If you were outed (hobbyist or provider) how would you handle it?

yea right...with his little cute puppy picture I DARE him to come off the porch with the puppies and play with the kitty cats...meow......so about it CC you ready to play with us???...sorry for hijacking the thread does this mean I get a nibble and not a bite for be wicked??
maybe the mod*a*lay*her will run us down vixen, jump on us, and punish us with his growwwlllllll..
wait a minute, dogs love to lick you all over.... Originally Posted by Anita Lay
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yea right...with his little cute puppy picture I DARE him to come off the porch with the puppies and play with the kitty cats...meow......so about it CC you ready to play with us???...sorry for hijacking the thread does this mean I get a nibble and not a bite for be wicked?? Originally Posted by Irish Vixen
Oh, well aren't you just too cute!
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Every time I got outed for being in the hobby, it was by someone else that was hobbying... otherwise, how would've they known that I was hobbying? In the military, it's bound to happen... go to an area with a red light district and you'll find a whole bunch of military people there.

Even in Iraq, there were instances of Air Force women running business on the side, by being providers, for male service members in the major FOBs.

We have an unwritten rule when it comes to this... what happens on deployment stays in the deployment. People knew better than to violate that.
Very interesting responses. Thanks everyone who shared.
well I guess you will have to meet me to find out...that is if you think you can handle me and Anita and I can think of another lady one....
Oh, well aren't you just too cute! Originally Posted by Chica Chaser
I dont think much would change for me in the long run. People around me already have an idea that I am doing *something* they would consider illegit. People think I strip or deal drugs and one girl asked if I was an escort.

I have a dayjob, and I work two maybe 3 days a week. Not only do I not ask for more hours, I get mad when I get more. Sometimes I'll be broke at the beginning of the day but by the end of I'm shopping or going out to eat- but I dont usually use credit cards. So, uhh, hmm what's really going on here? LOL
I confess it is a 54 year old man living out his last days boinking young hardbodies instead of fat 50 year olds who want to control every aspect of your life. If no providers were involed
Out me.
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Every time I got outed for being in the hobby, it was by someone else that was hobbying... otherwise, how would've they known that I was hobbying? In the military, it's bound to happen... go to an area with a red light district and you'll find a whole bunch of military people there.

Even in Iraq, there were instances of Air Force women running business on the side, by being providers, for male service members in the major FOBs.

We have an unwritten rule when it comes to this... what happens on deployment stays in the deployment. People knew better than to violate that.
Originally Posted by herfacechair
If only the recruiter had known what to tell me.
@17 I was already making my own explosives
and a topshot with any side or long arm.
All I had was pussy on the brain at the time--
-worse than I do now. The tales my lil bro and
sis tell.......mmmm how different things
would have been.
Ok...this time I will write it the proper way since there were about 3 or 4 of us that had stuff removed due to OUR personal real life info , not the other persons info.
I have been outed and IT DIDN''T MATTER BECAUSE MY FAMILY KNOWS.
Their point and mine is no different than a sugar daddy arrangement, NO BIG DEAL.
Intelligent ppl ask all the time-why is one ok and not the other?
Intelligent ppl ask all the time-why is one ok and not the other? Originally Posted by Anita Lay
I know right?

And also there are girls who essentially do what I do without asking for anything in return. They are considered sexually liberated, but I'm a bad person. I really dont get it.
I don't give a shit on so many levels. I would never out antbody, but my business is just that. The haters can and will say whatever they want. In the end I'm the one fucking uberhotties by the boat load and they are just mad that they dont have the money or balls to do it.
I don't have kids(if I did I would choose another line of work-not passing judgement or anything, that's just me) and I have a very limited amount of family that I'm EXTREMELY close to. Before I "came out" to them as a provider I was a nervous wreck and terrified that they would find out via something or someone else...but I came clean about 8 months or so ago and and now I feel sooooo much better. I guess I'm blessed in that I've never given a fuck what people I don't know or respect think about the way I live MY life.

It's our life. Our choices. My family accepts this job but they worry about my safety a lot. That's the worst part of being "out"...I feel like I added some stress to the lives of people I love because now when we talk on the phone even if it's just a normal, everyday conversation and I'm not about to go on a date or anything they always end the call with "I love you very much. PLEASE BE CAREFUL. Bye." like because I'm a provider getting ready to go to sleep something dangerous is going to happen to me. lol.

I couldn't lie to the people I love anymore, it's just not in my nature...I don't think I'm doing anything bad or I wouldn't be doing it in the first place. Sometimes I regret that I make my family worry to death though.

I would be horrified and ready to *show that person I value my future and my privacy, perhaps physically* if I got outed on purpose at school or in the general public though.

There are a few people I've ran across in the hobby that I don't care for(that's bound to happen anywhere) but I would never sink that low as to out them(give their real name or info that could quickly and easily turn up their real name) to anyone.

Outting is an activity done and threatened by the scum of the earth...and people that aren't very creative.
Question for Providers:
I just found out that a person I know in my private life is a provider. I saw her picture on an escort site. Do I tell her I saw the ad? i wouldn't mind taking scheduling a session but I am not sure if private and hobbyist life should mix
Question for Providers:
I just found out that a person I know in my private life is a provider. I saw her picture on an escort site. Do I tell her I saw the ad? i wouldn't mind taking scheduling a session but I am not sure if private and hobbyist life should mix Originally Posted by brder4lyfe
I wouldn't do it. You'll probably make her feel really uncomfortable and awkward.
Then again, it depends on how you go about it. I don't know if you're the spiteful type that would blackmail or not but I would suggest skipping over the ad.
I would personally never mention even knowing she was a provider. When a person is ready they will tell you.