Especially when the non custodial parent want to be in child life but can't because the other parrents pushes back to make sure there get as much money as possible.
Any thoughts please reply.
Originally Posted by Ripmany
I went through this with my divorce and here is what I learned. In my case I make significantly more than my ex-wife. Best advice I can say is get a lawyer. Good lawyers save you money in the long run. I got one of the better lawyers in my area. She picked one with a free consultation. I'd say keep in mind you're on an escort forum when taking advice.
* Child Support can be calculated on the delta between the parents income. So if you make 100k and she makes 40k, you can calculate support on 60k. Most guys I've talked to don't know this. It's actually pretty standard these days.
* The court system has changed over the years. The mother might still be custodial parent but you can fight for 50/50 and it's a lot easier to get these days.
* If this is happening via divorce you can fight over where the other parent can live. In my case my ex is restricted on the school systems she can live in.
* You can argue who pays for things like day care.
* On the mental health side of things on thing my lawyer told me that helped with the hit of child support. Basically you have no right to know or dictate what that money is spent on outside of a divorce decree. That money is to aid the other parent to provide a better life for the child. This could be by living in a better place, etc. The best thing is to just let it go. It comes out of my paycheck and I never see it.
Good luck. I know this shit sucks.