What would you do or expect if caught?

In everything else that goes wrong in a relationship it seems that most people think that problems can lay with either the man or the woman and often with both.

But you people here think differently?

When a married man is doing this it is everyone here's opinion that the problem can only lay with the wife?

Why does that not surprise me? You all obviously need to justify it to yourselves.

Good. I should hear no excuses from him and there should be no attempt on his part to say he is sorry or remorseful or sick or that he needs or wants help to deal with things. Simply blame for me in whatever he feels caused him to stray. Ok.

Will the evidence of his cheating, the pictures of him and his women meeting and disappearing into their apartments or the hotel room or the countless emails and text messages back and forth setting up their disgusting meetings result in a determination that it is all my fault?

Do any of you think initial custody of our daughters will land with him instead of me?

LOL! You should all pray your wives never find out.

It's all too late for him now. When he gets back in town Friday he will know it's all over.
Passion2015's Avatar
You know sometimes it's good to sit down together and open up. Ask why. Then see if you can agree on a solution.
Iron Butterfly's Avatar
Interesting having a conversation with a man acting like a woman and knowing nothing about women, Cary on.


IB
I'm still curious about the legality of obtaining passwords for personal email accounts.
fun2come's Avatar
faithfulforyears,

Suggest you read the "Power of NOW"
Can't change other people, but sure can change yourself !!!!

Now assuming all is true: your male SO cheated on you (assuming you are the female SO), then I also have to say no wonder.
I mean who wants to mess with you .... FUCK with ya ..... definitely but mess with ya, noooooooooo

Oh and while you are at it: Also suggest the "5 Agreements"
Might also give you some new perspectives ....

Ahh the land of cheats, crooks and lawyers (often incorporated into the same people)...
Always sue sue sue, never my fault always not my fault,
shit forbid taking responsibility and ownership....

It's all too late for him now. When he gets back in town Friday he will know it's all over. Originally Posted by faithfulforyears
Is that when the ban ends?
Iron Butterfly's Avatar
And he has no qlue with all this mess here, should be epic, I don't think it has been long enough for the "ban"


IB
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In everything else that goes wrong in a relationship it seems that most people think that problems can lay with either the man or the woman and often with both.

But you people here think differently?

When a married man is doing this it is everyone here's opinion that the problem can only lay with the wife?

Why does that not surprise me? You all obviously need to justify it to yourselves.

Good. I should hear no excuses from him and there should be no attempt on his part to say he is sorry or remorseful or sick or that he needs or wants help to deal with things. Simply blame for me in whatever he feels caused him to stray. Ok.

Will the evidence of his cheating, the pictures of him and his women meeting and disappearing into their apartments or the hotel room or the countless emails and text messages back and forth setting up their disgusting meetings result in a determination that it is all my fault?

Do any of you think initial custody of our daughters will land with him instead of me?

LOL! You should all pray your wives never find out.

It's all too late for him now. When he gets back in town Friday he will know it's all over. Originally Posted by faithfulforyears

I don't know. if I were him or his attorney I'd print out how much you are posting on an escort site. And asking for advice. you have got to be kidding me. While this is an entertaining diversion, I would love to know which banned troll either put you up to this or which one you actually are.

Cheers... Little miss .. Mister.
faithfulforyears,
Suggest you read the "Power of NOW"
Can't change other people, but sure can change yourself !!!!

Oh and while you are at it: Also suggest the "5 Agreements"
Might also give you some new perspectives .... Originally Posted by fun2come
Assuming this is a valid thread by a truly hurt SO, Plus +1 on F2C comments.

Recommend that you take charge of your life and live it to the fullest extent possible. Look forward, make new friends, and have a positive plan for the rest of your life and your children.

Start being happy for a half full glass, not a half empty glass. If you don't change you perspectives, sadness and bitterness will haunt the rest of your life. I know of one lady who found her no-good husband cheating, and acted much like you are doing now. 30+ years later, she is still emotionally at the same place and not yet healed. Worse yet, she totally and adversely impacted the lives of children who have yet to find any happiness in their lives as they continue to live in the shadow of their mothers bitterness for which she will not let anyone forget.

So, get over it; if not for your sake, but for the sake of your children. Yes you were done wrong. Can't fix it. Pick up the pieces and move forward with you life. Get what's coming due to you, and make the best of your bad situation. Let your children live normal lives, and not be colored by your sadness and bitterness.
Still Looking's Avatar
In everything else that goes wrong in a relationship it seems that most people think that problems can lay with either the man or the woman and often with both.

But you people here think differently?

When a married man is doing this it is everyone here's opinion that the problem can only lay with the wife?

Why does that not surprise me? You all obviously need to justify it to yourselves.

Good. I should hear no excuses from him and there should be no attempt on his part to say he is sorry or remorseful or sick or that he needs or wants help to deal with things. Simply blame for me in whatever he feels caused him to stray. Ok.

Will the evidence of his cheating, the pictures of him and his women meeting and disappearing into their apartments or the hotel room or the countless emails and text messages back and forth setting up their disgusting meetings result in a determination that it is all my fault?

Do any of you think initial custody of our daughters will land with him instead of me?

LOL! You should all pray your wives never find out.

It's all too late for him now. When he gets back in town Friday he will know it's all over. Originally Posted by faithfulforyears
How old are your daughters?

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How old are your daughters?
Originally Posted by Still Looking
Hahahaha! You ballsy fucker, you went there...

I've enjoyed this thread... If this is a scorned wife, take the points above to heart. My mother was a scorned woman and now, 2 decades later, is still a miserable bitter woman with a mean RBF and attitude to go with it. Don't let others or misery define your life.

However, if it is "he who shall not be named" behind this handle, I hope he stays this way. These posts are lot more entertaining than his traditional rants!
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Faithful,
You are correct that this website is packed with self-centered people.

When I read your posts, I notice that you are too. While your broken heart is a very personal event, you would be wise not to go down the vindication route.

50 years from now, none of this drama will matter in the least. EXCEPT for the lasting effect you are forcing on your children. By depriving them of a second parent you will be lowering their chances of success in life. No matter how much blame you heap on your husband, it does not change the reality that your children's welfare is the most important issue at stake here.

While it may be hard for you to believe, that disgusting spouse really does love his children. If you succeed in depriving him of fatherhood, it is very likely that he won't have the motivation to keep that good paying job and your anticipated gravy train will dry up.

You do have a choice to be the mature, logical person in this break-up, and stand to lose much less by pursuing an amicable settlement rather than throwing money at evil lawyers.

You should also stop consulting your conniving, drama-loving girlfriends and seek guidance from a more stable acquaintance; one who has your children's' interest in mind.

Many of the whores here who lured your husband were once in the same situation you find yourself. Unfortunately, their hubby didn't have the good job, or had multiple addictions. After their worlds were shattered, they didn't have an option other than becoming providers in order to keep their children fed and clothed. Shaming them is not going to change their economic reality, it is only going to further lower their self esteem and possibly prevent them from seeking alternative employment.

You are correct that none of us truly give a f*ck about you here. But we will be living in a world with your kids in it, and would prefer that they be more sane.
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mr peabody swoops in with the voice of reason.
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... rather than throwing money at evil lawyers ... Originally Posted by Mr Peabody

You counsel the OP to not demonize a group of citizens (whores) while doing just that very thing yourself. Curious.
You counsel the OP to not demonize a group of citizens (whores) while doing just that very thing yourself. Curious. Originally Posted by JohnnyYanks
Are you seriously gonna WK for lawyers? Whose next poloticians? I hear those asshloes like rainbows and unicorn's...you know when they are not eating babies.