I know I am going to sound like a total asshole ( not that I mind at all), BUT, I had to ask who Heather even was before I made a post.
I obviously don't agree with a word she had to say.
If it is okay to dye your hair with chemicals, wear makeup with chemicals, wear deodorant with cancer causing chemicals, use soap with chemicals, wash your clothes with chemicals that are treated and dyed with chemicals, get your nails done with chemicals, have your nail polish removed with more chemicals, brush your teeth with chemicals, clean your house with chemicals, breath in chemicals on the street, use condoms made with chemicals, use tampons and pads made with chemicals that can also give you toxic shock syndrome, use sun screen made with chemicals, go out in the sun or tanning bed with harmful cancer causing rays, have sex with strange men... it is okay to use some spermicide.
The morning after pill gives you your period, it is a system cleanse. Soy mimics estrogen so does olive oil, flax seeds, garlic, and hummus so she better not eat them because that is "putting hormones in her body". Oh, eating chocolate also messes with your hormones so she better stay FAR away from that!
I am pro choice, he made the choice not to have a child with her and went out of his way to take precautions to ensure it wouldn't happen. She made the choice to possibly get knocked up by some stranger and keep it. It is her choice to deal with it on her own, that is her "adult decision".
We aren't in the hobby to make illegitimate children, we are here to have fun as safely as possible. We all choose what risks we are comfortable taking, we are all aware of the risks involved with having sex and getting into the hobby. IMHO she WAS NOT hobbying safely, doing her "job" properly, or making smart choices.
Originally Posted by Lexxxy
While I agree that it's nearly impossible to avoid chemicals and toxic substances my point-and I think the provider in the story's point-is that it's her
choice if she wants to add one more into/on to her. Just because she has/uses 1,001 substances a day doesn't give anybody the right to justify that "just one more" chemical is "okay." If you're pro-choice then you should support her stance on that.
He didn't make the choice to
not have a child with her. Yes, it might have been completely unintentional as most accidents are but the fact remains he willingly consented to have sex with her knowing the risks. Birth control is not 100% and if he didn't want to have any children perhaps he should consider a vasectomy just as mush as she should consider a tubal ligation. He made the choice to run away and hide. As you said, we are all aware of the risks so isn't he just as much at fault as she? Yes, she did/or is possibly making the decision to be a single parent should she become pregnant but financially he is still responsible. Not wanting the kid and leaving the possible mother of your child with a tube of spermicide and the morning after pill in not a defense to not paying child support as I'm sure any family court judge will tell you.