Who the fuck ever said I wanted change????? In fact I hope the drama continues for years to come. My Hobbying days are pretty much coming to an end so the drama will be the ONLY reason my ass will be coming on here. As much PA as I have built up I am not gonna close my account even when I do find a real GF. When there's no bickering going on this place turns dull very quickly.
Originally Posted by Little Monster
@LM OKAY, you're right...you may not want change, but
the rest of us do. This thread reflects that people want a playful space where we can be friendly and familiar with people who share our affinity for sex and the Hobby again.
We used to tell jokes, share memes, retell funny stories from the real world, and it was the exception (not the rule) that someone was berated or slandered in coed.
Our providers used to contribute a lot more, and as a result, we wanted to see them more--not for their bodies but because they turned on another part of us (and the bodies too, of course). Now, our providers are reluctant to post, lest they be slammed by other users--male and female.
I mark the decline of Coed around the same time that an infection started to spread among the men of ECCIE (no, not an STD). The infection was the willingness/desire to call our providers
whores. Whore, in particular, is an offensive name. Yes, they know they are prostitutes; we know they are prostitutes--so why say it? There is NO reason to call ANY other human by a derogatory name. It leads me to believe that misogyny in now endemic in Austin ECCIE...no wonder our fantastic providers are gun-shy. I am no angel; I've had my dander up more than once on the board and said some things I wish I could take back, but the ubiquity of insulting our women is not healthy: it's sociopathic and it's abuse.
Little Monster, I'm sorry if you're hurting, but hurting other people is not the kind of drama the rest of us want! Channel your energy into being a leader of camaraderie not dissension.
Whispers has been bashed in this thread too. I remember a time when Whispers' contributions really were sage, his advice was sought, and through his guidance, our board thrived! But somewhere along the way, he got sidewise with some folks who started making personal attacks against him, insulting his appearance, for example. I'm not sure he was ever the same on the boards after those few months.
For those of us that have been here for years (and definitely those who came over from ASPD), we know these things are cyclical, that "long summers make for hot tempers," but also that attitudes can chill. We NEED to hit the reset button and allow some space for peace and respect in this community.
Pretty-please, with sugar on top?