

Regarding terminology, totally agree with Sins.

When I started, I had to look up what the hobby meant, Guys kept talking about it and I figured they were talking about golf or something. The agency or pimps don't like girls to know about the boards, for the possibility that they will get cut out of the game, so most of the women never even see this board. When I was finally hip to it, I had to google all terminology used about me in fantasy reviews, thinking, what did he say he was dreaming of? I had no clue. So agreed, unless someone starts you in this business (almost always for their own gain) you have no idea what's going on.

I want no pity for my story. It is intended to give you an illustration that even the most independent of women can be beaten down AND that I call bullshit on your whole fucked up mentality, you need some serious help and I mean that sincerely as well. . You are a threat to all women and I would encourage anyone reading this to never see this guy. He HATES women.

I would also encourage any man to not see a woman who is pimped. She gains nothing from it but pleasing her abuser. When she is no longer a commodity, she has a better chance of getting away.

If you are in an abusive relationship, it doesn't matter what you have been told. You are the victim, not the criminal. Any women's shelter will welcome you in no matter what the circumstances are. DV can happen with a SO, pimp or client. It doesn't have to be in a house or under a roof. It can be on the street. If you need help-
please call 816-HOTLINE. Originally Posted by Ari816

You two kids stfu now.

sounds like 4 years of bad choices
Without a clear understanding of what I have experienced or know you bash me?
well, that's cool, it is an internet forum and I dont exacty share who I am ,what I'm about, I tend to be a pot-stirer and just cause emotions to run amuck, mostly frustrations as I like to say the shit no one else would. because I got nothing to lose here, unlike in real life
DNS list based on how I/guys(no names!) act on an anonymous internet forum?
sure, do it, internet persona is more valid then real world references, right?


Your story reminds of a girl I know, who got married at 19/20 (brain, (frontal lobe) matures around 25, so before that you don't yourself, much less what guy to marry for life)
but she got married and now she through away years of grad school to get a job she complains about,. and when I'm around her and him and their 2 kids(he wants a 3rd) she is not healthy, doesnt take care of herself, he doesnt take care of her and yet he wants a 3rd kid....
he will sit in his chair and watch TV and let her take care of everything....cause he can't be bothered.


it's not bad, mostly because she is stronger, faster and a bitch when she gets mad,..so he could never phyisically hurt her, but he has such a grip on her mind and controls how she feels about herself, it's really sad to see.....
and she doesnt trust him to watch the kids, last time he did the oldest went to the ER because he hurt himself.


bad choices fueled by hormones, non-logical thoughts


same with the fat people who say over and over again, how they will lose fat and get into a healthier(less cancer/diabetes risk) bodies
again, hormones(npy/grehnlin/leptin(maybe) dopamine etc cause them to overeat and not make the best choice for their happiness.


It reminds me of 2 stories
1 about a mouse and a "medicine" and the mouse would forgot, sex/food to get this "medicine" that would affect his brain chemistry and lead to bad choices.
point being, things can cause you to not use your best judgement,,...just like staying with a guy who doesnt make you feel good/phyisically/mentally hurts you for years...? no, cause a mouse can't stop and think and move past the emotions/dopamine that the "medicine" is fucking with, people can...


and the other one you have heard., I'm sure, its from Breaking BAD
ie mike when he was a cop:

Mike Ehrmantraut: I used to be a beat cop, a long time ago. I'd get called on domestic disputes all the time. Hundreds, probably, over the years. But there was this one guy, this one piece of shit that I will never forget. Gordie. He looked like Bo Svenson. You remember him? Walking Tall? You don't remember?
Walter H. White: No.
Mike Ehrmantraut: Anyway, big boy, 270, 280 but his wife or whatever she was, his lady was real small, like a bird. Wrists like little branches. Anyway, my partner and I'd get called out there every weekend and one of us would pull her aside and say: "Come on, tonight's the night we press charges." This wasn't one of those "deep down, he loves me" setups. We got a lot of those, but not this. This girl was scared. She wasn't gonna cross him, no way, no how. Nothing we could do but pass her to the EMT's, put him a car, drive him downtown, throw him in a drunk tank. He sleeps it off, next morning, out he goes. Back home. But one night my partner's out sick, and it's just me. The call comes in and it's the usual crap. Broke her nose in the shower kind of thing. So I cuff him, put him in the car and away we go. Only that night we're driving into town and this sideways asshole is in my back seat humming "Danny Boy." And it just rubbed me wrong. So instead of left, I go right, out into nowhere. And I kneel him down and I put my revolver in his mouth and I told him, "This is it. This is how it ends." And he's crying, going to the bathroom all over himself. Swearing to God he's gonna leave her alone. Screaming, much as you can with a gun in your mouth. And I told him to be quiet. That I needed to think about what I was gonna do here. And, of course, he got quiet goes still and real quiet. Like a dog waiting for dinner scraps. Then we just stood there for a while, me, acting like I'm thinking things over and Prince Charming kneeling in the dirt with shit in his pants. And after a few minutes, I took the gun out of his mouth and I say, "So help me, if you ever touch her again I will such and such and such, and blah, blah, blah."
Walter H. White: It was just a warning?
Mike Ehrmantraut: Of course. Just trying to do the right thing. But two weeks later he killed her. Of course. Caved her head in with the base of a Waring blender. We got there, there was so much blood you could taste the metal. Moral of the story is I chose a half measure when I should have gone all the way. I'll never make that mistake again. No more half measures, Walter.



--so I understand overeating and staying with a guy who abuses you, I understand the biology, since there is no logic, that causes you to do it
I understand you dont know I know this stuff, duh why would you? Do I want to share my undertanding . my life on a hooker board?
no I'd rather do what I do.


but no matter what i think , it's still a choice to stay with an abuser or to stay fat


granted some choices are hard to make, you must look at the pros and cons of each choice and not let the emotional factor interfere
people rarely do that




I dont care abou that,it's just an internet forum after all, but try to take into account things you dont know and things you don't know you dont know
Your tale reminds of me Breaking Bad, ie Mikes story from when he was a beat cop,
said about good/bad/honorable
I like it, it might help you shed some light on judging guys(no names) based on words said on an internet forum"Mike Ehrmantraut: I've known good criminals and bad cops, bad priests, honorable thieves-you can be on one side of the law or the other, but if you make a deal with somebody, you keep your word. You can go home today with your money and never do this again, but you took something that wasn't yours and you sold it for a profit. You're now a criminal; good one, bad one-that's up to you." Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

*Anyone who agrees please reply or like this post* Originally Posted by Ari816

Agree x100!

To KC810M-

I have 70+ reviews on this board alone and you have 2....and YOU tell me to STFU? You have stepped out my friend.
Don't read the post or waste space on the page if you have nothing to contribute to an educational conversation but that.

Unlike you, there are lots of people who like what I have to say, so keep steppin back to, where is it you say you are from...Alaska?

Unlike you, there are lots of people who like what I have to say Originally Posted by Ari816

Count me as one of them Ari.

A trauma physiologically changes the brain and can influence normal functioning.
FACT-http://psychcentral.com/blog/archive...ges-the-brain/! Originally Posted by Ari816

so Im lost?
being abused means you can'tmake logical choices anymore? so how do you get out of an a busive relationship?

-I'm seriously curious as a girl I've known since high school and I still try to see, is in one. She posts on myspace and now fb how great everything is and makes her hubby look great, but I know the guy and I know what I see when i hang out with her and him... I said that no, he can't physically hurt her, but her mind is in his control and her pride/etc won't let her admit ,. except rarely to me, what a moron/etc he is/..but marriage 2 kids and she' stuck with him.,..he is her everything, she isnt happy, but keeps telling me it'll get better.. I think she's a fucking moron to think that(and I tell her so) but you are saying what?
what should I get from that link? that she her "abuse" has made her an illogical moron? what is the solution? anything

Hell yes you should eliminate people based on how they act on the board, men or women.[/B] You sit down and write the shit that comes out of your head. The same head you carry into an appointment. Just because you flip the script and want to be dominated once you get there, doesn't change the mentality coming along with it! Originally Posted by Ari816;1057219744
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huh?
so you think my idea of saying shit to stir the pot and get a recation from the peons is the same thinking I carry into an appointment with a girl I'm paying $ 200/hour?
yeah, that doesnt make sense,,,,but LOL ok carry on

Should you use ECCIE for verification of men, Hell NO. This is a chat board, there is no screening to join or post at all. I screen based on my intuition, which has rarely led me long...thanks to the 'hyper vigilance" I was gifted with from the domestic violence, I am extra cautious. Yes, if I see "red flags" on the board, I will eliminate you before you ever contact me. Now that would be really manipulative, wouldn't it. Think you are a dick and then see you and take your money anyway.




And finally, may I "school" you for a moment, as you seem to be ignorant as to who I am and my position in this community.

• I have been on this board many years longer than you and know much more than you.
• I am highly respected as one of KC's premiere providers by both hobbyists and providers.
• I am not an emotional train wreck who is or causes drama on the boards or in person.
• I am a positive upbeat person, who knows a troll when I see one, but hijacks their posts to get an important message out to the masses.
• I have earned this reputation, as you have yours. In large part due to my posts on the boards as well as validation of those who have met me.
• I've lost money over the years by weeding out people like you. BAHAHAHA, quite the opposite my friend but that kind of psychology is way out of your league. Guess what? Guys like smart girls who decline to see people like you.
• I am the last bitch you want to start shit with, and that is a FACT my friend.

*Anyone who agrees please reply or like this post*
I will take my posting violation points today because what I had to say is more important than points on a public board. What I won't take is people like you who have ruined this board. I will just point myself off with whatever I have to say when it's bullshit. I have been just ignoring the board for most of the last year, due to the lack of
stimulation, that is, of the mind and negativity that I don't want in my life. Now I will try a different approach. I will use you and others like you as a platform for whatever it is I want to say, because you make it so fucking EASY! Originally Posted by Ari816

LOL
you are giving me credit for ruining this board?
I dont understand that

you are "a bitch I dont want to start shit with"
eh what the heck are you talking about?
what did I start with you? nothing, eh?

""sticks and stones" remember, everything here is just words
I don't know anything that's been started, this has all been very amusing, sorta
What saddens me is because the curtain has been drawn,
Whenever I see your name/read your posts now, I won't see an attractive girl who hooks .
I will see an immature girl who is powerless to protect hersel and makes bad choices and carrys tons of baggage..and shares it all at the drop of a hat

yeah, someone I would never want to see

You two kids stfu now. Originally Posted by kc810m

LOL
yeah, I'm not even sure how this came about?
but I'm really only here for the LOLZ and maybe occasional hooker when I have time

just make better choices
remember
luck is preparation meeting opportunity and this:

Read all of the words asshat...

REDFLAG: It's people like you, "like" being the operative word. (takes credits for all asshats on here)

RED FLAG: Tell my life's story at the drop of a hat....REALLY? I have been on this board for 6 years and never talked about this shit. You wouldn't believe how many hits I've had on my site since responding to your idiotic posts...keep making an ass of yourself, you are good for my business. (demeaning of women, again)

RED FLAG: Please stop calling your friend a moron. You are the fucking moron and part of the abuse at this point in her life. (verbally abusive of even female FRIENDS)

YOU aren't even close to my league, so there really is no reason to read my posts, as you won't understand. I love that you refer to a 200 girl in your post. That's good shit.

YOU aren't even close to my league, so there really is no reason to read my posts, as you won't understand. I love that you refer to a 200 girl in your post. That's good shit. Originally Posted by Ari816

200 is hdh rates in his book Ari. Because he is arrogant and clueless, he doesn't even realize how ridiculous he looks with these exchanges with you. I mean hell, he can't even figure out that what he writes in his posts has a direct bearing on whether a provider will see him or not. It's just "words" afterall, but the rest of us know "words" can be powerful as it shows a persons mindset, respect, and general makeup. As it's been stated before, you own what you write here, and I'm positive he is already on quite a few providers dns list.

BCPL and KC810M ruined this thread almost from the beginning. We're done here and my thread hijack infraction button is warming up!