How dose a Provider Hobby without her Heart?

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Sorry, but the words "love" and "soulmate" really don't coincide with men and women who bang numerous partners on a weekly, or even daily basis. If you're talking poly relationships, maybe so, but p4p? LOL...

Like I said, stop paying that soulmate and see how much soul you get after. Your only 'mate' will be your right/left hand.

This must be kick a fella in the ding ding day.

Let the guy have his fantasy, WALDT. It's all about fantasies right? Originally Posted by beezdat
Sorry, but the words "love" and "soulmate" really don't coincide with men and women who bang numerous partners on a weekly, or even daily basis. If you're talking poly relationships, maybe so, but p4p? LOL...

Like I said, stop paying that soulmate and see how much soul you get after. Your only 'mate' will be your right/left hand. Originally Posted by London Rayne
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Aw fk!
Aw fk! Originally Posted by London Rayne
Muah! Cutie
Now, hookers are your "Soulmates?" OMG....cue the music here. Honey, this is NOT reality, regardless of how much you think you might have invested. Stop paying your "soulmate" and see how long she sticks around. That's always the best way to bring reality back. Using the word "soulmate" in P4P, is about as deluded as using the word "love" here. Then again, I guess some are looking for love in a financial agreement. Originally Posted by London Rayne
Ok poor choice of words. Of course we are not soul mates, in the usual sense of the world. What I meant, which takes more words to describe is

Share a common perspective on things, ie both cynical, similar intolerances, etc
Have similar tastes, ie similar food, music etc
Have similar IQs or at least appear to during conversations
Sexually compatable, ie you prefer what her favorite activity is
In other words, someone you would have been interested in dating if you had gone to high school together

Reality, of course we are worlds apart, there is no real relationship, but the time together is more enjoyable because our personalities mesh.

Soulmate was not the correct word, but I could not think of a better one to describe what I meant.
Perhaps what would be a better wash to say it

GFE usually means 2 things, sex like your girlfriend and illusion of passion.

To me GFE also includes acting like and making me think that she likes me. Many providers do the first 2 but few can pull off the last. I know it is not real, but it makes the time together more special. It is something that makes me want to schedule return engagements.
Sorry, but the words "love" and "soulmate" really don't coincide with men and women who bang numerous partners on a weekly, or even daily basis. If you're talking poly relationships, maybe so, but p4p? LOL...

Like I said, stop paying that soulmate and see how much soul you get after. Your only 'mate' will be your right/left hand. Originally Posted by London Rayne

LOL. I admit wrong choice of words. Your retort is pretty funny, and certainly true.

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Well damn Rocky...now I feel bad for messing with you lol.
No problem, if I say something stupid I expect to be called out. Sorry mu first post was misleading.
Once Again Thank-U ECCIE Family:


Many Apologies for my absence on this Thread I do hold it dear, I had to take a small receipt after passing my 'MS State Boards'...at my age ingesting multitudes of information is not so effortless.
London Rayne: Your an incredibly intelligent Woman your Repartee is a incredible read, I see that we share the same INTEGRITY you actually express yourself similar to my own Sister...who hides one of the truly Compassionate-Hearts with 'A Mouth That Shoots First And Asks Questions Latter'. Perhaps the Dilemma lies in attempting to define Prostitute verses Courtesan, I'm from a Culture that the latter stands attendance in the Burial of her Benefactor... LOVE is a component of that Relationship.
Rockydoc: I have a bit of OCD so I did my research...none of your Reviews were of Encounters under two hours in duration, perhaps you should be on a quest for a 'SD/SB Relationship' I find them more fulfilling. I perceive you a 'Passionate Individual'...with far more than a one-hour attention span.
Pyraminder: My 'Clever Clown' XoX, what the HELL is that on your Avatar...it is Disgusting!
I believe the increase in “I fell for a Provider Threads” is a sign of Our Times in this Broken-World, with Quickie Divorces and Thirteen-Year-Old Nymphomaniacs common place...is it any wonder that the lines get blurred. Simply put WE are all in search of that connection weather we admit it to ourselves or not, having a 'Financial Transaction' does not diminish the fact that SEX regardless of our interpretation...is the closest two individuals can be. My ONLY Prayer in all of this is that we ALL grow from the experience, if only for a 'Stitch In Time' we can strive to do something unselfish for another Human-Being.
Perhaps what would be a better wash to say it

GFE usually means 2 things, sex like your girlfriend and illusion of passion.

To me GFE also includes acting like and making me think that she likes me. Many providers do the first 2 but few can pull off the last. I know it is not real, but it makes the time together more special. It is something that makes me want to schedule return engagements. Originally Posted by Rockydoc
GFE only means one thing in the escort world, " Give Fee upon Entering" everything else that follows is in your imagination.


Jim
stay true to YOU...always, that's all you can do really...
be real when representing yourself and you should attract those who are looking for someone and will be happy with someone just like YOU...
it's not a matter of turning off you're heart, it's more of setting your own rules, limits and comfort zones and remembering that those lines (the ones YOU have laid out) can't be crossed or compromised...that is how it is...don't let anyone cause you to question what how you're "supposed" to conduct yourself or perform your "job" (for lack of a better label, sorry it's late so this isn't going to be well articulated..just blunt advice)
You're the boss and the ONLY one who knows your limits. never forget that! Just be you, be honest, be proud, don't compromise and always do everything in your power to do the best you can...NEVER turn your heart off, but realize that you're human and so are the guys you're dealing with ... sometimes you may hurt someone's feelings or fall "short" according to them...that's GOING TO HAPPEN....but maybe it's not you, guys play games or expect something more than you have to give or are willing to..as long as you're straight up , don't lead anyone on and respect your clients as you would expect them to respect you, then you know that you did your best and that's that ...if it's a situation you would like to continue talk to the guy and see if you can come to a resolution that you both agree on , that's fair to both of you, if you cant find one than don't continue on....by doing so one of you will be compromising the respect u both deserve

did that make sense? lol
sorry it's 5am and i am beyond tired so i hope that made sense atleast...to sum it up..just be freaking AWESOME
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Once Again Thank-U ECCIE Family:


Many Apologies for my absence on this Thread I do hold it dear, I had to take a small receipt after passing my 'MS State Boards'...at my age ingesting multitudes of information is not so effortless.
London Rayne: Your an incredibly intelligent Woman your Repartee is a incredible read, I see that we share the same INTEGRITY you actually express yourself similar to my own Sister...who hides one of the truly Compassionate-Hearts with 'A Mouth That Shoots First And Asks Questions Latter'. Perhaps the Dilemma lies in attempting to define Prostitute verses Courtesan, I'm from a Culture that the latter stands attendance in the Burial of her Benefactor... LOVE is a component of that Relationship.
Rockydoc: I have a bit of OCD so I did my research...none of your Reviews were of Encounters under two hours in duration, perhaps you should be on a quest for a 'SD/SB Relationship' I find them more fulfilling. I perceive you a 'Passionate Individual'...with far more than a one-hour attention span.
Pyraminder: My 'Clever Clown' XoX, what the HELL is that on your Avatar...it is Disgusting!
I believe the increase in “I fell for a Provider Threads” is a sign of Our Times in this Broken-World, with Quickie Divorces and Thirteen-Year-Old Nymphomaniacs common place...is it any wonder that the lines get blurred. Simply put WE are all in search of that connection weather we admit it to ourselves or not, having a 'Financial Transaction' does not diminish the fact that SEX regardless of our interpretation...is the closest two individuals can be. My ONLY Prayer in all of this is that we ALL grow from the experience, if only for a 'Stitch In Time' we can strive to do something unselfish for another Human-Being.
Originally Posted by Ninotsugi
Yes, I shoot from the hip, and am certainly no courtesan lol. Even if I were, love would be the farthest thing from my encounters...it simply has no room. I won't get attached to a married man of all people, who already has a woman he loves at home. I guess that might be the issue. I almost feel less guilty if I am only borrowing his sexual appetite, vs. his whole being, heart, and soul included. I have no interest in dating outside of this, because I won't try to LOVE someone whilst screwing random strangers for money. I know many people in the Poly world, who are very happy, but that life never worked for me.

I can concede that with a sugar daddy or benefactor type relationship, things are much different than with the traditional escort client. Still, I do not "love" my sugar daddy. I respect him, appreciate him, and admire him, but love? No. Or, maybe there is a friendship love, but certainly no "I am IN love."
I won't get attached to a married man of all people, who already has a woman he loves at home. I guess that might be the issue. I almost feel less guilty if I am only borrowing his sexual appetite, vs. his whole being, heart, and soul included. Originally Posted by London Rayne
I wonder how often that's the case with providers and what level of attachment they are willing to go to. The feeling of guilt. The fact that a married guy is out and seeing a provider would suggest that he isn't in love with his spouse anymore, for whatever reason. (The majority of time)

I'm not really expecting an answer just thinking out load about how some married guys may stray due to feeling the lack of love at home but they seek out the feeling of love with a provider who may be incapable of filling that need. The guy may want sex as well but GFE is becoming increasingly popular.

Interesting...