Combative? I'm simply stating my feelings on the fact that I'm glad I no longer have to worry about running into such clients since I am retired. I wasn't aware that I was no longer able to contribute to this board even though I am retired-especially since none of the mods have either mentioned it nor deleted my post.
Originally Posted by heatherelite
Then I guess it is a good thing you retired, since I think this gentleman's reaction was nothing out of the ordinary.
No one ever said you could not post here, I was just curious is all as to why. What do mods deleting posts have to do with anything?
Actually, you seemed to have completely agreed with me in that it was ridiculous to make an alert on the orignial post. Hope you didn't put any money down on that 6 month bet.
Originally Posted by heatherelite
Not at all. Quite the contrary. I don't know what you were reading. I agreed that perhaps alert was too strong of a word to use, but the sentiment behind the argument for a warning/heads up still stands.
Nope, no money down, but it did make you reply as I expected!
He didn't make the choice to not have a child with her. Yes, it might have been completely unintentional as most accidents are but the fact remains he willingly consented to have sex with her knowing the risks. Birth control is not 100% and if he didn't want to have any children perhaps he should consider a vasectomy just as mush as she should consider a tubal ligation. He made the choice to run away and hide. As you said, we are all aware of the risks so isn't he just as much at fault as she? Yes, she did/or is possibly making the decision to be a single parent should she become pregnant but financially he is still responsible. Not wanting the kid and leaving the possible mother of your child with a tube of spermicide and the morning after pill in not a defense to not paying child support as I'm sure any family court judge will tell you.
Originally Posted by heatherelite
You are making this sound like he is having sex with a girlfriend or wife and a mistake happened. This is called PAY 4 PLAY. Why in the world should he be held responsible because the provider is unwilling to have a backup form of birth control? That is clearly HER choice, not his.
And clients shouldn't take on part of the responsibilty for birth control/STD prevention? Vasectomy, perhaps?
Originally Posted by heatherelite
No problems there...... then shouldn't the provider ALSO take responsibility as in secondary birth control? This is a 2 way street. You can't have your argument both ways!