Ok, I'm horny now! Originally Posted by boardman


Speaking as a woman, I would much rather someone contact me with their concerns about me in an honest, straightforward manner. How can I improve if I do not know where I am lacking? Locker room talk of a negative nature seems to magnify problems beyond reality, and let's be honest - nothing written on the Internet is private if more than two people have access to it. A woman doesn't have to go looking to know how others feel.As far as whether someone can take criticism or what gets said about someone. I discovered along time ago that as long as I limited what I said about someone no matter what the circumstance was to something that I would say to their face I found it worked very well. I wasnt always the greatest one to gossip with or tear someone done about, but I never had to worry about being confronted by someone over something I allegedly said. I was still able to express myself but it sure has made life easier.
One approach is proactive... The other, not so much. I think the assumption is that all women are weak, and will dissolve into tears at any harsh word said to their face. That may be true for some, but it is not true for all, and I don't think hiding in a corner, whether virtual or physical, and chortling at the woman's expense is either helpful to her or healthy for those involved in the chortle-fest.
I suspect the impersonal nature of the hobby, and the anonymity of the boards, play in to this adolescent instinct to reduce women to a collection of parts... Parts are, after all, far less frightening than the whole. Keep in mind, however, that we have all grown up since high school (some more than others), and most of us have evolved beyond that mindset in our real-life interpersonal dealings.
The fact of the matter is that, as much of a subculture this might be, we are all actual human beings, not binary code or fembots or ATMs. It would behoove us all to act that way; if you're not comfortable saying something to someone's face, perhaps you should reevaluate the need to say it. If you are comfortable saying something to someone's face, try doing it in a positive manner so that their mind won't automatically close against what you are saying. If words are not your forte, there's a lovely selection of emoticons to the right. ----------------> Originally Posted by theCFE
Johnny Numbers is still here... But probably not as high profile. (Cue Johnny...) Originally Posted by BatteriesNotIncludedCorrect Bunnyman.