I understand your pain, OP. However, you will get little in the way of sympathy here. The hobby is just a subset of the US in general, so you should know how certain people feel about you. The hobby isn't some Shangri-la. It's everything you deal with IRL, except with no filter or shame preventing actual attitudes from being displayed.
Good news is, you do have the best color for this business: green. There's a shitton of women here who see brothas. Hell, some of those NBA chicks will see you if you ask them nicely and keep your mouth shut (aka don't write a review). And check the AA-friendly thread sometime.