If you truly know who you are as a person and are comfortable in your own skin, then you possess one of the most enviable and attractive traits/qualities found in another person....Confidence!! (Please note: There is a difference between "confident" and "cocky.")
Confidence is what makes a man or a woman "sexy" in the eyes of another. "Sexy" doesn't own scales...If you feel sexy, you are sexy! Be yourself, be true to yourself, and to who you are, and the rest will follow.
In our lifetime, we will meet a variety of people with a variety of opinions, likes, dislikes, etc., and many will differ from our own - but that's ok! The only person we have any control over in this life is ourselves. Everyone else is entitled to his or her own opinion, whether we agree or not, and, if you don't agree, ignore it. Save your energy for something else and don't waste it on things you deem negative.
For me, the best part of being over 40 is I am now comfortable with myself on the inside and out. I know I am not a spinner, (mom of 3..uh, hello:-), but I have other qualities to offer...I'm sexy, attractive, intelligent, funny, sincere, drama-free, love to laugh and, well, a whole lot of fun dammit!! LOL:-) And I will be still be all those things whether I am a size 0 or a size 28. What's great is there are a variety of ladies and men who possess the same qualities and more in oodles and oodles of abundance; and even better news, is people come in all shapes, sizes, colors and designs. Variety is the spice of life so go sample and enjoy, and as always, be safe in doing so.....