Love?

What I always hated; were the clients who were either not financially well off or were just cheap; who claimed they really liked me and wanted to date and have a relationship. Yeah right. Since this was how I made my living, I really didn’t want to have several days a week off giving freebies to guys I didn’t have that kind of long term feeling for. And I couldn't get over the feeling they just didn’t want to compensate me for my time. I'm quite sure this happens to every single provider.

And probably every woman! Even when I wasn't a provider, guys like that would ask to come over and watch a movie. Which meant I was to cook dinner, watch the movie, then spend the night in bed with him.
No thanks.

I got engaged to a client in Dec 2012 and we were together until March 2014. I don't regret it. We parted friends and he took very good care of me physically and financially as we were monogamous. (Except for a mutually agreed upon threesome! I got to pick a sexy provider)

I'm doing it again now. I'm with a client, (now former client); and we're happy and monogamous, (until I can talk him into letting me pick a provider!). And I'm happy now and financially secure. I just don't know that I'm cut out for monogamy. Being a provider has very much opened me up sexually and allowed me to let my freak flag fly and I enjoy it SO much. But I'm also a romantic at heart and I'm going to put all of my heart and energy into this man and this relationship. He wants to marry me and his family is happy for us. His mom is great and babysits my cats, (she calls them her grandcats), when we travel. Which is frequent. He's a pilot and owns a private plane. We're having fun now, but time will tell. Originally Posted by GingerKatt

Good for you GK

Good for you GK Originally Posted by BLM69

Thank you BLM. You've always been incredibly sweet and nice to me, and you're very cute and extremely gifted BCD. If that was a secret, sorry(not sorry) I outed your talents!

Which is why I've never understood why sometimes you're such a bully when you post. Especially to certain ladies. So try to be good, I'll be keeping an eye on you, lol!!

Not really love but was very close to a provider for over 5 years. She only provided for 3 months then I took care of her monthly. All was very good until last summer. She had a massive change of heart in that I wasn't seeing her as much as she wanted. By then, we had gone off the monthly retainer and it was back to per event basis, equal to the monthly retainer for twice a month visits. Meaning I paid her per event, and two visits equaled the previous monthly. She did remind me if I thought it was anything more than a financial arrangement, I was foolish. Point taken, learned, and life goes on. No love lost, and I walked on.

She has been replaced with a civilian who has zero expectations other than to pleasure me ( she loves to do just that ), and see's me when I want. Not preconceptions, no pay per play, only sex, which she has been unsatisfied all her life, until now. She has finally become the slut she always knew she was. I am more than happy to enjoy her new found liberty. It is a ton of fun, and my cash stash grows.

Yes but we both need to be very careful using a hot hair curling iron.

Thank you BLM. You've always been incredibly sweet and nice to me, and you're very cute and extremely gifted BCD. If that was a secret, sorry(not sorry) I outed your talents!

Which is why I've never understood why sometimes you're such a bully when you post. Especially to certain ladies. So try to be good, I'll be keeping an eye on you, lol!!

Originally Posted by GingerKatt

Thanks for the kind words and don't let all my talents get out lol, whatever ladies you're talking about probably had it coming. Ladies that I've met know I'm a cool guy in person, others just love to hate me

....whatever ladies you're talking about probably had it coming. Originally Posted by BLM69

BRILLIANT!
Your so smart .... Glad we have someone here to put the ladies in their place (even those you've never met).... :

Now, back to the subject of this thread.
LOVE .... don't you think we all mistake it for LUST ?

I mean...really....that just makes sense....

Like, you can LUST the sexy maid that cleans your house ... but love means supporting her three kids and standing by her while she obtains her green card.
Thats LOVE.

Jesus. Are fucking kidding me? Fuck no. Omg. Loser

BRILLIANT!
Your so smart .... Glad we have someone here to put the ladies in their place (even those you've never met).... :

Now, back to the subject of this thread.
LOVE .... don't you think we all mistake it for LUST ?

I mean...really....that just makes sense....

Like, you can LUST the sexy maid that cleans your house ... but love means supporting her three kids and standing by her while she obtains her green card.
Thats LOVE. Originally Posted by Torre Tames

I'm glad we have someone that lets me know about it, I know you couldn't help yourself from pointing it out lol, You don't know who I have or haven't met, some people here know about some, but nobody really knows fully but myself! You see/read a small percentage only

About the subject in hand; Love and lust are two different things, they are defined differently by men and women, love is also valued differently by each party, this is why you often have couples that feel differently about each other.

James Bond once pondered and thought:

"Some love is fire
Some love is rust
But the finest, cleanest love is LUST"

Ian Fleming : Goldfinger

In a span of the 13 years I have been providing, YES...a few times feelings and relationships developed. It was fun while it lasted but never worked out the way either of us hoped.

My advice would be Don't Do It!

I have experienced that with two providers in the past. You could probably tell who they are by my reviews. I had to avoid going back to them because I knew it would not be good for me. I know they are not feeling the same thing I am, and I find that difficult and confusing.

Not now, as I'm older, but if I were a younger guy, I could see myself falling for a couple of my ATF ladies.

Op we talking love or relationships? Both distinctly different. Both are relative but relationships are arrangements, whether for love, money, prestige, safety, or any other need fulfilled by a partner. Love is different. I will always love my first provider. As a man who had just lost 50 pounds from pushing 300, as well as I’ll admit hadn’t been with a women in many years, I’ll be forever grateful and in her debt for being nice to me. After so long of feeling invisible, for nine months she treated me as a human. Cynics will say she was just doing her job, which very may be true, but since our time spent together I’ve been able to put myself out there and build new and lasting relationships. My point being and using the old cliche, sometimes love isn’t enough. I will always wish the best for her and if she needed anything I would hope to provide.
Love is pure, it’s contentment. Sometimes it means holding on tight but it’s also letting go.
None the less speaking of love and of course being the holiday season, clients and mongers reach out to the provider that you know goes the extra mile for you. See if there’s something she needs, remember she didn’t choose you. Providers do the same especially look out for the ones that you know may be lonely. Love is real.

...... the provider that you know goes the extra mile for you.
See if there’s something she needs, remember she didn’t choose you.
Providers do the same especially look out for the ones that you know may be lonely....Love is real Originally Posted by Vr2023

Very well said and written Vr

Happy Horny Holidays Everyone!

Torre