great responses.All you are doing is regurgitating what the others are saying you have not added anything to this post .... you sought attention and received it
But let me remake my point. I'm not discouraging people from the sharing of information. In fact, I had no issue with the original post about the nc/ns. That is, in fact, good information because it lets you know how people handle their business and then you can make the educated choice of whether to see them.
Regarding DM, my point was not to white knight and jump to her aid. I like her. I had a good time with her. I think she's worth it. But then again, it did take me months to get an appointment. But I knew that going in so . . . And yet, I'm being criticized for "discouraging" others to share their opinions, information, experiences, but then, as well, being criticized for sharing mine. Can't have it both ways.
So here's my opinion on sharing information - we should. This board is useful for that reason. And I "encourage" it. HOWEVER, I just don't think it's worth getting all wrapped around the axle over any of it (yes, barring more serious situations). I think it's great to post the info about the nc/ns or the way people handle appointments. What I found not useful and over dramatized was "some" of the discussion that followed. Maybe the original poster had an appointment, maybe he didn't. Maybe DM should have let him know it wasn't a solid appointment or that she wasn't coming, maybe she shouldn't have. But let's not get bent out of shape about any it.
Sharing information is this:
"I had a time set with her. She never provided an address and never let me know the time was a no-go"
Response: "I never gave him a location, therefore no appointment in my book."
Done and done. Then people have all the info to decide whether they agree with him, or her. And enough info to decide whether they want to pursue seeing the provider or not.
Whether you do or don't pay attention to bad reviews is up to you. My point was directed at the providers on that issue and suggesting to them not to get bothered by bad reviews when they have tons of good ones. It's not directed at the hobbiest as to whether they should or should not ignore the bad reviews.
But NONE of this is worth getting irate for, and NONE of it is worth the dispensing of keyboard venom. If I've learned anything in life it's this - people will see the facts as they see them, based on their opinions, beliefs and experiences. There's no "swaying" them one way or another. So pass on the facts and let them decide for themselves. That is the sharing of information.
No matter what we think, being a provider is NOT easy. So take it easy on them from the 1,000 foot view. Share your info for other's benefit and let it go. But it's not worth people getting upset over and certainly not worth devoting time and energy to.
So let's not take it all so seriously. In the end of the day, that's the real issue. And disregard all of the above for the more serious of situations, and we all know what those are already. Originally Posted by yeah_right