This thread has made me wonder about how we decide what is and is not acceptable behavior. I quote MsElena not because she is the only one to express this type of view, but because she stated it the most eloquently.
Why does the attractiveness and/or decency of the person involved make an attack unacceptable? It's important here to make a distinction between posts about finding the provider attractive, which is a difference of opinion in a matter of taste, and citing the provider's attractiveness as a reason not to malign them.
(Whether that attack is merely perceived or is real makes no difference for this part of the discussion since my thoughts are about the reasons given for the defense.)
Would singling out a lady who was not widely respected be less of a breach of civility? If a gal trully was ugly, would that make it OK to disparage her?
I don't have received wisdom from on high, I'm just a guy with an opinion and an asshole just like everyone else. It seems to me that our reaction as a society that it's not OK to dis someone because they are a decent person is inherently unfair to non-decent persons. If an action is not acceptable to one, I think it is not acceptable to all. A person's humanity should be enough to protect them from harm.
Originally Posted by googol^googol
Good post and agree with you 110%.
That being out of the way, let's now define good looking and ugly.
I submit that there is no "true" definition of such because as should be obvious through this thread, it's all subject to individual interpretation. Sure there is a socially acceptable "norm", but that varies from culture to culture, and region to region. So let's not even go there.
If we can agree that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, then the next part of the mathematical proof moves onto "harm" and "humanity".
What is "harm" and "humanity"? Who is responsible for establishing an entity's reputation, and who's responsible for its subsequent harm/demise ?
Many factors are at play in any real life scenario. In all instances, the business owner has the decision making power, and therefore has the most DEGREE of control.
The owner/s are subject to varied market influxes, in whatever shape and form it rears its ugly head. And how they respond to these variables is what determines their degree of success or demise.
We become WHAT WE MAKE AN EFFORT towards, or we become the complacent, the meek and the needy. The the answer to success lies not in today, but is more of a journey towards maturity: "How much of myself, my actions and consequences am I consciously willing to be responsible for ?". And this, I believe, is a lifelong destination.
As a business owner, pointing fingers is equivalent to relying on dumb luck.