The idea of combining monogamy with exclusive love and exclusive sex is a recent one , and has failed and will continue to fail. There is a lot of hypocrisy surrounding it, as we all know.
Originally Posted by ninasastri
i doubt if the combination of exclusive love & sex is a recent 1. the catholic church iz over 2000 yrs old & has been preaching that the whole time. of course, the church had 2 have taken that concept from somewhere that was established & around a long time.
while monogamy isnt absolute, human animals tend toward it. violence & social uphevel result when some men monopolize the women & when a mans woman isnt faithful 2 him. this "threat" of violence keeps humanity tending toward monogamy. women can b possessive of their men 2. its not like women ever wanted their men 2 have sex with other women. women put a "cost" on men who have sex with other women. men want 2 avoid that cost. 2 say it is a failure? the majority of people within normal perameters have succeeded @ it. calling it a failure iz obsurd.
throughout human history, the overwhelming majority of men r able 2 access only enough resources 2 support 1 wife & her children. that has also tended humanity toward monogamy.
children r raised better & become more useful people if their parents r together & love each other. more humanity tending toward monogamy.
only a utopian would say its hypocrisy. people r not perfect, so neither iz monogamy. striving toward an ideal is not hypocrisy, it is admirable. if cheatin on a partner makes it easier 2 stay together, so what?
jealousy & love have been around since the beginning of man. love may not have been as much a consideration 4 entering a marriage in the old days, but i dont doubt love developed during the marriage 2 levels equal 2 ours today. of course, i also believe love is less of a consideration 4 entering a marriage today than people realize.
i just feel 1 needs 2 separate her feeling from intellect otherwise u come 2 wrong conclusions.
