2017 BBBJ Queen Competition

1st world white people problems.

Well.... that'll weed out a bunch of participants!! Originally Posted by Wizard of Ahhhhs

Little does she know, I am a dickhead. I'm just not a dickhead if it's unwarranted. :P

I mean, put yourself in my shoes. If someone said you can't be in a competition (which I really don't care to compete with anyone anyways) because you don't do CIM, but you can be their fluffer, how would you feel? That's like saying you're not good enough to play football but you can be the water boy! So basically I would just be there being everyone's little "fluffer" fluffing everyone up for this contest & what title do I get? The best dick fluffer of KC? I think I'll stick to the title I have made for myself, which is one hell of a reputation! Originally Posted by Kat VonDee

Kat, I'm so, so sorry. It was not an intentional slight at all, but I can see what you're saying.

I'm just trying to have fun with this contest. That's all. Nothing more. I have indicated to you many times that I admire you, and wish nothing but wonderful things for you. Please know that nothing about that has changed. I just was not thinking about things the same way you did. It was not malicious on my part. I swear to you. The only BEST BBBJ provider anyway is the one that the client says is BEST. That's all that matters. This friendly contest would not have changed that fact. It would have just been a little friendly shit talking, and some sexy lady wearing a tiara with penises on it. It was not intended to undercut anyone's skills or business acumen.

You have an amazing reputation. You are top shelf. Men and women alike know it. My faux paus has not diminished that. I will never be in the same caliber, provider-wise as you, and I know it.

I hope you forgive me. I'm truly sorry. This whole thing is now making me revisit having this competition at all. I mean, what's the purpose? Everyone has their favorite BBBJ provider regardless. I was just trying to make things different and fun. But it seems like no matter what, someone's feelings get hurt, or they try to take things in another direction, or turn it into a he said/she said. It is a complete buzzkill.

I'm sorry ~ Candice

Oh my goodness, I absolutely was not trying to insult anyone AT ALL! I was just trying to say since she didn't do CIM, maybe she could just come play with all the gals and guys in another capacity since she's desired and popular. I didn't realize that being a fluffer had a bad connotation!

And yes, she charges more than I do. Most women do. But I don't really pay attention to that because I believe we should all be allowed to run our businesses as we deem fit.

Again, many apologies to Kat, Gemma or whomever else might have taken offense. Seriously, I don't have a mean bone in my body (unless you're a dickhead or bitch who disparages me, then it's game on, dummies).

Please know that my intentions were PURE. I was trying to be inclusive since she showed interest in participating, but doesn't do CIM. I wish everyone would get to "know" me a little better and not think I wish unkindness to anyone. I hate getting clapped at on the boards when I honestly don't even know what I've done half the time!

Ever in resignation ~ Candice Originally Posted by seductrix4u

Damn, that went south fast. I read it the way Candice described. It seemed like Kat was playing along with the contest and Candice was interested in getting her involved in some capacity. I didn't think she was insulting her, but I hope Kat accepts her apology and we can get on with the fun. Knowing how much Candice likes girls, I'm sure she'd love to kiss and make up with Kat.

It seems no good deed goes unpunished Candice, but you have to admit it's pretty impressive that this thread went almost 3 pages before the shit hit the fan.

Back to business, I'd like to put my name in the hat, this is right up my alley.

It seems no good deed goes unpunished Candice, but you have to admit it's pretty impressive that this thread went almost 3 pages before the shit hit the fan.

Back to business, I'd like to put my name in the hat, this is right up my alley. Originally Posted by lakecat

Yeah, I'd call it a fucking miracle, Lakecat. What was I thinking?

This is right up a lot of guys' alleys. So maybe we can get it back on track. I hope so.

Now, I'm going to go look for my head and see if I can find a way to reattach it to my body.

Well that escalated quickly

Back to business, I'd like to put my name in the hat, this is right up my alley. Originally Posted by lakecat

Wow stud, I had no idea..

I thought they wanted a girl to be the "fluffer"..but hey, to each his own. Like our departed friend VK used to say, "It must just be his kind of fetish."

While you may be educated, the rest of us aren't dumb. You insulted Kat and you know it. Maybe I ruined your stupid contest...so what??!.. yes yes I'm so negative but I bet Ive made my point. Don't pretend to be all genuine when you slicing bitches in half... you should know that. I don't care for all the fake ass shit so whatever... keep on with the free ass donations.. I'll just observe.

You're a very intelligent woman, Candice. We've corresponded through messages. I may not have the level of education you have, but I do know when someone is low key insulting me & I am very intelligent in other aspects. I watch more than what I speak on these boards, & one thing I've noticed since I've been back, you're always in some competition for something & always trying to get the spotlight. I'm not saying that in a negative way, after all, we are all here for the same reason, but to try to knock another provider & basically imply I'm only good enough to be a fluffer in your competition, excuse my language, but you got me fucked up. & I have no doubt in my mind you knew that was an insult, you're not stupid.
Furthermore, I never implied I wanted to be in your contest, I left a little friendly message on your thread that turned into me getting offered a fluffer position. I may not be the BBBJCIM queen, but I am Queen in several other areas in my life. & a Queen will never be a fluffer, sorry.

While you may be educated, the rest of us aren't dumb. You insulted Kat and you know it. Maybe I ruined your stupid contest...so what??!.. yes yes I'm so negative but I bet Ive made my point. Don't pretend to be all genuine when you slicing bitches in half... you should know that. I don't care for all the fake ass shit so whatever... keep on with the free ass donations.. I'll just observe. Originally Posted by Gemma34

Gemma, this is uncalled for. I DID NOT intend to insult Kat at all. I realized it after she said so, and I have apologized, over and over again. I fucked up, but it was not intentional. So these accusations can just stop please.

I don't slice women in half. That is a statement not based in fact. I will ALWAYS support chicks over dicks. ALWAYS. I fucked up in inviting her to the contest as a fluffer. I just wanted her there to have some fun. I was not trying to be hurtful. Please stop making this something it's not.

I am not fake. I post my real name, my real age, my real dress size. I don't even dye my hair to make it a fake color. What exactly is fake about me?

As for my Hump Day contest where the winner gets a free date with me, guess what? It's MY pussy. If I want to lay down in the middle of my street and invite the whole neighborhood to fuck me, that is MY business. Seriously? Why are other providers so concerned with what I do with my business, my time, my body, my clients, my donations, my marketing gimmicks? If everyone just kept their side of the street clean, that would be much appreciated.

I don't know why we've gotten sideways, Gemma. I'm sorry about that. I didn't see this coming from you.

Can we not have this thread turned negative?

Granted, Candice used the wrong choice of wording, but from my perspective I don't think that it was meant as anything intentionally hurtful. I doubt she would have even made the offer if I hadn't put my two cents in regarding Kat in the competition.

I personally like some of these little contests. No one is truly going to take it seriously, but it's definitely an innovative change around here.

I don't know if it's the holidays or what, but it seems everyone is taking every little word (I'm talking about everyone) so damn personal. Everyone lighten the fuck up and have fun around here.

This is not dkayz the moderator saying this, this is dkayz the hobbiest. Let's try to have a few consecutive days with zero drama. Thanks.

Close the curtain!

You're a very intelligent woman, Candice. We've corresponded through messages. I may not have the level of education you have, but I do know when someone is low key insulting me & I am very intelligent in other aspects. I watch more than what I speak on these boards, & one thing I've noticed since I've been back, you're always in some competition for something & always trying to get the spotlight. I'm not saying that in a negative way, after all, we are all here for the same reason, but to try to knock another provider & basically imply I'm only good enough to be a fluffer in your competition, excuse my language, but you got me fucked up. & I have no doubt in my mind you knew that was an insult, you're not stupid.
Furthermore, I never implied I wanted to be in your contest, I left a little friendly message on your thread that turned into me getting offered a fluffer position. I may not be the BBBJCIM queen, but I am Queen in several other areas in my life. & a Queen will never be a fluffer, sorry. Originally Posted by Kat VonDee

Kat, I'm going to say this one more time and you can believe it or not. I did NOT intend to insult you. I made a mistake in what I said about being a fluffer. I have apologized many times over. I should have taken DKAYZ's advice and just said, "You're right. Anyone that wants to do BBBJ, come on and play."

The way many providers seem "competition" and the way I see it are night and day. I see it was a way for us to get together, have fun, make some money and call it a competition. Seriously? Is anyone going to walk around with a penis tiara in their real life and say, "Hey, I'm the KC BBBJ Queen!" It was an opportunity to create buzz. To market. To be light-hearted. That was it. I don't consider anyone competition, honestly. I am an older provider. I am a BBW. I can only be me. I am a flower that blooms without concerning itself about the flower blooming next to it.

As for "getting in the spotlight," what exactly does that mean? Am I not allowed to post in the forums? Is it somehow diminishing from anyone else if I post? I don't see it that way when someone else posts. So why should I be curtailed simply because someone else puts their interpretation on it?

I will reiterate. You are a top-notch provider. You are beautiful, young, physically perfect. Your reviews speak for themselves. I have never had ill will towards you. I have been sincere and honest to you, in my PMs and in my reply posts to you. I'm sorry I upset you, and I'm sorry you are completely misunderstanding what I was trying to say.

Gen X'ers and Millenials getting butthurt over words. Big surprise.

Like I've said prior, I watch more than what I speak on these boards. Maybe being a gent on the other side of the fence in this biz, you don't see all the crap us providers see. All of these ladies on here pretend to like you & respect you, they want you to do good, but damn sure not better than them. If another woman supposedly had "respect" for me, the comment she made would have never been typed out, bottom line. If I respect someone, I wouldn't offer them some low budget, degrading position like that! Or even assume they'll be cool with me telling them some shit like that. I'm not here to be the prom queen of Eccie, I don't feel the need to compete with a single soul & I'm damn sure not on here trying to down another provider & then play victim about it when I get called out on my bs **cough cough**.
But I said what I had to say. You can call me a Negative Nancy or a Salty Sally all day, but I will always stand up for myself.

Now I'm gonna go FLUFF my pillows. Have a goodnight