Ever Fallen For Your Provider Or Client ?

Enjoy the relationships that develop--be they for an hour of for years. Be they friendship or romance. Originally Posted by Old-T

The one truth is there are no absolutes in relationships with a provider. You cannot say they never work because some do. You can't say its a good idea because that is not the primary objective here. I agree with Old-T, take what you can get and enjoy it. Life is short so enjoy the moments. Originally Posted by Laz

Old-T and Laz, you are wise...
I'll take the hour with Z on any given day and be happy as FUCK. Yessss. Better believe I will enjoy it and relish it for my lifetime...I'm a Man of My Word! 2012 will do me just well!

To me this is not Pretty Woman. I'm sure for some there is a possible fairy tale ending. If it happens; it happens. I hobby for the thrill of sex with different women. Even though I currently have a SO, I'm not big into the relationship thing. If my current relationship ended, I wouldn't be so quick to jump into something serious. About the closest I could ever come to "falling" for a provider would to just be fuck buddies with her. For me, the perfect relationship has little if any emotional ties and is purely based on sex.

In my head, it's black or white, I know what a session is and isn't. My heart is more gray and doesn't seem to know the difference. So, in some way, I fall for all the lovely ladies here. It has never been a big problem. In a couple days I will move on. Never had any serious thoughts about the long term relationship. 99.9% chance of doing more harm than good.

For me, the perfect relationship has little if any emotional ties and is purely based on sex. Originally Posted by Cpalmson

Are you related to my husband Wakeup???....

I have made this mistake before after seeing a provider for several months and getting to know her personally and even some of her family by photos. From experience I can tell you it does not work out 90% of the time. She is in the business to make money and support her family and if you read the reviews, what you think is special is normally for all her clients. Not saying you should not care for a provider but if you expect them to fall in love with you it probably will not work out.
Providers are people and I treat them well but have to make myself understand it is a game and fantasy and lead with your little head not your heart.

Two. Two in 20+ years. It's difficult not to if you only have small semblances of a heart. I mean, you're there, naked between the sheet, carrying on like two wild animals.... and you're just supposed to get up from that walk away without any regard at all for the other human involved?

There are two many issues....lying, deciet , love hate, jealousy. And of course the old question....Are you going to continue to work? Its best to leave it as client ]provider} relationship.

It is difficult. I quit doing this when I did "found" someone. I don't know how some of them make it work but they do. Originally Posted by Shayla

I wish my girl & I could have made it work. We got close, texting & calling alot. I was married, so kinda kept some distance & left our relationship business as usual. We got reckless when it switched to BBFS & she got pregnant. She got out of the biz sometime after. We had a falling out & never spoke to one another again. She looked me up after the baby was born. He looks just like me. We never spoke of it before, but we each had feelings for each other we had not discussed before. She is young & very attractive so I wrote my feelings off as lust or infatuation. I'm 16 years older than her, married with two kids, and never thought she would have feelings for me. I was already having problems with my marriage, so the relationship we started made sense to me. It didn't work after all. Five months later & we split up. We loved each other alot & it was really hard on both of us. We both did it because it was best for the other. We never cared how we met, only that we had found each other.

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Two. Two in 20+ years. It's difficult not to if you only have small semblances of a heart. I mean, you're there, naked between the sheet, carrying on like two wild animals.... and you're just supposed to get up from that walk away without any regard at all for the other human involved? Originally Posted by wizzbang

I fell in 'love' with London when we were together. I lost all control. But, I regained composure. I'm good.

There are two many issues....lying, deciet , love hate, jealousy. And of course the old question....Are you going to continue to work? Its best to leave it as client ]provider} relationship. Originally Posted by pickupkid

Yep!

I wish my girl & I could have made it work. We got close, texting & calling alot. I was married, so kinda kept some distance & left our relationship business as usual. We got reckless when it switched to BBFS & she got pregnant. She got out of the biz sometime after. We had a falling out & never spoke to one another again. She looked me up after the baby was born. He looks just like me. We never spoke of it before, but we each had feelings for each other we had not discussed before. She is young & very attractive so I wrote my feelings off as lust or infatuation. I'm 16 years older than her, married with two kids, and never thought she would have feelings for me. I was already having problems with my marriage, so the relationship we started made sense to me. It didn't work after all. Five months later & we split up. We loved each other alot & it was really hard on both of us. We both did it because it was best for the other. We never cared how we met, only that we had found each other. Originally Posted by HedonisticFool

It was 'LUST' not 'Love' in my honest opinion (IMHO)...cool .

This is sort off topic I began dating someone out of the hobby and everything was great and he was very openminded and thought he could handle the truth so I was honest with him and even told him I always said if I found someone I would retire..He decided because he had dated someone who ran an agency before he couldn't deal with it...oh well just goes to prove atleast to me that if I am going to date and do this keep my mouth shut and than retire when the comes....

I think for men IMO that the thought of someone else sleeping with your SO everyday is a tough pill to swallow. The " long term relationship" you have with someone as a provider is different than BF GF because you know it's business you know the rules and you abide by them, you can leave knowing another guy is in the parking lot waiting for her and be cool with that, but when you attach feelings and give it a title it changes it because knowing someone is at the gas station waiting on your GF to call them so they can meet up would hurt down to the very core of your soul.

It was 'LUST' not 'Love' in my honest opinion (IMHO)...cool .[/QUOTE]

It was definately alot of both. Ofcourse everyone is entitled to their opinions. I was actually shocked to find this discussion. I figured the fact of becoming emotionally involved with a provider or client was taboo. I personally would have never shared my story with fear of ridicule. Glad to know I'm not the only fool.
Press on people...spare no details.

It was 'LUST' not 'Love' in my honest opinion (IMHO)...cool . Originally Posted by HedonisticFool

It was definately alot of both. Ofcourse everyone is entitled to their opinions. I was actually shocked to find this discussion. I figured the fact of becoming emotionally involved with a provider or client was taboo. I personally would have never shared my story with fear of ridicule. Glad to know I'm not the only fool.
Press on people...spare no details. [/quote]


Falling in love with a provider and vice versa doesn't make one a fool...you can't help what happens emotionally between two people. It takes a lot of work and effort and communication to date someone in this profession. I married a client, dated others, and it didn't work out primarily because of the jealousy issue or that I'd come home to my man and be too tired to dress up again in lingerie and have sex. I think I definitely dated and married a client(s) because I could never lie to a civvie man about my job, I just am not a good liar and would feel terrible deceiving him. And MOST men ( civvie) would be horrified or totally turned off if I said " Well yes I'm an escort..." So to me,while some providers would balk at the thought of dating a client, it made sense because of how we met: he knew what I did, and I knew he was a hobbyist. I didn't expect the guy to stop hobbying either just because he was dating me. But they ultimately always ended up throwing it in my face about 'work'. So, for five years, I've been single, and right now, I'll say honestly I don't think I could have a relationship with a man as long as I work. Emotionally, spiritually...it's too taxing. Plus I have another job too, and when I get home from work ( both jobs) the last thing I need is to see someone at home. I want to be alone and with my cat and have serious solitude and downtime to myself.

I mixed the two together. Met a provider.Became my ATF. Became exclusive to me.Quit the business and became my girlfriend. She wanted to get married after a year and I didn't. It ended. It was bad and I will never repeat that again Originally Posted by burkalini

How badly did it end? You are still alive

Lina