Can Anyone Love A Hooker?

Well said Pounder !

I have dated while doing body rubs & now escorting. I was always honest right out of the gate because I didn't want to blindside em & have a more negative reaction later on down the road for lying or hiding it. But I have also successfully pulled off a polyamorous relationship for a few years in the past -so I guess I just have experience alternative relationships/lifestyles. I've also accepted though that when dating someone whether your doing this, body rubs, dancing, porn or webcam that many times the relationship is casual or if its more than casual than it might be open. While I'm doing this I feel that it wouldn't be fair for myself to expect a SO to be monogamous. But if that's the route taken then that opens up the discussion of what each party is comfortable accepting or whats ok & whats not ok. Strangely enough, I dated waaaay bigger assholes/abusers when I was just a dancer & younger -once I dove into bodyrubs & full service I noticed that while some that have ultimately decided to date me still were nicer. Maybe it weeds em out or I was just lucky at that time? Who knows.

The one thing I can def say is never talk about work or professional life no matter which adult service your in w/ your SO unless of course your dating a fellow sex worker then hey vent fests & shop talk is a blessing at that point lol Originally Posted by Gabby_Belle

Interestingly put. :-)

I don’t think I could. Not knowing if it’s fantasy or reality on either part. The mixed emotions and head games are both strong on either side. Then the baggage it comes with. Perhaps her kids and bills.

I agree, most escorts use their body as a means for survival, but in the end with her final decision, would it be love or survival? Would it be a trade-sex for stability?

Either way I opt for a NO.

Interesting thread.. I’ve really enjoyed reading and relate to many aspects. For me.. I fell for an UTR provider one time. I’ve had many different feelings about the women I’ve seen in the hobby over the years. I think many men hate to see a woman they care about make a living with her body. Honestly it fucks with a mans head or at least most of us. It makes us feel like we need to save you. When in most cases you are where you want to be. Personally I think if I were to date a provider I would always question her motives or if she was manipulating the relationship. As I’ve learned many things about women and myself with my participation in the hobby. Women like the money and the attention wheather it’s in the hobby world or other wise. I think the hobby teaches us how to be deceptive and lie as it’s the nature of the beast. So No I don’t think I could date a woman that was a provider. I just don’t think I could mentally prepare myself. However I do think people can fall in love.. I just think it’s best not to know. I once had a provider say if I had only met you anywhere but here.

Can someone? Yes. Good idea? No. Personally i’ve had enough bad relationships. I’m scared to love anyone now.

I agree with pounder we all humans and anything is possible. It just takes an willingness to communicate with each other and respect the others feelings it could work.

And I also understand how many would not be able to handle it.

I was married for almost 2 decades. I spent all my time and money with her only to be left alone and she still gets my money and I get no pussy at all. Don't see much difference.

I don’t think I could. Not knowing if it’s fantasy or reality on either part. The mixed emotions and head games are both strong on either side. Then the baggage it comes with. Perhaps her kids and bills.

I agree, most escorts use their body as a means for survival, but in the end with her final decision, would it be love or survival? Would it be a trade-sex for stability?

Either way I opt for a NO. Originally Posted by australian_hell_yun

well said



I recently loved a sugarbaby. I read some of the posts on here and they are soul crushing.

My story is a little different, I can't give to many details because first I don't want her knowing I shared this and second I don't want anyone finding out who she is.

So I met her on SA almost instantly after moving to Nashville (my boss and business partner is a brilliant man sending me here). Her profile was great I mean this woman is model/movie star beautiful, accomplished, successful, the works. I ended up losing touch with her but found her again about a week or so later. I get banned a lot on SA because I'm aggressive and don't like wasting time.

We talk and exchange some more "personal" pics, she wants me to take her out but I tell her nah, no chance, your pics are probably fake the things you say you do and have accomplished are all bullshit I'm sure so not a chance. I tell her we can meet in public if she wants and then go back to my place if all is well. I really regret treating her this way. She tell me she will meet me at my apartmentment and cook us dinner. Ok cool.

When I saw her she was even better in person. I can tell by the first look if a women would sleep with me, she wouldn't but I grow on people so I don't worry to much about it. And at this point I'm thinking I'll just see if she will let me pay to hit it once or twice and be board like usual anyway and never talk to her again.

All goes well and our relationship takes off like a fucking rocket. We were both completely blindsided by how quick things progressed.

One day I had to take her some equipment she had forgotten at her apartment, shes a professional athlete. I went to her training facility and when I saw her I felt that feeling and knew instantly, holy fuck I love her. It scared the shit out of me and my heart started aching. We were still trying to keep it hidden at this point because we are both married but all I wanted to do was hold and kiss her. It was so hard to have to pretend to be just a friend. I never said a word about it and on the way home she called me and expressed exactly what I had felt, she felt it too. She loved me.

We broke up, both our faults, on my end I was jealous and always accusing her. I could never fully trust her because of how we met. She was the same way, anytime she thought I cheated, she said she could feel it, lol bitch was dead on too cause every time she thought I did, I did lol. She would get back at me in some way. It didn't end to bad, no one took advantage of each other in a financial way. Both our hearts were broken though.

In hindsight she was straight up the whole time and honest. There are details that gave it away that I can't go into because it could tip her off that this is about her. I didn't see it at the time because I was in the gist of it and suspicious of everything. But hindsight is always 20/20 I guess. I wasn't always honest though and did cheat on her.

So one of my good friends I work with just happens to have a friend that is friends with her on facebook so she can see all her comments that are private and all that, the ones the public can't see. When she showed me I broke down and cried (yeah I'm a pussy). I couldn't believe she was as hurt as me and talking about how much she missed me and she was fighting off a nervous breakdown. It's horrible to laugh but she was looking up ways on how to deal with loss and breakups lol.

I'm happy for the experience, I'm grateful to have loved again. It did hurt no doubt but I'm of the mind I'd rather to have loved and lost than never loved at all. I traveled all over the country to watch her games, she did the same for my motocross races. We went out a few times a week, it was an amazing relationship.

For a long time I'm keeping my guard up though. I'm lucky she was a good person because I could see how that on one side could completely destroy someone if taken advantage of.

I was lucky but my advice is keep a good lock and key on that heart because most of the time it's not a good person you're involved with and that goes for both males and females.

I've promised a lot of sugar babys and hookers the world, dress up nice let them see my fancy apartment my nice bikes and fleet of dirt bikes, nice big truck. Fuck them twice and block their number. It's part of the game.

In the end it always comes down to the same issues, jealousy and insecurity. This thought that we own another person, body and soul. I have never dated a provider, but had a successful and happy open marriage for many years because we trusted each other and addressed any concerns openly and honestly wiitbout any passive aggressiveness. I do agree the hobby adds an element of baggage, but that equally true of the civie world these days. I see a lot if talk of the women wanting to be taken care of and men wanting women to give up their lives to be kept. Thats not a romantic relationship thats a parent and child. No one should be dependent on anyone for a life. Love is easy, partnership takes work and nuting up as an adult. Life is short and fleeting at best. Anyone who deines any chance for joy and discovery is gonna turn into an old person with a shitload of regrets and shoulda woulda couldas. I have been burt in the past but I wouldn’t change one second. True wisdom is built on a mountain of dumbass mistakes. Some of us are just a little higher up the slope. But I still slip sometimes lol

I get asked all the time to date. I was even asked to do marriage and have his babies
And these weren't words he was very very serious. Actions before and afterwards showed it.

I have had people tell their Moms about me and their Moms actually ask how I'm doing... So yes. People "Can Love a Hooker" just like a "Hooker" can love a client...

I don't really pay attention to it too much because it's mostly just the idea of me their infatuated with. You know nothing about me but what I tell you.

I do have one client I would date if that was ever asked by him.

Hmmm. Shows you must be pretty awesome. Judging off your latest pic, you’d probably give me a heart attack. lol

I am not a jealous person. My wife never cheated on me, but she has fucked a lot of guys while we dated, and after we married. As long as I know about it, it isn't cheating. I am not the jealous type. I am not the worry wart who thinks she may be cheating when she really isn't.
If it's love, it's love, no matter what a lady's occupation is.
It's not love or not a good relationship, if it is a one way relationship. Both people have to be comfortable with the other person before they enter the relationship. If you are not comfortable with their job or any of the quirky things they do, then don't fall in love with that person. Have a good time but don't fall in love.

Very interesting thread. For me, personally, I'm hobbying more so for closeness than the actual sex. So I have to remind myself constantly that I'm entering a world of make believe. I have to respect that I'm going to see what I want to see in a provider, and I have to respect her boundaries as a provider and stay on my side of the fence, as it were. That is, making a conscious effort not to get unreasonably attached to a fantasy.

I enjoy the companionship, and closeness, and cuddling, and conversation. I enjoy the intimacy more than just the physical release, and this puts me in a strange category in this hobby (I guess). For that hour or two or afternoon or whatever, I immerse myself in the experience. But I consciously remind myself before and after that I'm entering a world of make-believe so that I show the proper respect and emotional distance outside of our sessions.

If a woman has chosen to spend her time with me and make herself available to me in some of the most intimate ways imaginable, I must respect what a gift that is, whether I paid for it or not.

Anyway, thanks for letting me get that off my chest. LOL

Nice post ragin Cajun. You rock dude

The short answer is
YES !

- but it ain't easy !



I wouldn't attempt it !