Its not intimidation, its my own lack of self confidence. I know its a P4P world but everyone enjoys being liked, even you macho guys on here. My problem is age. I am 65 years old but still enjoy playing. To go see a young lady, would make me feel like she would be thinking, damn what a old fart.
Originally Posted by Ranchhand
Three things to consider.
First, most ladies even in civilian life seem to be attracted to older men; perhaps just the socialization or the (outdated?) view of a male partner as "protector," or a symptom of daddy-love. For whatever reason. It seems fairly common and many women think there's nothing odd about dating (and having sex with) a guy 10 - 15 years older.
Second, even if we're not whom they would pick for a serious romantic relationship (I'm certainly not), that doesn't mean they wouldn't enjoy time with us. Unless there's something particularly repulsive about you (most likely personality or attitude, certainly not age), they probably will like you and enjoy spending time with you. It's not always loathing hidden behind a pleasant mask to keep the customer satisfied. In fact, often it's not.
Third, the ladies who don't fit into the above two statements are (in my limited experience) disproportionately under 30 or even 25. The reaction you anticipate is a sign of immaturity. (Note: I've encountered a few ladies under 30 who shared the mature worldview of the older ladies.)
I'm 58. The vast majority of the independent ladies I've seen in the past 10 years have been between 15 and 30 years younger. I'm an old fart, but my best guess is that very few of the ladies I've seen think of me that way. I think I would know, because I'm sensitive to the possibility. Of course, I mostly avoid the under 25 crowd.
A lack of confidence is itself unattractive. More so than age or appearance or any of a number of things.
It's also a choice. Choose to be confident and I can just about guarantee that Cathy and Reese -- both adorable sweethearts -- will really like you, for more than just the $$$ you lay on the table. In fact, if you're confident, you may intimidate Reese a bit until she gets to know you.