Don't take it personally ladies, Gotyour6 is Eccie's own version of skankhunt42:Look at you coming to the rescue.
http://southpark.cc.com/clips/vz1rs6...2-gets-to-work Originally Posted by Tiny
Look at you coming to the rescue.I call them like I see them. Your posts used to mostly be informative or funny. Now a high percentage make fun of people. Hope you turn away from the dark side and get back to where you used to be.
How cute, maybe she will take 20 off your next visit Originally Posted by Gotyour6
So much anger over definitions and absolutes. So I have been SDing since April or so, I am by no means an expert on the SD/SB relationship or being a hobbyist which I do very little of. These are also the observations of a single guy that doesn't have an SO that I'm stepping out on. By way of disclosure, I've seen Nina a number of times, and have never been disappointed... wocca wocca ;-)
I understand what the other SD's are saying since an arrangement is simply a relationship built on a pre-disclosed agreement. But it is a RELATIONSHIP. It may start out more business like and tentative, but if both partners in that relationship want it to flourish, it will become more about the relationship than the physicality. For the girls I've "mentored" I've found that the amount of sex decreases as we become closer because we're not using sex as a substitute for true intimacy. I've spent way more money on SB's than I would for the equivalent relations with a provider. Maybe that means I suck at this, but I actually enjoy helping the girls. I just sold a spare car to a girl for zero dollars because she is a teacher and has to get to work... she borrowed it for 2 months and I finally just signed it over to her. The happiness in her face was genuine and maybe she could fake it, but I have a better view of humanity than to think that. She's a kid that came out of Foster care and got to school on scholarship... if she can stay out of poverty because I helped, then it's worth all the BJ's I didn't get to do so. A good SD cares about his girls and wants them to attain their goals.
I think what the other guys are saying is that a Provider cannot successfully be an SB because they have already wired their thought process to the $/hr paradigm. I refuse to to do PPM, I don't even like the term allowance anymore, I would prefer just to pay some of their bills for them, take them shopping, and give them gifts. Just like I would a regular GF. I REALLY wise girl could get away with sex 1-2x a month as long as she was cuddly, touchy, and appreciative (Hey it's my language of love thing). But if you think it's getting away with something, then you're probably not going to be a very good SB... it shouldn't seem like a chore to do something for a man that's taking care of your needs. A good SB wants her daddy to enjoy every minute he's with her regardless of whether they are in the bedroom or not.
I honestly don't know if a provider could back out of that mindset... anything is possible so I never say never, I just think it would be difficult. I've had a provider offer to be an SB, but I did think well, how do I know I'm her SD and not a john getting taken?
At the end of the day an SD/SB relationship is one where both parties think they are getting the best deal... and they are both right.
I really enjoy mentoring the girls... maybe because I didn't have kids of my own, so if any ladies want answers to questions about the SB thing feel free to PM me...always willing to help, but of course I offer no guarantees! Originally Posted by texassapper