You've been messing with the wrong ladies if you ask me. If your ACTUALLY screening and looking for the right ladies, you wouldn't have got burnt in the first place. U put yourself in that situation. Those ladies didn't call u , you called them.
Originally Posted by Nina_Love
You may be right about the wrong ladies and the same can be said about your screening of the guys you see and having to get the money up front from them. Afraid they may burn you? well, if you ACTUALLY screened him thoroughly, then you would have very little to worry about him, not only fucking you out of your money, but also disrespecting you BCD.
To be honest, even the best screening methods are not foolproof, so to sit there and say that someone got burned is their fault is ludicrous. Even after taking every precaution to stay safe, you can still get burned, and that is on both sides of the proverbial fence, that is just the nature of the business, so really, all you can do when it happens is report it and move on.
The reason for my opinion to pay after is a precaution that I am not going to get burned by the provider not performing, and since it has happened to me, not just on one, but several occasions, I will never prepay again. There are valid arguments on both sides, but mine is this: let's say a hobbyist does not prepay, then, in his opinion, the provider does an outstanding service and he does not pay her at all and leaves. If he really did enjoy his time, he would probably like to see her again in the future, but since he stiffed her (no pun intended), then obviously that is not going to happen, so it does not make sense to not pay the provider as finding a provider who consistently performs her BCD services at a high level, and sometimes even once, is really tough and a pretty rare find, so why would a normal guy want to screw that up?
IMO, the providers who demand prepayment before services rendered (if they even do anything to begin with) are more than likely the ones that at the very most from the hobbyist's perspective, underwhelm, knowing that if she does not get her full fee upfront, then she may not get it later. Although that position of paying for the services rendered would be understandable given the situation, it is not right, a provider should always get her full fee, but if that customer is not satisfied, report it in a review and not see her again. But, what is also not right is the provider can and many times is YMMV on her services just because, while the hobbyist cannot be YMMV on the donation.
To sum it up, legit and valid arguments can be made for and against prepaying. Other than what berkleigh said, there is no perfect answer that will make both parties happy.
My opinion its easier to get ripped off without getting your donations first. He can always walk out or play the let me go to the atm logo.Once I have my donations, ain't no way in hell he gone "snatch it back" . no no no not in my house.
Originally Posted by Nina_Love
There would be no reason for a normal hobbyist to snatch that donation back UNLESS you decided that since you already have the money, you do not perform, and cash & dash happens more than you think, as does the guys that do not pay or short her. You just never know.
& let me clear this up. I dont get my donations first because I been burnt before I just do it just because I haven't had a problem with it. How I like to think of it "My Pussy, My Rules" logo & it is your fault u got burnt. I never got ripped out of donations before? (Maybe reviews but DEFINITELY NOT donations ever ever ever ever) Maybe your doing something wrong because not ALL providers bullshit in there session & not ALL hobbyist like to play the provider.