Deposits....

I dont do deposits w/ new or any ladies who change handles like they change their clothes. Will only do it for very well established ones.

As a side, no one has said anything about payment methods. I've never had anyone legitimately tell me why they won't take cash, but it's becoming quite the thing. Now, upfront is a clear scam. But "bring an Amazon gift card when we meet". I question that. How can that be a scam other than asking me to read the numbers and PIN before she will give me the room number. Got any other ideas? Originally Posted by luv2luv

I’ve not seen anyone yet respond to your Amazon gift card question (I may have missed it in some of the responses if it has been addressed): Yes, the folks who ask for you to pay with a gift card are almost always making the guy show up in the parking lot, then requiring either a photo of the gift card or the information from it. They then go dark, and since they sent you to a parking lot somewhere where they aren’t, you’re left to wonder what happened. They usually don’t ask for the card information until you are at the alleged incall because they know if you’ve come that far it is far more likely you will feel invested enough in the venture that you’ll give up the card data.

I take Amazon Gift card by email right from amazon as deposits
or you can get the card and send me a pic of the numbers off the back and I can check it right way if it's good and add it to my amazon act ..

I personally am not a fan of deposits. There are only two circumstances where I would ask for one....


1. A person who has NCNS me before (or has a very long history of doing so to others)


2. Someone wanting me to fly to them-- then I ask for a deposit to cover airfare/transportation costs.



Others are free to do business as they see fit-- for me, I'm big on minimal paper trails

Let me be your Human Kink Professor, its the cause/effect that gets the guy going. He wants to think about how she will put a ton of effort into getting ready for him and he will ruin it by not showing up/rejecting her. Originally Posted by LadyAnastasia

Have you ever actually heard someone say that they do this? Because this sounds like an angry assumption to me, with nothing to back it up. This particular sadistic kink is so rare, it's hardly even worth mentioning -- you might experience it one time out of ten thousand. The other 9,999 times, it was just the guy flaking.

Have you ever actually heard someone say that they do this? Because this sounds like an angry assumption to me, with nothing to back it up. This particular sadistic kink is so rare, it's hardly even worth mentioning -- you might experience it one time out of ten thousand. The other 9,999 times, it was just the guy flaking. Originally Posted by jonas1_2

I've seen people do this in the sugar baby world. Ladies will set up a date. Text they are on the way. Then ghost you. I don't get it. I still eat my steak or tacos and go home. Some people like to watch the world burn.

I still don't do deposits though. I don't feel like I have to do so to get a date. Plenty of providers don't require that. I get nothing from sending a deposit. And I can always see a sugar baby who doesn't require a deposit.

I don’t do deposits, I don’t shame the providers who ask for them I just don’t see them. Win for me, win for them.

Yesterday someone asked me to send them money to cover the room because of (insert bullshit sob story), I told her I can empathize with her situation but I don’t send deposits.

She then said she’s not asking for a deposit she’s asking me to help her out for no other reason than to be kind. FOH

Are you going to be kind and give me some free pussy when I “need” it? No

Twitter has all these beautiful woman who claim to be providers. They even have fake websites. It hilarious, their websites list their services Greek, fisting, PSE etc. Then you go to the rate sheet and you get all this for $250/hr and overnight from $1200 with Cindy Crawford.

I have inquired just for kicks and they immediately lead with asking for a 50% deposits. I asked for reviews and one sent me a screen shot of a text they claimed they received from a client saying how wonderful they were! 🤣🤣🤣

Most pose as providers to funnel traffic to their OF. I’m okay with a small deposit on high end girls that are highly reviewed by reputable clients on reputable sites.

Originally Posted by LadyAnastasia:
Let me be your Human Kink Professor, it’s the cause/effect that gets the guy going. He wants to think about how she will put a ton of effort into getting ready for him and he will ruin it by not showing up/rejecting her.

Have you ever actually heard someone say that they do this? Because this sounds like an angry assumption to me, with nothing to back it up. This particular sadistic kink is so rare, it's hardly even worth mentioning -- you might experience it one time out of ten thousand. The other 9,999 times, it was just the guy flaking. Originally Posted by jonas1_2

this absolutely happens often and yes, it is a fetish. This isn’t just a case of a guy not showing up. these are guys who text you up to the moment of the appointment, making sure you’re wearing a cute outfit, pretending like they are at the apartment getting the address and then ghosting on you. Getting off on the angry text that you send afterwards.
All the while they had no intention of coming andmight not even be in the same state.
(let’s not forget about the “prank calls “who think it’s hilarious to send girls to bogus addresses or the wrong hotel room. Again, they might not even be in the same area, or they could be next-door watching )Why do you think women are requiring deposits now?

And I have to agree with Jonas. Setting an appointment just so you can cancel it? I guess there could be a random guy ... somewhere ... maybe ... that would do it, but it can't be more than 1 in a 1,000.
Really doesn't change my position...
But I will say. There are some ravishing hotties that I ... well ... maybe...

this absolutely happens often and yes, it is a fetish. This isn’t just a case of a guy not showing up. these are guys who text you up to the moment of the appointment, making sure you’re wearing a cute outfit, pretending like they are at the apartment getting the address and then ghosting on you. Getting off on the angry text that you send afterwards.
All the while they had no intention of coming andmight not even be in the same state. Originally Posted by DallasBella

I believe women get ghosted a lot. I have not yet seen a reason to believe it's because of a sadistic kink. That seems like a huge, baseless assumption to me.

Regardless, if they really do get off on angry texts... maybe just stop sending angry texts? When has going off on someone ever resulted in something beneficial for you?

I think women get ghosted a lot. So do roofers. So do plumbers. Lots of people get ghosted in business. The hobby has always been reputation based. People with good reputations get good dates. People with bad reputations struggle. Deposits don't really solve the ghosting problem. If someone has a fetish they might be willing to drop 20 bucks on that fetish. Ladies want deposits because... I don't know. I also dont know why my LinkedIn in profile makes me safer than 50 p411 oks. But.. Giving your personal information, a deposit, and 700 or 800 for a visit is a lot to ask of guys. There are easier ways to have fun. Yoga. Top golf. Steak at Nick and Sam's. These are easier ways to have fun than cashapping deposits for things you don't need.

Don't fall for the scams Originally Posted by GuyEatingRice

This is the best advice I have ever read. I had my heart broken in 2012. That was it I gave up on love. I discovered sugar babies at about the same time. Sugar babies don't require deposits all that often. It's very common in other places. So in the last 13 years, I have seen a number of escorts too. I got away from ECCIE and P41q1. I had a few SB that held on for 5 - 7 years. When I did contact escort of lesser standing deposits were very common. I chatted for weeks with some of these ladies before I took the plunge, A few seemed to be extraordinary and a few had really good sob stories, I have paid $5 to $200 deposits, quite a few times. Every single time without a single exception as soon as I did they were gone. EVERY SINGLE TIME NO EXCEPTIONS. Poof, where did she go? Don't bother to lecture me or insult me either. I am soft-hearted and gullible. It was probably a childhood brain injury I was dropped a lot