i say that because ... i am not a provider. i have no real insight to the communications and sessions from a provider standpoint. i am familiar with some guys .. and my own communications and sessions. but that is just a sliver of what is going on. ... and, course, there is 'the board'.
regarding the board .. to me, it's like TV. you don't like what you see ... move on. you can block people so you never have to see their postings. i regularly block users in forums and chat. kind of purifies the environment for me.
i would say there is more ... drama .. in the austin forums than dfw .. and dfw was my aspd and eccie home until recently. even if it is true that dfw had less drama (opinion, not fact), we still felt there was too much. drama may not be the most accurate term .. i think we are really talking about tolerance and civility.
here is my b f skinner suggestion ... reward good behavior in hopes of reinforcing it and seeing it repeated. a 'gentlemen's discount' .. yeah .. that's it ... then i'll try to add that to my other preferred discounts, 'senior citizen', 'early bird', 'veteran', and now .. 'gentleman' .. discount.
yes .. yes .... dodger is a cheap fuck ... a value shopper .. the k-mart john
yes ,,, yes .. i'm kidding .. maybe ... a little .. but i really think if this stuff bothers anyone .. move on .. not necessarily retire ... just block .. and stay true to you better instincts. remember the words of US Army General "Vinegar" Joe Stillwell : "Illegitimi non carborundum" (don't let the bastards grind you down).
short story .. .these ladies offer me the opportunity to live out some erotic romantic fantasies .. and i really appreciate them for it. even though there are some ladies who are not to my tastes and i'll never see them ... i'm glad they participate, make things interesting, ... and provide options for us all.
-------------- for those unfamiliar with b f skinner:
human action dependent on consequences of previous actions. If the consequences are bad, there is a high chance that the action will not be repeated; if the consequences are good, however, the actions that led to it will become more probable.[7] Skinner called this the principle of reinforcement.[8] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/B._F._Skinner