Who is your typical hobbyist?

Divorced and around 60.

Perhaps similar to others, I'm mid-50's with a wife who lost interest and has physical issues that make sex uncomfortable/painful. I'm not interested in an affair with all the emotional complications and I only want a strong emotional relationship with my wife. The variety is good, especially since I travel in my work, and I get to explore stuff she was never into. If the hobby were not an option, I probably would have an affair, build an emotional link to someone else, and end up divorced from my wife.

Oh, and I do like to be nice and caring to the ladies, even if I am not looking for emotional sustenance. I get as much pleasure from their pleasure as from my own. Originally Posted by ronrocket

I'm of a similar age range and situation. I whole hearted agree with you!

Mid-60s, retired, Divorced after a long marriage to a woman that that had mental health issues that kept getting worse for several years. When I emerged, I realized that my sexual market value was not going to allow me to date any girl that I actually was sexually attracted to (slender, sexy, a little crazy). The baggage from the bad years of marriage made me emotionally unavailable to the women I tried to date. Thank god for the hobby and the great girls I have meet.

The typical hobbyist is much like the typical provider, and can be summed up in one word- selfish. Each man here is going to get HIS needs satisfied, does not matter who it hurts, his wife, children, etc. If he would tend to his family's needs as much as he tended to his own, he would have a very happy family and a very happy life. Every man here, me as well, is here because something was missing in their life, sex, touch, whatever, instead of looking outside the family he should look to those closest to him. If he.showered his.wife with love and attention, she would naturally want to please him as well. But this way.seems easier to blow a load on a woman's face even if that act destroys all trust in his marriage, a betrayal of what society once considered sacred vows. Selfish. Originally Posted by gentlemantoo

If a wife has zero libido, doesn't want to talk about it / get help, then the hobby is an option for some. I know TONS of guys who have "showered" their wives with love and attention and still have a dead bedroom. Just my observation...

Well I'd love to talk to you from my high horse but that sumbitch ran off years ago. Once divorced, now married, 50, white. First marriage lasted 10 years, I was faithful, but she was just the second woman I was ever with. Always wondered about variety. After the divorce I decided to change my life some.
Met and married my second wife, awesome attitude, attractive, sex anytime I want. However she had a way more active past then me and it bothered me horribly. Selfishly I started hobbying and somewhere along the line she got interested in women. Now we hobby together and she let's me see anyone I want by myself. We've never been closer or happier, life is good.

If a wife has zero libido, doesn't want to talk about it / get help, then the hobby is an option for some. I know TONS of guys who have "showered" their wives with love and attention and still have a dead bedroom. Just my observation... Originally Posted by VegasLicker

There are those type of women out their. My friend of 15 years(I'm 31) has a wife that has him by the balls. He doesn't make much and, without her, he couldn't pay the bills so he allows her to treat him in that manner. It sucks, but Yoko "broke up the band" and we haven't had a beer in 2 years(about).

I'm white, middle class and rediscovering life in a way. I was an attorney for about 4 and a half years. During that time and while I was in school, I worked about 60 hours a week(if not more). I lost my life while practicing law and I am glad that I woke up while I was still relatively young. The woman I loved left me a year and a half ago, and I don't blame her as I was not the same person she met before I went to law school. I guess it is the variety, IDK. We all have our own reasons. I need to post a review as I know I don't have any on my account(came over after BP went down).

Well I'd love to talk to you from my high horse but that sumbitch ran off years ago. Once divorced, now married, 50, white. First marriage lasted 10 years, I was faithful, but she was just the second woman I was ever with. Always wondered about variety. After the divorce I decided to change my life some.
Met and married my second wife, awesome attitude, attractive, sex anytime I want. However she had a way more active past then me and it bothered me horribly. Selfishly I started hobbying and somewhere along the line she got interested in women. Now we hobby together and she let's me see anyone I want by myself. We've never been closer or happier, life is good. Originally Posted by gtocrzy

Definitely relate. Wife had a past in high school. I did not. Always drove me crazy, but she never understood. My first hobby experience was the second woman I was ever with.

Now I'm hooked, but wish I could get my wife interested in expanding our horizons. That would make this better, so I'm jealous of you there.

Definitely relate. Wife had a past in high school. I did not. Always drove me crazy, but she never understood. My first hobby experience was the second woman I was ever with.

Now I'm hooked, but wish I could get my wife interested in expanding our horizons. That would make this better, so I'm jealous of you there. Originally Posted by OneStarLuck07

It may happen, when my wife hit 39-40 something just flat changed in her. Went from no interest at all in women to "hey I wonder" She doesn't really like porn because it's scripted and looks fake to her but we started watching Girls Gone Wild videos and the scenes where the girlfriends would start making out with each other turned her on. That's what got the ball rolling.
Good luck

It may happen, when my wife hit 39-40 something just flat changed in her. Went from no interest at all in women to "hey I wonder" She doesn't really like porn because it's scripted and looks fake to her but we started watching Girls Gone Wild videos and the scenes where the girlfriends would start making out with each other turned her on. That's what got the ball rolling.
Good luck Originally Posted by gtocrzy

Thanks man! I think it will happen some day...she is slowly warming up to the idea. At the rate she is going, 39-40 sounds about right.

My average client is 50 plus, married for 20 plus years and sleeping in a separate bed. He has some issues with intimacy, ED, PE, weight and / or medical issues like diabetes and high blood pressure. He is high risk for needing CPR. He is looking for the soft touch (and more) of a mature woman. He may have a HIGH stress job/own a business and needs to get away and relax. Usually he has some orthopedic issues and needs a great massage as well as sensual touch. My normal client visits every 2-4 weeks.

Someone I dated was soley seeing providers before me. It was simply easier. He was late 20s. Careerman. Didn't really have time or the emotional energy for the dating game.

Since I was already interested in doing sex work he suggested this to me.

He told me from what he'd heard a lot of clients tend to be older and married as talked about previously. But there are always people like him i imagine who are fed up with the dating scene

My average client is 50 plus, married for 20 plus years and sleeping in a separate bed. He has some issues with intimacy, ED, PE, weight and / or medical issues like diabetes and high blood pressure. He is high risk for needing CPR. He is looking for the soft touch (and more) of a mature woman. He may have a HIGH stress job/own a business and needs to get away and relax. Usually he has some orthopedic issues and needs a great massage as well as sensual touch. My normal client visits every 2-4 weeks. Originally Posted by alaine

That is very interesting. I fit that description including using ED pills except that I am pretty healthy and work out regularly. Also, I quite my high stress job about 2 years ago.

45 year old sales profession here. Wonderful wife and mother at home with just a little more than zero sex drive. It has been once or twice a year no matter how much I tried for more for the past 7-8 years. About 2 years ago I decided I wanted sex more often. I sure enjoy my monthly visits with wonderful sexy women. I don't think I could be much happier unless it was weekly.

Someone I dated was soley seeing providers before me. It was simply easier. He was late 20s. Careerman. Didn't really have time or the emotional energy for the dating game.

Since I was already interested in doing sex work he suggested this to me.

He told me from what he'd heard a lot of clients tend to be older and married as talked about previously. But there are always people like him i imagine who are fed up with the dating scene Originally Posted by KandiiStarzz

Not to mention night workers of all ages... I have known many night workers complain how hard it was to find someone to date because the hours destroyed their social life, put stress on their relationships.

I coupon narrow almost all Hong gents in to 5 basic types. In my experience it have the 1-Married seeking variety 2- Busy-those married to work with no time for relationships 3- those who struggle to connect with women & those with mild to severe aspergers 4- the emotionally unavailable 5-the lazy and financial able ( guys that have no problem herring laid they just prefer to skip out on dating because they have the funds available and the knowledge to find it

Most guys fall into two of the categories.

Of course there are all sorts of people with all sorts of needs their various hobby exploits attempt to fill.
Now.. I hate to put people into little boxes but you asked so I figured I'd share