What is the #1 rule for a Hobbyist???

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That's a good one Laura Lynn, applies to hobbyists and providers. It's easy to do when you have great sessions and spend a lot of time together. Reminds me of actors and actresses that "fall in love" while filming a movie, even divorce their spouses, and maybe get married, but it never lasts.

I did this back in Dec 2012, when I had barely been in the biz for a year. A client claimed he loved me and wanted to have a future, wanted to get married someday, and said he would take care of me, didn't want me to work. I was skeptical, but I let him convince me, and even convince me that I was in love too. It was very awkward when my ex-clients would call or email me, and a couple even stopped by my apartment when they couldn't get hold of me to make sure I was ok or to give me a Christmas gift.

So he got a divorce, we got a house and moved out of my apartment, changed my number,(I've since changed it back to my original number), {but I still got frequent emails on my provider account, even though I had disabled my ads}

But in the back of my mind, I was always thinking, "this is a man who cheated on his wife with numerous providers so why wouldn't he cheat on me if we get married".
And frankly, I missed providing. I would read ECCIE every so often and wistfully remember the nice, fun men I met.

And of course, the passion faded, we decided not to get married anytime soon, I started feeling like a live in housekeeper/maid, and I missed feeling sexy and getting validation on that from other men. I enjoyed that part of providing!

Broke up in Feb, and I got right back into as soon as I got an incall. So obviously, we were not right for each other if I got bored in those 14 1/2 months of monagomy, and just wondered if would always think of me as an escort. I think I was naïve expecting that we would get married and live happily ever after. If I had read more forums like this one, I don't think I would have done it. Originally Posted by GingerKatt
You don't say. Yea I think this one takes the cake
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  • b2pop
  • 04-02-2014, 06:21 PM
Don't prepay and don't fall in love. First of all it is about money and prepaying leads to disaster and disappointment. Falling in love is just plain crazy and I'm sure there are some success stories out there but they are few and far between. Shit I left sessions with an awesome young provider thinking how great that would be to have that to tap at home every night but when you really think about it would never last. Also once I see another woman that I want to fuck I realize why would I want to screw this deal up by falling in love.