fuck and leave!!!!

Get burned once, shame on her. Burn me twice, shame on me.
I've been burned twice. The worse part, the one I'm seeing now, if I didn't know any better, actually seems as tough she cares. She gets close, I pull or push away. I don't call for a few days, I get a call every single time asking where the hell I am and why I'm ignoring her. Again, if I didn't know any better. We spend time outside the hobby in fact, more than in the sack. She never asks for anything more than my time, attention and friendship. I might just stick around for this one a little longer to see how it pans out.

Until I see definitive proof that G.P. and VL aren't happily married, I'll continue to believe in 'Hobby Love". lol

But seriously, folks, don't underestimate "the crazy" in these women. I have a few that bang me for free, have never charged me, have no idea why. I'm not exactly charming. They also turn 1 hour appointments into overnights for no extra charge if they like the guy. But all the while they are on stupid dating services looking for Mr. Right, but afraid to tell the guy they are whores. Our little play world is one crazy fucking place.

Your "connection" is nothing but your $!
smh, you will be made a fool out of sooner or later. Originally Posted by TreeBark

Hard to believe I'm saying it....but words of wisdom right there.
And prophecy of course.

Jok you gotta admit one of the better threads lately at least the ladies could talk and not get attacked, we could use more ladies on here in some threads. Originally Posted by bjwstw

Thankyou, it is nice for everyone to be able to express their opinions with out being belittled or bashed

not yet burger not yet time will tel lthough Originally Posted by bjwstw

I guess time will tell... this is a thread and will continue to be a thread not a threAD

A lot of good valid points. But in keeping with the OP's statement, she is simply trying to say that with her regulars the relationship doesn't end the minute you walk out the door. I talk to her daily. We actually do care about each other and that is pretty hard to find. And no one is denying that $ is priority one. Without it there might very well be nothing. But $ is what almost every aspect of the hobby is about. Most of us know that. But with my current regular (guess who lol) I know my investment gives better returns than with just any old provider. And she doesn't "force" me to see only her, that's my choice. Originally Posted by blthzr666

Thankyou, you are totally correct babe!! xoxoxoxo

They are getting paid they will say whatever they need to for you to come back and pay again and again and again.
customer service Originally Posted by bjwstw

that may be true, but at least the girl would prefer you to come back and not some other tom dick or harry..

Wow! Best thread I've seen in long time. Thank you, Trish, for your willingness to put yourself out there... And thanks to all for both the thoughtful and playfull responses!
I'm a connector... Don't seem to be able to suppress all my 'connector' genes, even when between the sheets. It is who I am. And I've been very fortunate that Trish, who I believe is somewhat similar, broke my hobby cherry!
I think it is great when we are with someone to be present with that person, who they are, and what is going on in there lives. (Never assume you have a clue about the challenges going on in another's life!). That said, heck, there is nothing wrong with wanting and NEEDING to "get in get out!". At times, or even always!
I have a great respect/understanding for the 'f&l' prostelitizers... At a minimum, they saw some others getting 'in' too deep or not think things out. They saw some, hmmm, carnage. And they warned, perhaps a bit zealously, others to think twice... And then think again! I must confess i see the value in their warnings. I've been known to be 'blind' in the moment. So thanks to those who gave those warnings!
That said, I will always be a connector.. And will always cherish the 'connecting' time (in addition to the bcd time) with wonderful people, humans, like Trish. With them, another aspect of my life is the fuller! (Apologies to all for the blah blah blah..i hope buried in there my message got across!). ; ) Originally Posted by newd

U are right, and im a connector also, I do enjoy that part of a date as much are bcd activities... I love the time I spend with my regulars and the closeness we have xoxoxo

I've got to agree with you, blthzr666! Well stated.
Sure guys, lots of the other points are valid, sure it all starts with and predicated upon is the $ and "service"....but some make themselves a bit more emotionally available...available for a bit of human connection. I don't think that typically "replaces" the $ and service aspect...but it can certainly augment it on a human level...and with time, grow into a true friendship/connection. Lucky for some of us who like/want some more connection, Trisha is one who is able to, perhaps needs to, go to that place.

If she does have the wool pulled over our eyes...she has at least convinced at least 2 of us and I for one am completely enjoying the ride! <Okay, REALLY, did I just say that?> ; ) Be well all....and stay warm! Getting crazy out there.

Im sure what I posted is still in the cloud...

Its advertised as the

"Relationship Experience" Originally Posted by aj14620

where do I find this? I would like to read it ..

I've got to agree with you, blthzr666! Well stated.
Sure guys, lots of the other points are valid, sure it all starts with and predicated upon is the $ and "service"....but some make themselves a bit more emotionally available...available for a bit of human connection. I don't think that typically "replaces" the $ and service aspect...but it can certainly augment it on a human level...and with time, grow into a true friendship/connection. Lucky for some of us who like/want some more connection, Trisha is one who is able to, perhaps needs to, go to that place.

If she does have the wool pulled over our eyes...she has at least convinced at least 2 of us and I for one am completely enjoying the ride! <Okay, REALLY, did I just say that?> ; ) Be well all....and stay warm! Getting crazy out there. Originally Posted by newd

Thanks newd
From what I can tell, all 3 (including mb9.5) of us seem to be enjoying the experience.
And Trisha I don't think that one is publicly posted

I stand corrected, she may mean this: http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=1300330

There is one factor in this debate that is overlooked. If you're prone to weakness then yes, becoming connected can be painful in the end. Jondalart mentioned about escorts being able to talk to us, stroke our egos, compliment us, thank us for gifts. I'm not doing this to get my ego stroked or to get any compliments. I don't think I've ever bought any escort a gift. I may have a connection with this utr girl I "connect with" but she knows I still see others. Variety is, as I've found out, the spice of life!
I got divorced a few years ago and I'm just having fun. I'm not weak. I'm not going to let myself get hurt. And I think most of the guys on this board are that way too. It's the hobbiests who don't know this is fantasyland need to beware.
Great thread Trish. If only you were closer!

It's finally my turn to say this: On we go........

Its all well and good if the guy can understand she has many boyfriends while you are expected to see only her or else. Some if you are completely delusional and must wake up.
She's telling at least 3 others the same exact story!
What gets me are tge se senior members who actually fall for the game! Let all know how it works out for you. Lol
Let me guess, she only sends you text messages and pictures in the middle of the night right? She's got that text on auto send to all her guys. Fools.

Get burned once, shame on her. Burn me twice, shame on me.
I've been burned twice. The worse part, the one I'm seeing now, if I didn't know any better, actually seems as tough she cares. She gets close, I pull or push away. I don't call for a few days, I get a call every single time asking where the hell I am and why I'm ignoring her. Again, if I didn't know any better. We spend time outside the hobby in fact, more than in the sack. She never asks for anything more than my time, attention and friendship. I might just stick around for this one a little longer to see how it pans out. Originally Posted by TreeBark

TreeBark, seems like you're the pot calling the kettle black.
This provider I say I have a connection with is nowhere as deep as the connection you have with yours. She never calls or texts me unless I text her 1st. I never go anywhere with her except maybe a coffee run. Our connection is strictly sexual. I like sex with her and she with me. Sometimes I feel lazy and don't want to run to an ATM. She just says "okay, catch you on it next time". I don't care if she is saying to 25 others what she says to me.

Yours has become a friendship. A friendship that in this thread you are warning everybody else to avoid! I actually commend you for the post I have quoted you in here. We're all vulnerable. But the strong survive!