The openly honest thought process of a minority hobbyist from 2010 to now, on a dead horse topic….

I'll share a beer with ya. I am still a newbie here , so my 2 cents may not matter, but being hispanic in texas i have had my share of dissapointments. To each their own. We are human first, color second, we came in this world alone, we will leave alone. I say be a duck and let it roll off your back. Its their loss not ours. Now put up some bad azz memes and smack down the haters. Peace out!

Damn all this time Dorian I was under the perception that you were cooler than me on this board.

looks like your rant helped to drop more than just what was on your chest.

yeah I start getting that bit of perception of which ads depict girls with an NBA policy.

For instance, any of these broads visiting and claiming they do doubles with Madison May, oh yeah, start envisioning a basketball game where the blue jersey wearing mavericks are on the Toyota Center hardwood floor.

Good grief, I think you guys are just reading way to much into and over analyzing an NBA or for example, Dorothy's no Asian rule; you don't know an individual provider's reasoning for creating a rule. Maybe someone of (insert race here) treated her badly, or treated her really well and they had a relationship and she wound up with a broken heart and every time she sees someone of that race, it opens old rules?

My late husband was Asian, I was with him over twenty years, I learned his language, learned to cook all his favorite foods and as a matter of fact, still cook them to this day. I almost made a rule eliminating everyone from that country, why? Not because I have any type of animosity or prejudice against that race, hell I spent the majority of my life, immersed in their culture & loved it, but it's just that now even if I hear someone speaking the language when I am out, it makes me sad that he is no longer on this earth, that he has not seen his children grow up and thrive for the past decade, will not be at their wedding(s), etc. Also, I would really hate to run into someone that he may have known here.

I decided against making this rule, because I decided to just try to get over it; I don't regret it, but if someone tells me prior to visiting that they are from that country, I know it may mess with my head and I will likely spend more time than usual worrying about how the visit may go. Similarly, if someone sees me who has recently lost their spouse, I know I'm going to be overly sensitive to how they must be feeling, because I've been thru it myself. I've been to a couple of widower's homes where it was quite clear to me that they were unable to move on, all of their late wives things remained the same as the day they had departed. It can be a really uneasy feeling walking into someone's home and feeling like there are three people there, when there are only two.

Anyway, the point is, you just don't know what is going thru someone's mind. Why beat yourself up over something you may never know. There are too many people who will see you without hesitation, why not just focus on that? I know if a white guy loves seeing AA girls, or a gentleman has 40 reviews of 20 year old spinners, then suddenly wants to visit me, I'm not going to spend a lot of time trying analyze their thought process, or believe they have zeroed in on my race, age, or body size and are intentionally discriminating against me. Something has formed their preference for whatever reason, there's little that I can do to change someone, I wouldn't want to.



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I am sorry that some providers won't see you because you are black.

I hope someday we can all live in a colorblind world but we aren't there yet.

I am sorry some providers won't see me because I'm old, fat, and bald.

I hope someday we can all live in a world where people are judged by the beauty of their spirit rather than their appearance but we aren't there yet.

But I'm glad I don't have to see providers that I don't find attractive physically or mentally.

I bet you feel that way too.

In fact I know you do because you do not hesitate to post about your proclivities.

Choice works both ways.

If we expect people to respect our choices we need to respect their choices too.

Before I take any action (including posting here) I try to remember to ask myself "Will this action move me further toward or further from my goal?"

I'm not sure this post is helping you.

But that is only my opinion.

Good luck and good hobbying.

Dorian's black?

I never would have thunck it.

Anyway, the point is, you just don't know what is going thru someone's mind. Why beat yourself up over something you may never know. There are too many people who will see you without hesitation, why not just focus on that? Originally Posted by Lexieinhouston

Agree. Not only that but too many women in the RW as well to be as passionate as DG's OP. Sure the provider is a much quicker and easier fuck (pay for play) but still a very small subset to choose from. Those women are out there and lots of them. I remember a couple yrs back I was at a car dealership lots of guys walking around looking for new cars this day and lots of very attractive sales women. There were lots of high rollers in this place and many flocked to this one drop dead gorgeous blond in particular. She finally approached to assist me and before I left I got her personal phone, email, etc she revealed she only liked black guys because she preferred the skin tone.

DG just needs to widen out a little and he'll get a chance to see the full forest.

Yeah Russ, he way WAYYY hotter than that guy, but thanks for the laugh. Very perceptive Dorian, maybe you have experience in this area.


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Dorian hopefully this vid will help you as well. Loving yourself is the key. Not what others think of you.

Originally Posted by Dorian Gray

I think more people realize you're breaking inside than you think.



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