Who knows your in the hobby?

... The narrative of cash falling from trees ... Originally Posted by Annef

OUR Trees?

Quick y'all give him a good shake down !!!

This is a great thread. Personally, some in my family know and several close friends know as well. Have a good friend who occasionally hosts gang-bangs so all those guys know although I don't participate. I have helped them find the right women, though, and enjoyed that process.

I am fascinated by some of the women who are on this board... Scarlett, Jenn's Lolli and especially Claire She Blows. Their views of life are really, really appealing to me. They have to be awesome in bed, because on this board they are very sexy. Originally Posted by AcesHigh

1) Did somebody say gangbang?!?!? Innnnteresting. I've been more curious about a bukkake set-up, but I've recently developed an aversion to COF and a fear of my ophthalmologist. (Did you know that ophthalmologists have tweezers?!?!?!)

2) Once upon a time I sat perched atop a handsome man and had Claire smack my bottom for a long while. Rumor has it, he had a fantastic view. I ain't local, but Scarlett has nice buns. JUST A THOUGHT!

Hmm.... Someone did mention gangbang!

I have wondered whether the provider lifestyle isn't a secret fantasy of a lot of women but realize it may be the secret fantasy of a lot of men about women.

This is a great thread, Iron. I once told a woman I did not know that well. We were in the process of becoming friends, and I had just started doing this and felt a little like a cowboy or some sort of a famous outlaw. Moreover, its gets very lonely not being able to share such a large part of your life with anyone. We were out one night, and I got a little drunk and told her. She literally ditched me in the bar and never responded to one of my texts or phone calls after. You would have thought I had told her I had just murdered someone. Since, I have been a lot more careful. I have a couple of close friends and a sister I have come close to telling. It's rather easy for me not to as I make some of my money from freelance writing and some from this. So, I can easily explain travel and having money without having a steady job. I might one day soon, but there is just such a strange aura around this whole thing. There are two major narratives, as far as I can tell, being told right now about the profession. The narrative of cash falling from trees and the whole glamorous call girl image and, of course, the down and out, childhood abuse, self-medicating on alcohol, drugs and quick infusions of cash story But, in reality, the experience is not much like either one of those things. It's quite the middle class existence for most women, decent money, but not enough to really live conspicuously, just paying bills and doing what you need to do and all the rest.

I think most women are curious about doing it. I was. And, then one day, I quit a job without having another one because I was used to being the boss and my then boss had no idea what she was doing. And lo and behold, despite two degrees and a hell of a lot of experience in my field, I could not find a job making that sort of money, at least not in New Orleans. I mean, that's the story, but the real subtext is that I had always been a little bit curious, otherwise I would not have made such a seemingly erratic jump. But, one day, I did. I just did it. I just put up an ad on backpage. That was all I knew, and I had to research to find that marketing outlet. I'm still to this day shocked that I actually went to my first appointment. And, still to this day, shocked that I felt neither ashamed or terrible about it after it was over. I felt powerful. Was an experience. I feel very gutsy for doing it. I didn't start out in the swinging scene or know anyone, eve,r who had done this. One day, I just up and decided to do it. Well, kind of. I did a copious amount of research about how to screen (at first I screened without knowing about references. Oh man, the amount of hangups I got when asking for full names and places of employment, and just in general how to go about it.

And honestly, after a day like today where I got up at 9, went for a leisurely 30 mile bike ride around Austin, stopping for a lunch and a couple of glasses of wine here and there, before meandering slowly back, I don't know why every woman doesn't do it. Sometimes, it's kind of awesome! Originally Posted by Annef

Thanks Anne, for telling your story. I've always been curious what it is that enables a regular gal, one with other options, to get past the societal disdain and all of the sexual hangups that most of us are taught, and decide that being an escort would be an ok thing to do and make the leap into this world. It seems like there would have to be a big psychological barrier to overcome.

. Moreover, its gets very lonely not being able to share such a large part of your life with anyone.

I think most women are curious about doing it. I was. I'm still to this day shocked that I actually went to my first appointment. And, still to this day, shocked that I felt neither ashamed or terrible about it after it was over. I felt powerful. Was an experience. I feel very gutsy for doing it.

And honestly, after a day like today where I got up at 9, went for a leisurely 30 mile bike ride around Austin, stopping for a lunch and a couple of glasses of wine here and there, before meandering slowly back, I don't know why every woman doesn't do it. Sometimes, it's kind of awesome! Originally Posted by Annef

+1

and especially Claire She Blows. Originally Posted by AcesHigh

(In my best Joey voice) How you doin?

All of my personal friends are open minded. I have no family or career of my own to protect. The city I live in now; is far away from where I grew up. I disclose my escort status to close friends, as the subject comes up around them. I avoid telling anyone, who does not need to know. This has worked out for me, so far. Usually, I have accurate judgment about who is "escort friendly." I avoid letting my friends into my actual business activity, though. I am discreet enough to keep my friends' noses out of clients' communication. I am cautious about making new friends, since I already am friends with many people who I trust. A new friend that I misjudge; could unravel everything I worked for.

I'm living two lives. Life (A) civilian and life (B) is you guys. Never the twain shall meet. The lives will approach each other asymptotically but they must never touch. There was one time I was shopping at HEB and I saw a provider that I had, you know, engaged with shopping with her family. We both avoided eye contact and any semblance of recognition. I got a chubby and then retreated to the wine section. I maintained a two aisle minimum spacing between me and her.

Do you guys have any idea how hard it is to adjust your junk while under camera surveillance?

I'm living two lives. Life (A) civilian and life (B) is you guys. Never the twain shall meet. The lives will approach each other asymptotically but they must never touch. There was one time I was shopping at HEB and I saw a provider that I had, you know, engaged with shopping with her family. We both avoided eye contact and any semblance of recognition. I got a chubby and then retreated to the wine section. I maintained a two aisle minimum spacing between me and her.

Do you guys have any idea how hard it is to adjust your junk while under camera surveillance? Originally Posted by chupataco

Are you the doctor or the Hyde?
IB

Are you the doctor or the Hyde?
IB Originally Posted by Iron Butterfly

I'm the doctor in the (A) life. I'm Hyde in the sack.

I've told no one. Only the providers and myself know I hobby (and my fellow mongers from this board). I can't see any upsaide to telling anyone else in the real world. Seems like it would only be potentially a problem at some point or another.

I have told several of my good friends. I felt like I had to, and, for the most part, they were open-minded about it. I am a very sexual person to begin with, so it's not really unexpected. I haven't told my family, but I always feel that if anyone were to confront me about it, I could be very open and candid about it.

I'm a very open and honest person, up front, and I know my family knows that everything I do, I do because I feel it's in my best interest--and even when it's not, and I know it, I'm always understanding of the consequences I may face from my actions and are more than willing to take them when and if they come as an effect of my decisions.

But maybe it's just the type of relationship I have with my friends and family. I guess I may be lucky when it comes to things like that.

As with most secrets in life, 'need to know' is usually the safest and best policy!

And nobody needs to know in my case.

Who knows I'm in the hobby?

No one including me.

I do however on rare occasion enjoy the time and company of a much younger beautiful lady.

Upon meeting I give her money for groceries and cable.

As a result we fall head over heels and end up immediately making beautiful love.

We usually fall out of love within 60 minutes and part as friends but never ever would I hobby.

That's just gross.

i hobby with my SO so close friends and family know we hobby and look for sugar babies.