I understand mongers not wanting to pay too much, but how often do you see "overpriced!" thrown around, and then a short while later, "I had another shitty experience with some bargain basement BP chick!!" Price doesn't guarantee quality, but in many cases you do get what you pay for.
Some folks here think it's idiotic to spend more than $250/hr (I'm not quite sure where that seemingly arbitrary figure comes from; I swear back in aspd's heydey $250 was the floor for most of the quality providers). To me, I don't understand spending $150 -$200 on some chick who may or may not flake, be staying in a shitty hotel with a boyfriend/pimp in the next room, or having to push back the appointment multiple times because the girl doesn't have her shit together, etc. I'd rather spend a little more with a provider I'm fairly certain I'm going to have a great time with and not have to put up with a bunch of bullshit.
Originally Posted by Frissionary
Why am I always sucked into coed
A lot of great information has been provided here but here are my two pennies, I'll begin with a preface: my opinions are drawn from my own experience.
Frissionary raises an excellent point: lower rates *could* correlate to higher volume (and if a girl wants the volume, who the fuck are we to shame her for it?) while a "higher rate" like 300+ an hour could be an attribute of a selective, lower volume provider. I have had rates all over the board. I have an excellent entourage of regulars who I adore and see at varying grandfathered rates. It's no secret my TCB has been less than desirable, but the volume of correspondence I have juggled is a job in and of itself. Things slipped through the cracks. My solution? I took an extended hiatus and I raised my rates. I am an extremely confident woman and I know what I bring to the table. If you think my rates are unwarranted, or if any other female's price tag is too expensive, then set your sights on someone who falls within your parameters. Don't belittle and scrutinize a provider because YOU don't agree with HER price point. What makes your standards better than ours? For every man who complains about "hoogars charging 300+ an hour" there is one who doesn't blink at the price point. I have said this many times before, and I'll say it again: the prolific posters and popular handles who post in this forum are a small fraction of hobbyists as a whole. However, I agree that this board has devolved into a high school slam book shared by assholes (male and female) who puff their chests behind the safety of a keyboard.
Sorry, I got a little worked up.
To the OP: if you feel burned out, give yourself a break. Time away does wonders to your mind and body. Sometimes we forget the psychological factors that are necessary for this world. To be successful we have to compartmentalize the various factions of our life, and shifting between provider and private can be mentally exhausting. We aren't selling apples on the side of the road! We aren't selling t shirts or knick knacks, we are selling an experience. Yes, service is a component, but IOP and chemistry is provided through experience. I don't think any of us should be ashamed to take a step back and vacate the "hobby", nor should we be shamed for admitting we need a break. We open the most private part of ourselves and share that privacy with you. We aren't "selling pussy" - has anyone actually walked away with a provider's pussy? We are providing an experience. This can be a really fun world and I hate watching members get torn apart for posting a few thoughts in coed. We need to do better.