This was the best response from the Elves. It also seems to be the only one given by Ella. No one knows who the other responses have been from.Red, a very thoughtful analysis to the situation. It's a shame really that it has come down to all this. I very much appreciate everyone's support. The guys know what it's like to be NS/d at the last minute. (Man, that blue pill is starting to take effect!) The ladies also get NS/d and they hate it too.
I would rather have a rescheduled date than a poor one, because the lady is sick, her mind is obviously elsewhere, or she is extremely tired. The poor date left unexplained will receive not a return from me. The canceled date will quite likely eventually see me reschedule, depending on my interest and how I was canceled. Assuming that you were completely exhausted, it is good that you made that decision to cancel (maybe you could have asked him to reschedule in your text message with 90 minutes for the rate of 60 or a discounted rate for an hour). In fact, it is really professional. So it would be a good example to the new girl of realizing one's limitations and showing her how to go about keeping a client happy and not trying to see guys past exhaustion.
I am not saying that you did drop him for another client or better opportunity, Ella. I take you at your word that you became exhausted suddenly. And Jans has the reputation of wearing out the ladies.I would say, however, that I would rather have a lady tell me straight-up that I just got bumped for an all-night date or free tickets to see the Back Street Boys or whatever than hear, "Something came up." I wouldn't like it one bit. But I would respect her for the truth. And if she showed some appreciation of my inconvenience and I really want to see her, I would reschedule. Again, I am not saying that you, Ella, were or did anything other than be exhausted. One lady, a favorite of mine, canceled on me twice. She was upfront about it. Both times, she gave me an excuse which made sense and I accepted. She did what she could to offer me some consolation. It slowed me a little from finally meeting her, but when I did, she rocked my world. It remains one of my best paid dates.
What is weak is that you appeared to the client to be fine at 7:50 but then at 8:00 said that something came up. Perhaps a preemptive warning earlier about a long drive and being tired would have helped. Maybe kindly request him to bring an energy drink or be ready to massage your sore body. Then at 8, text him that you are exhausted rather than 'something came up'. [I will assume that this is indeed roughly the message that he got and that you were indeed exhausted and not blowing him off for something else or another appointment. I take people at their word, until they have discredited themselves.] 'Something came up' leaves his mind to fill in the details. It is an excuse that is easy to disbelieve. Guys start wondering whether they were double booked, another guy offered more money for the slot, a well-known VIP client took the spot, or a guy arranged for a 2+ hour date. And yes, you did say that he did not text back to get details. Maybe he was driving. Maybe he was frustrated. I, myself, would text back for further info. That doesn't stop you from sending him further texts or a PM elucidating the matter and hopefully desiring to make-up for his inconvenience.
Try this text: "I am so sorry. I had a long drive all day and exhaustion is suddenly catching up. Please lets re-schedule, with a extra benefit to you. Would you like an extra half-hour for your inconvenience? Tomorrow? I promise to leave you more exhausted than this. I look forward to making this up to you."
Something like that might have won you another good client and another good review. Originally Posted by Redwolf
As I stated in my very 1st post, my initial reaction to the cancellation was not anger but disappointment. I wasn't going to respond to the text because there was nothing left to say. It said basically, "I'm cancelling your appt. but feel free to reschedule if you want". Who would respond to such a cold impersonal text? What could I say? "Please Ella Please. I've waited so long to see you, please allow me to reschedule at your convenience?"
I had heard Ella was a very TCB lady and had read instances of her going the extra mile. I would have been receptive to the example of a response Red notes above but it didn't happen. And I do think it was very rude to lead me on at 7:15 and again at 7:50 that the appt. was good. Sometimes you have to trust people but trust can only go so far. I find it hard to believe fatigue overcame her at the very last minute but that's their story and they're stickin' to it.
Ella's response noted above was better than the other ones but I suspect Ella has had a hand in all of the responses tgegirls have posted. I find it inconceivable that they could continue this long without her knowledge/approval. If she really felt the responses could hurt her in KC, I'm sure she could put a stop to them.
Oh well, I used the money I would have spent with Ella on a lovely local lady and gave her a glowing review. Could have been you Ella and this whole fiasco would never have happened.
