Gents here is your chance, ladies pay attention - Page 4

Some of my points have already been said, but I would like to emphasize:

1) Turn off the cell phone. I turn mine off, please do so in kind. Especially if it's an hour session.

2) Turn off the TV. The first time that happened to me it wasn't TOO distracting (the volume was low) but I had a session where I honestly think the provider was more interested in King of the Hill than me.

3) Eye contact! Majority of providers I have seen prop their head on the pillows and look down. Some have actively avoided actually looking at me during the session. It's more than wanting to look at a beautiful face during sex. If you are offering GFE than eye contact is one more thing that makes the client feel special and appreciated. It's also fun to watch the provider's expressions as she reaches her own climax.

I realize (and respect) that time is money, and that bills have to be paid. Furthermore, you should NEVER have to pad your time for his error in judgment on how long it'll take for him to get to you.

However, I'd still propose considering leaving a comfortable margin between appts... especially for clients who you have never seen before, or yours is a new incall. This allows for the extra few mins that may come into play in case of trouble w/ directions.

My last appt, I literally saw the other guy closing the door behind him as I stepped out of the elevator. It felt so awkward that I walked past her door and headed for the stairwell, where I allowed for a few mins to pass before coming back and knocking on her door.

In all fairness, it was probably not the lady's doing. It was probably because the gent before me was running late and thus the session went over.

Nevertheless, it put me completely out of the mood and I took advantage of my 1st opportunity to make an excuse and a not-so-graceful exit (I left her full donation on the tbl of course).

On a more positive note, I'm always impressed when a lady makes an effort at a personal connection, before the clothes start to come off.

I think that 95% of what distinguishes a good session from a GREAT one is driven by what's going on in our big heads and how comfortable we feel with you.

Unfortunately, many of us think w/ our little one.

P.S. You can call mine a penis, a cock, mr happy, or whatever. Just don't call it the little one. LOL.

lmao, I have to agree. The word cock is better. The last time I used the word penis was when I saw the sex of my baby boy in the ultra sound last year ha

(taking notes...)

This is a very good question?

Me, I just like saying the word cock...

Gen Nicole~ Originally Posted by GenesisNicole

Heads up ladies here was something sent to me:

hey Dagny!

I saw your expanded post about having people PM you. I'm not going to inundate you I PROMISE!

But...I've seen the same behavior twice in as many days.

Ad doesn't specify preferred contact method so you send screening via email. You get a reply:

1) Reply lady 1: "Ok thank you hun please PM me on eccie with your handle thank yo."

You reply...and then she asks you for 2 references which were already in the email? Seriously?

2) Reply Lady 2 (a little over a week later): "Sorry **** it has taken me a bit to get back to you i had the worst luck last week. Can you send me a little bit more info for the ladies like ohone number and handle thanks babe"

Three references were in the first email and are still in the email chain.

Now, I would appreciate you not using the exact quotes but I wanted you to see what i am talking about. Also, how hard is it to list your times and hours of availability? If you are traveling let me know when you will be in THIS city.

Now, let's contrast...your ads seem to always list preferred contact method, exact times available and the pertinent details. Awesome!

Contrast 2: traveling lady gets email and PM (see, I send to both now). She replies back AND adds to messenger AND even though she had to postpone she says hello and is ever so nice. And the email was upbeat and...dare I say it...fun!

Now, I KNOW I come across like a bit of a whiner maybe or a picky person but...I am! Ok, picky not whiner Although I am whining here. Hmm...I digress.

I really would post this but I can just imagine the flame war. So I vote the only way I can Hooray negative reinforcement?
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Gents I know that when a lady has an email from you, she will want a PM thru the board to make sure that you really are that handle. There have been some unsavory fellows who claim to be a famous well-known handle (even mods) and then it isn't that guy. That is the reason for asking for the PM.

Ladies, When the gent has sent info please get back to them in a timely manner.

To all who have helped compile these good tips- Thank you. We can not make all mistakes ourselves. I like to learn a lesson without the screwing-up part.

To all who read these pages and strive to D.E.W. better, kudos to you.

Making a list and checking it twice.... and you men thought you had a list!

Thank you Dagney for this very resourceful thread.

I want to add (unless I overlooked it).

The Great Romantic Novel

I believe that our time spent together should be different from the last (regular or new friend).
I think of each friends visit as a great romantic chapter in a Romance Novel
We create it together.
Books can be read again if they are "Totally Awesome".

A potential friend does not want to read our review "ROS" and notice a pattern in each session. Remember, Not all friends will place a review. They may want their own "chapter" to be their own story.

Change it up a bit, before the appt., ask what his fantasy is, any requests, wants and needs, favorite beverage, any allergies?

P.S.
The Romantic Novel is only in my mind... I have not written one yet.
I need to learn the English grammar first.

I literally almost died from a laugh attack while reading this thread - love it! Very informative. However, as providers, we should love what we do...am I right? When you enjoy your clients/sessions/whatever, all of the trivial bullshit will fall in line. If you're excited about meeting someone new, which I always am, then you will put more of an effort into that first impression. We're ladies, we know how to turn it on and off - so turn it on! Keep it clean, keep it safe, and most importantly, keep it f.u.n!!
Love it, love it, LOVE it!

I literally almost died from a laugh attack while reading this thread - love it! Very informative. However, as providers, we should love what we do...am I right? When you enjoy your clients/sessions/whatever, all of the trivial bullshit will fall in line. If you're excited about meeting someone new, which I always am, then you will put more of an effort into that first impression. We're ladies, we know how to turn it on and off - so turn it on! Keep it clean, keep it safe, and most importantly, keep it f.u.n!!
Love it, love it, LOVE it! Originally Posted by klovve

Looks like somebody else is still up this late

I'm going to copy and quote Ready2Rocks statement and request, could not have said it better but will add a couple to the list directly. I sincerely know where the line is and I will not cross over it unless I am directly asked to by the provider, but with that in mind, when paying for the service I want to have the "Perfect Illusion of Passion" I want to feel for the time allocated that I am the only one that exist, very few women can actually pull this off completely and effectively, its possible and it sometimes takes work, but then again several just let it flow. But I could understand why many provider won't or can't due to some or many clients not knowing that there is line that has been drawn.

THINGS THAT LIKELY WILL KEEP ME AWAY

1. Body odor. There is no bigger turn-off.

2. Messy incall. Don't leave clothes, magazines, etc. strewn about.

3. Mentioning the amount of time we have left. I've had this happen just once, with 15 minutes left! Otherwise, the lady was wonderful ... but I never returned.

4. Acting as if you're in a hurry to get me off and out the door. This is an easy thing for most guys to sense. I had it happen a few years ago with a lady I've seen many times, and I haven't been back since.

5. Talking about personal difficulties. I'm a good listener, but not when I'm on the clock. Talking about family is not to occur unless I bring it up or we have seen each other a hell of allot of times and we are totally comfortable with each other.

6. Not strongly resembling posted photos. If you've gained 15 pounds or changed your hair drastically, please have new pics that reflect that.

7. Attitude, Attitude, Attitude....remember you are there to provide an illusion, your are there to provide a service, if you have an attitude that you are better than your client and you are a snob then I will not be back, in fact it will probably walk right out in the middle of the session.

THINGS THAT WILL HELP BRING ME BACK

1. Perfect grooming. I'm a face and hair guy as much as I am a breasts, butt and legs guy. Look the way you would when trying to impress someone you're meeting for the first time in real life. Smelling great is part of this. It can be something as simple as a light vanilla scent.

2. Greet me at the door with a genuine smile, warm hug and a prolonged, sensual LFK. Nothing better than a beautiful lady making me feel special from the start. There use to be a lady here that got outed that was the best in the game about this, ah I longed just for the opening of the door, great beautiful smile, new outfit each time, and litterly jumping up on me and wrapping her legs and arms around me. An impression that will never fade. Hi Woody ~smile~

3. Asking how I've been or how my day is going, and doing it in a sincere manner. Again, it's something that makes a guy feel special.

4. Offering something to drink. The last lady I saw offered white wine. We shared a glass, chatted a bit and she sent the remaining half-bottle home with me. She didn't have to do that, but it was a very nice touch.

5. Letting me know what you like with low-key verbal cues. If you're enjoying DATY, don't hesitate to vocalize a bit. But, never use worn-out porn flick lines such as "ohhhh, baby, YES! YES!! YES!!" I think we all prefer genuine over fake (unless we're talking about very well-done man-mades) Nothing worse than fake, if you are enjoying do the natural thing for your self, but don't BS me that I am the biggest that you have ever done.

6. Offering a warm washcloth for cleaning up. Just a nice finishing touch.

7. Giving me a long, sensual kiss and warm hug just before I'm out the door. Send me off with something that will make me want to come back. Can't agree more, customer service with a smile at the end goes along way.

... I want to have the "Perfect Illusion of Passion" I want to feel for the time allocated that I am the only one that exists ... Originally Posted by Woody of TX

Couldn't agree more.

I think ANanAustin said it best. Each hobbiest is different so let the sessions be different. Nothing annoys me more than when I feel just like some other guy. This takes into account so many of the items posted:

1. Would your incall be messy if your BF was coming over? Please have it picked up.
2. I am not a pornstar anywhere but my own mind...I don't need all the fake porn standard lines.
3. Look at me and look like you are enjoying yourself. One encounter I had, the provider literally laid on the floor and told me to get busy. I asked if she was even going to pretend to like it and she responded "No". Closed my eyes thought of someone else. Pumped hard, not caring what she thought. Pulled out, removed the cover and let it go all over her (not what she wanted to happen) and left.

4. To me you want me in you or in your mouth, my cock is a part of me. I don't mind the use of the work cock, but I don't need to hear it 100 times in an hour.

Let's build that novel.

I'm going to copy and quote Ready2Rocks statement and request, could not have said it better but will add a couple to the list directly. I sincerely know where the line is and I will not cross over it unless I am directly asked to by the provider, but with that in mind, when paying for the service I want to have the "Perfect Illusion of Passion" I want to feel for the time allocated that I am the only one that exist, very few women can actually pull this off completely and effectively, its possible and it sometimes takes work, but then again several just let it flow. But I could understand why many provider won't or can't due to some or many clients not knowing that there is line that has been drawn. Originally Posted by Woody of TX

That is something very few providers can do well without appearing insincere. Maybe I'm just hyper-sensitive to BS, but I prefer when providers are a little more laid back and just try to be themselves and talk about whatever they want to talk about instead of pretending that I'm the center of their universe. Nothing is a bigger turnoff to me than insincerity. Even a more matter-of-fact/businesslike attitude is preferred, although I haven't run into that much with the girls I've seen.

All the girls I've seen have been very nice and I don't have many complaints, but one minor thing that bugs me is if I've seen a provider before I don't want to chat for 15 minutes before the action starts like we're meeting for the first time. Even if you're not a clock watcher I prefer to do the talking after.

If you start working on a hj during the session.....please keep the lube nearby, and not in another room where you have to break the rhythm of the moment.

And by "lube" I mean "lube", not hand lotion that will be gone 4-5 strokes later.

All the girls I've seen have been very nice and I don't have many complaints, but one minor thing that bugs me is if I've seen a provider before I don't want to chat for 15 minutes before the action starts like we're meeting for the first time. Even if you're not a clock watcher I prefer to do the talking after.[/quote]

I actually prefer to talk for a few minutes before hand. Afterwards it just feels kind of awkward.

I prefer to take two showers, before and after. Having a clean towel ready for my exclusive use puts me at ease. I know it can be hard to get enough towels at a hotel when you're trying to fly under the radar, but plain white bath towels are cheap, you can toss a half-dozen in a small suitcase and bleach them at home. Also, keep an extra bottle of unscented bath gel for the client's use only. If it's running low, restock it. Hotel bath soap bars aren't appropriate. I don't know where it went before I got there.

Also, stock up on travel-size Scope bottles. They're only like 50 cents each, but if I'm going in for DATY, I feel better to rinse before I leave for my real-life. I usually carry one, but sometimes I forget or it isn't convenient to run home for one. Having little things like that ready for my personal use shows you are professional and courteous.

For security purposes, if we've never met before, don't allow yourself to be alone with wherever I put my wallet. I usually leave everything but my driver's license and the exact fee at home when I hobby, but sometimes I have my wallet and/or cellphone with me in the room with you. Leave a 3 foot margin around wherever I put my pants and don't go anywhere near it. I usually try to leave them in a corner or on a chair. Its a terrible feeling when you come back from the bathroom and the woman is standing with her back to you near your pants.

I am your first appointment of the day. Always. You have no other clients. Ever. I'm not jealous, but if you are telling me about them, I have to assume you are telling them about me, and that will probably be the last you see of me.

Most of the time, everything goes swimmingly. Austin is a great town with great ladies, but in the interest of improving things, these are my biggest (if really minor) complaints. Cheers!!

I agree that the Austin ladies that I have seen are exceptional in their customer efforts. I also agree with the general incall neatness and hygiene comments, although I have not experienced either problem. Wet hair isn't a problem for me, because it says the lady made the effort but didn't have another 30 minutes to dry her hair.

Most ladies here are exceptional psychologists in quickly determining what we desire, and we are as different and varied in personality and desires as they are. Understanding that a personal or sexual connection may differ is important for both clients and providers.

I notice some reluctance from Austin providers to provide feedback to me that may make it a more pleasurable experience for them. I may not have always been clear that I value their pleasure also, so my communication skills probably need improvement. I also understand that the lady may not always be in the mood, and we are paying for a level of sexual fantasy that includes our sexual prowess. Unreal sexual response from the lady is distracting for me and others here.

I haven't been overly active here or ASPD, because there have been times that the emotional connection has been as strong or stronger than the sexual one. It is corny and unrealistic to profess a deep connection, and most ladies here are rightly concerned about a client desiring something more. For me that says that the Austin ladies are both beautiful and psychological geniuses.