Miss Molly:
Good scenario! I think both the lady and gentleman in the equation have the ability to turn away after opening the door. In San Antonio, it seems like men have a lot of class and are no nonsense which is why I remain in this city and rarely travel to other cities.
I am an equal opportunist and I will only require men to be gentlemen. I understand several ladies discriminate against black men, but I will say that a few of my African American clients are prominent lawyers, teachers, business professionals and/or even professional athletes who pay me a considerable amount of money which has allowed me to pay my hefty private college tuition (my reason for being in the hobby - to pay for school). If I denied certain clients based upon their skin color, in theory, it would have been more of a struggle to pay my $6,000 tuition bill for the two classes I was enrolled in last Fall because men in that certain demographic contributed (monetarily) more than men who were Caucasian. Black men really came to my rescue in the month of December!
As far as vibes go, I can not tell you how often I had a "bad vibe" about a client coming to visit me through the booking/scheduling/e-mail process. With poor judgement, I regrettably went along with the session only to find out that the man visiting me was a classless jerk and creep (mostly his creepy attitude/personality and lack of gratitude)! Luckily, it was only with two men from Austin (Keep Austin Weird - I know!). One haggled me to death for almost a year and then gossiped about me in such a vile way and the other was just pure sick in how he treated me. Thankfully, 99% of my previous clients have been grateful, kind and warm...it is always that creepy 1% of weirdos.
After August 2010, I decided I'd market to "Gentlemen Only" and to this day only see gentlemen, period (regardless of race, religion, age, odor, length of session booked, etc.)! In San Antonio, the men here are just way too cool. I love them and could care less if they are out of shape, or 96 years old or have a slight odor....I can overlook all of that as long as they are a gentleman. My strategy these days is scrutinizing posting history and going with my intuition about the client visiting me.
Anyway, Molly - from a provider's perspective, I do not think I would have the heart to turn a gentleman away when opening the door (again all of my experiences in San Antonio have been positive (I love my men in SA). A client's looks mean absolutely nothing to me as long as he is cool. Personality is usually what puts me off (if his is a bad personality or weird, or out of the norm).
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Say you book an appointment with a provider.
You show up, and the provider invites you in,
but politely decides to cancel with something like
"I'm sorry, something came up" " I don't feel well" but the real reason of the cancelation is due to personal preferences (and you as a smart adult can pretty much sense this)
Would you prefer her to
A. Look through the window/peephole and not open the door?
B. Tell you, "I'm not interested due to personal preferences".
C. Or just keep it clean "im' sorry something came up" like I did to one gentleman?
If she cancels, are you gonna text her later asking "I'm not your type right"? knowing that was the issue?
Just want some opinions...
Originally Posted by Miss Molly