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I don't believe the male genetic makeup, as provider and protector, would allow any man who's "truly" in love with a woman to accept her "present" occupation as provider. Any man who does, simply loves the money or the sex, not the woman. He's just a pimp. Originally Posted by rharley

I don't date while participating in the hobby because the type of man I would be attracted to would not be okay with it. I believe a man should be a provider and protector and I honestly wouldn't feel very protected and loved.

I wouldn't go as far as to say any man who dates an escort is a pimp because she may not be giving him anything -- he just may not be willing or able to help her. While it isn't for me, I say --- Do what works for you and never apologize for it.

I've often wondered not so much "if to tell" but rather WHEN to tell. If you tell them too soon with out trusting them your "secret" could be in danger but if you wait until you truly trust them they may feel deceived.

Every situation is different. Call me a hopeless romantic but when it comes to true love you figure out how (or if) to cross bridges when you get to them.

Starting this thread was eerily prophetic. When I posted this early last month, I had no idea what a predicament I would be in THIS month...

I found someone. Someone incredible...Someone loving, gentle, authentic and most importantly, nerdy. Oh! And he likes me too! *giggle*

At the end of our first date; he mentioned how nice my apartment was and asked me what I did for a living. I'd be lying if I said I didn't think of this thread and all of the well-intentioned advice. Puzzled by my hesitance to answer he slowly asked, "Are you a stripper?"

I could have lied and said yes. After all, strippers are the most socially tolerable sex workers, right?

But I didn't. I chose the truth instead..and as soon as I did, I felt good. In that moment, I didn't give two squirrel farts if he rejected me or not. I was proud of ME. I was proud of JAMAIS VU the escort and the real me whom JV has influenced and developed. Fuck him if he didn't like me too.

But he did. Well, does. Its early...for all I know, I may come back in February with an entirely differently perspective. But for now based on this beautiful, albeit, singular experience, I choose truth. I recommend it too.

JV Originally Posted by jamais vu

Congratulations! I have been through similar lately, and hope all turns out well, too. I think relationships have a better stand and authenticity and for love if you are capable of sharing who you really are.

:-). I am very very proud of you. Being honest is not the most easiest way. But it can be very rewarding.
You Go, Girl!

I don't date while participating in the hobby because the type of man I would be attracted to would not be okay with it. I believe a man should be a provider and protector and I honestly wouldn't feel very protected and loved.

I wouldn't go as far as to say any man who dates an escort is a pimp because she may not be giving him anything -- he just may not be willing or able to help her. While it isn't for me, I say --- Do what works for you and never apologize for it.

Every situation is different. Call me a hopeless romantic but when it comes to true love you figure out how (or if) to cross bridges when you get to them. Originally Posted by Meet Aubrey

That sounds logical. I sometimes am attracted to people , too, who are not ok with the job.
by the way: stunning webpresence!

I don't date while participating in the hobby because the type of man I would be attracted to would not be okay with it. I believe a man should be a provider and protector and I honestly wouldn't feel very protected and loved.
Originally Posted by Meet Aubrey

I totally agree. And I also think that my past is like his - neither of us should want or need to know.

That sounds logical. I sometimes am attracted to people , too, who are not ok with the job.
by the way: stunning webpresence! Originally Posted by ninasastri

Thank you!

The truth shall set you FREE.